To ask how you deal with tantrums in public?

[Amy214]

How do you deal with tantrums in public? I used to get really embarrased and just bundled up dd and ran out of there as fast as possible. Now i just let dd have her tantrum all over the floor whilst i stand back, i found that if i intervene and try and calm her down it just makes her worse and she ends up hurting herself sometimes i even tell her im leaving now goodbye and she gets up and runs after me (of course i always stay within 5 meters and i can see her) i try and ignore the whispers but i am aware of the looks and it really annoys me. Why cant people just mind their own business and get on with what they are doing?

How old is she anyway?

Stand within a safe distance tutting at another woman so everyone judges her instead of you.

I am so trying this out next time!

Shes two (walking since 9/10 months old)

I would say she is too young to walk around for that length of time.l and this might be her only way of objecting. Is it possible you cd leave he with someone while you do the shopping in peace? Ignore the judge tea, although I know this is easier said than done. When my son had a tantrum, many years ago, one helpful lady told me mid-tantrum that I shd 'slap the living daylights out of him'! What I shd have done was told her to fuck off. It will pass I promise. My son is almost human these days.

I had to develop a thick skin, quick, when my second son started showing signs of autism. Well I say "showing signs" - he screamed all day, every day, for several years. The shopping still had to get done, etc.

People could give me all the dirty looks they wanted - I truly didn't give a toss.

Of my other kids, only No 4 was a proper flailer. (Still is, and he's 15).

Having only one I did have the luxury of picking up and going but I also brought with me snacks, made sure dc wasn't tired when we went out and had soft toys/books with us when we went out too.

Oh how easy!

So when you've got two or more, you have to go somewhere whether they're tired or not, you give them toys or books and they launch them at someone (with great accuracy), they're big and heavy and very difficult to wrestle with (whilst keeping your eye on the others who don't, sadly, always do what they're told) and leaving them to bang their heads on concrete isn't an option, how do you manage that?
Oh, and they're not talking yet, so you can't actually ask them what the problem is...

Thank god they're all grown up now!!

I know its because she doesnt have the same freedom as she does at home

I would reconsider the shopping centre visits, how essential are 3h there? That is at least a quarter of her waking hours aged 2 doing something really boring and exhausting on a short rein.

Pop into a shop, sure. 3h trip no way, you're getting off lightly with 5 tantrums. Mine would have been screaming murder at that (I would, too).

Firstly, get down to his level and say 'NO'. Then 'the look'.

This usually works.

If that doesn't work, very rarely, I immediately get out of there.

I don't really take him shopping anyway. It takes miles longer and he can get cranky. Too many people and too much going on. I don't get why some people see the Sunday Big Shop as a family outting (mum, dad, 3 kids in tow)

Took her food shopping today with her new longer reigns and there was no tantrums. She did get a bit impatient on the money coming out of the self scanner but she got £1 to use on the kiddy ride for being good. Like i said it only takes so long because she wants to look at everything and i let her. I did think that because she had short reigns she probably didnt feel as free but the new ones are 2 maybe 3 feet long so if i walk fast when shes running shes not being pulled back. I cant leave her behind when we go shopping as i dont have anyone to look after her.