AIBU to ask you to STOP

[Dawndonnaagain]

using the term 'autistics'. Four fucking times this weekend on different threads. You mean person with autism, people with autism, child with autism. Autistics is not shorthand for any of those. Pack it in.

If a person with autism decides to call themelf 'an autistic' it's fuck all of your business to stop them.

YANBU at ALL

But you do realise you'll be accused of being Professionally Offended and a member of the "SN Brigade"

I agree. People probably wouldn't use the terms: blinds, disableds, dyslexics etc.

I also hate terms like 'dyspraxic boy' as if that's the thing that defines him.

Several people on those threads described themselves as autistic.

You can't tell others what the can and can't say about themselves.

Or you'll get told it's Fuck All to do with you.

And of course there will also be remarks about the way "political correctness" stops people saying what they want to say.

Proacrastinator As someone with Autism who teaches Doctors about Autism, I have NEVER heard a person with Autism refer to themselves as 'an autistic'. Oh, and before you decide to reply to a thread like this try a little research.

What if a person with autism describes themselves as autistic?

People sometimes need schooling if you like on the preferred phrases.

Oh, and if they do, it's up to them and not everyone else.

I have Dawn.

I have aspergers. I hate all the terms you have deemed 'acceptable'. I have aspergers, it's a massive part of who I am. I feel that 'person with...' Makes it sound like a disease.

The only time I have seen 'autistics' recently is when someone was referring not to themselves. In which case, Yabu to tell people what they can and can not label themselves.

Sorry x-post. My friend refers to himself as autistic. Not sure if I should give you his phone number so you can check that though.

What if a person with autism describes themselves as autistic? Then they are a person with autism, not 'an autistic'.

My darling brother whispers it.

'I do feel very anxious but that's my autism'

Curren. I refer to myself as an Aspie. That's my choice.

Sorry Dawndonna, but my friend finds your terminology offensive. He would be offended if you referred to him as "a person with autism".

Exactly that's your choice and if someone choose to refer to themselves as an autistic. That's up them too.

If some refers to you in a way your NT like. Tell them you prefer them not use that phrase.

I have seen anyone use in regards to other people. But I do think Yabu to tell everyone what they only acceptable phrases are. That's not your decision.

Are you also this rude to the many posters who continually say, "My child is ASD"?

I know a few people with autism, including a child and a close friend. I shall tell them that they are no longer allowed to call themselves autistic and refer them to this thread.
what do you think of the title of Daniel stefanski book?

I too describe myself as Autistic, or Aspie, Milk. Try reading the OP again. I'm talking about describing people with Autism as a group. Autistics is not a collective noun. The Deaf Community don't call each other 'the deafs' do they?

When somebody says they are autistic, they mean I have Autism.
Autistics is not a collective noun* Do we get it now?

I don't think I've ever seen reference to "an autistic".
I would refer to myself as autistic, but not as an autistic.

There was some research done, I think the conclusion was that people with autism preferred to refer to themselves as autistic rather than having autism, but when it came to parents and experts, they preferred with autism rather than autistic.

Then again, I have described ds as asthmatic, an asthmatic and has asthma.

I think what 'we' are getting, is that you're coming across as extremely rude and rather petulant tbh.

You'll catch a lot more flies with honey...

I use person first language when talking about my child with autism or other people with autism.

But some people with autism I have encountered prefer disability first such as autistic person.

My intention is never to offend and I will never win 100 per cent of the time.