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get it out before she pops 2

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littlemaemae · 02/04/2016 00:35

Following on from aibu to take dd3 to a&e

OP posts:
Chickpeachick0 · 02/04/2016 07:46

I know you must be exhausted but Mrs Nutella is right .
Hope someone is there to support you a bit today OP .

bakeoffcake · 02/04/2016 07:46

So the Dr actually said he will wait until she is a medical emergency before he does anything?Shock Angry

Tell the staff you are writing everything down, that you feel your child is being neglected and that you WILL be making a complaint.

Libitina · 02/04/2016 07:48

Have you seen a colorectal consultant? If not, ask for one.

Nobodyspecialanymore · 02/04/2016 07:50

Can you get her to Leicester hospital? You are doing so well, I'm so upset on your behalf! How scary for you!

SophieofShepherdsBush · 02/04/2016 07:50

Would the staff at the hospital take her any more seriously if they knew this was being played out in the public eye, ie mumsnet? Do hospitatals have PR/publicity departments that might be very interested in this thread?

40somethingwonderful · 02/04/2016 07:51

Can't believe this is still going on. ☹️☹️

Catsize · 02/04/2016 07:51

I cannot believe that Dr. He absolutely would NOT leave his kid like that. She IS an emergency! I am so sorry OP. You must feel so crushed. It is hard to maintain your fight when tired etc., but please take strength from all of us thinking of you.

SquidgeyMidgey · 02/04/2016 07:52

When you went back last night I really thought they would do something. I can't believe how badly your little girl is being let down. I agree with the others to dig your heels in and refuse to leave until you've spoken to a consultant, identified the cause, and hopefully got it moving. Thinking of you x

Footle · 02/04/2016 07:52

But she already is a medical emergency.

MiaowTheCat · 02/04/2016 07:52

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Sirzy · 02/04/2016 07:53

I agree with others when they discharge you drive her straight to the next nearest hospital. I don't know the area but do any have specific peads a and e departments?

DontLetMeLetYouGo · 02/04/2016 07:53

I'd reiterate that your not leaving until your DD has passed something or she has had the appropriate investigations. I work within a ward environment and we aren't allowed to discharge patients who haven't passed a bowel movement in 5 days. We then wait till they have due to the risks.

I'd mention complaining to the heads above, pals, find the number of the chief exec of the hospital or nursing executive etc and tell them how unsatisfied you are.

Justputyourshoesonnow · 02/04/2016 07:57

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Gileswithachainsaw · 02/04/2016 07:57

this is fucking ridiculous. like hell they would leave their child like that.

amd as for letting her get sepsis befire they give her an.xray, well that's just bull shit.

just what o's their problem i don't understand. if her gut is twisted it could literally be dying and rotting inside her and all the movicol in the world will do nothing Angry

I actually really want to join a bunch of MNETTERS in a hospital sit in or something.

londonrach · 02/04/2016 07:59

Mae im shocked this is still going on. Id expect poo but now or the hospital to do something. Agree with others get difficult, refse to leave. If forced drive to next hospital. Do you need anything. Can a rl friend pop over to support you as you must be exhaustive, I wish i was closer. Start writing everyone you see names down. Fingers crossed mini mae is poo free later. Keep fighting. Xx

londonrach · 02/04/2016 08:00

Giles me too!!! Suggest all in suits looking like lawyers!

Cagliostro · 02/04/2016 08:01

:(

Headofthehive55 · 02/04/2016 08:02

My DD has had all the tests as you all seem to think are necessary but the treatment plan remains the same, and even though we have been under a paed gastro consultant, we very much have the same order of treatment as the ops DD has. Now my DD has never been septic, well not since she was tiny, but if she was to remain in hospital in case of, she'd be living there!

It is horrible op, I do sympathise. Unfortunately I don't think there is a magic wand.

Catsize · 02/04/2016 08:03

I did wonder about us all ringing in giles but the phones would get jammed.

My partner was in hospital for five days at a similar age for this after my MIL was fobbed off repeatedly. And she was nowhere near as bad as this poor little girl.

Badders123 · 02/04/2016 08:03

DO NOT LET THEM SEND YOU HOME
GET ONTO PALS
START THE CONPLAINT PROCESS

ivykaty44 · 02/04/2016 08:03

Leicester children's department has a terrible, awful set up and I certainly wouldn't want to be moving thier. I know a consultant lead that worked there

Ifiwasabadger · 02/04/2016 08:04

De lurking as your original thread stayed with me. I don't live in the uk any more and the treatment (or severe lack of it) that you are getting from the NHS is truly shocking.

Thinking of you and desperately hoping you get some decent help soon.

And please ignore that total cock, perfumed. Last thing you need!

randdom · 02/04/2016 08:05

I am sorry that you are going through this at the moment. You clearly care a lot about your daughter and that shows through your posts. I have read through your previous thread and I am not surprised that you are exhausted.

Disimpaction when a child is really very constipated is difficult. It can be a long winded process but in most cases a combination of a lot of movicol and in some cases a few enemas will eventually result in a bowel movement. While it may seem like you have given this a try from my reading of the last thread you have only been giving the higher doses of movicol at max for a couple of days (as before you were struggling to get her to take them) and she has only had one enema.

I don't think that this discussion of her being septic is hugely helpful. She has been examined by multiple doctors in the last 24-48 hours and has had her temperature, heart rate, breathing rate etc. None of these things have indicated sepsis (which is a specific diagnosis) or they would have acted on it.

I am also not entirely sure that pushing for an abdominal x-ray is going to be helpful. They know that she is very constipated (up to her ribs) and as long as she is passing wind (meaning that she isn't obstructed (completely blocked)) what they see on the x-ray isn't going to change treatment.

If I were in your situation I would ask to wait to be seen on the consultant ward round (paediatrics is one of the specialities where there will be a consultant going round every day). Explain that you are worried and that you aren't coping with doing this at home on your own. Ask if they can admit her to do it in hospital. This would mean that she can be monitored so that if she did get worse they could act on it quickly and also that you could get some support from the nursing staff who will have done this before. You could also ask whether a medication like buscopan (if she hasn't had it before) is suitable in her age as that will help with the painful cramps that she is having.

I agree that being firm in expressing just how worried you are is good and also pushing for admission so that she can be monitored while they try to get things going is a good idea.

Jitterybug · 02/04/2016 08:06

I can't believe what a terrible time you and your poor dd are going through. You are doing so well Mae, I suspect there will be a few more battles today, good luck, stay strong.

Headofthehive55 · 02/04/2016 08:07

Totally agree randdom

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