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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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to think look to see if you can help and if you can't move along now.

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Skrewt · 31/03/2016 16:45

I was in the supermarket just now and reached to take a bottle for a shelf. Further along the shelf a glass bottle fell and smashed on the floor. Don't know whether I was responsible or not (I want to say not but realise it doesn't matter) but I turned immediately to look for a member of staff to help clean it up. I was aware of a woman standing next to me glaring at me and another behind me with her jaw ajar but was focused on getting help as there was broken glass on the floor. Caught the eye of someone and said "A bottle has smashed on the floor" He jumped up, sealed off the area and began to clean up, I went to move off and continue my shopping. Glaring Woman was still looking me up and down so I looked at her and she says: I am waiting for an apology (there were two specks of liquid on her shoes from the bottle). I muttered "Oh I'm sorry" but I am soooooo upset. I have been in a situation before where someone's child broke a bottle and she didn't know what to do and I said don't worry these things happen I'll go and get someone to help. So, AIBU to think that in any crises you look to see if you can help and if you can then do so but if you can't then back the f off and take your slack-jawed yokel friends with you. (In defence I am very pre-menstrual and this incident may not have even registerd with me on a different day so maybe I just need a grip)

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ImogenTubbs · 31/03/2016 17:23

YANBU. She sounds like someone who doesn't have enough going on in her life to get affronted by that. Unless they were very special shoes....

bluespiral · 31/03/2016 17:26

What was in the bottle? Was it alcohol because that does stink and it's not nice to get it on you. I wasn't particularly impressed when somebody dropped a load of lager near me recently in a supermarket and it went all over my boots.

Twitterqueen · 31/03/2016 17:31

Generally, people don't actually make things fall on purpose. Especially not bottles from a shelf.

And when it does happen, it's called an ACCIDENT

OP, YANBU. Woman was obviously being an entitled idiot.

DixieNormas · 31/03/2016 17:34

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lovelychops · 31/03/2016 17:39

Ignore ! Even if it was meths it was an accident.
People who stare and react this way are very sparse on things going on in their own lives. Like wankers who clap or go 'whey hey' when someone drops a glass in a bar.

hownottofuckup · 31/03/2016 17:47

Silly sod. Ignore her, no one reasonable and happy would behave like that.

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Skrewt · 31/03/2016 17:54

Thanks all. It was lemonade and I did not - as she seemed to think - fling the bottle at her. Though I was tempted to throw the next one and aim better!

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NellysKnickers · 31/03/2016 17:57

Oh ignore her, accidents happen.

ollieplimsoles · 31/03/2016 17:58

"I'm waiting for an apology"

..."I'm sorry you were born with that face.?"

Yanbu

WhatTimeIsItCuckoo · 31/03/2016 19:04

It wasn't Waitrose was it?? I had an experience there when my small son, after being impeccably behaved all the way round the supermarket, had a melt down at the tills and the reaction of the surrounding of a certain age customers was awful. I was in tears and didn't go in there again for months. These things happen and it was an accident. Agree, some people have far too much time on their hands and would rather be mean/judgemental than offer help .

BeautyQueenFromMars · 31/03/2016 19:18

Ollieplimsolls You have just made me LOL!

OP She was the one with the problem, not you. Try to put it out of your mind.

CigarsofthePharoahs · 31/03/2016 19:44

WhatTime - My Mum shopped there when I was growing up. My brother dropped a large bottle of bleach one day and that was embarrassing, especially as we had to walk home. Thankfully, my Mum is rather immune to middle class angsty-ness.
YANBU unless it was actually ketchup and she was covered head to foot.

WhatTimeIsItCuckoo · 31/03/2016 20:13

Lol Cigars. When my son had his meltdown I not only had to endure people staring at us in horror/disgust/disbelief but as I got out to the car park and was frantically unloading my shopping whilst he was still screaming, a lady again of a certain age stood staring at us then literally just swished away. I say 'swished' as she had on a swishy skirt and very deliberately swished it way from us like we were completely heinous/disgusting to her. Sort of funny now looking back but at the time it was very humiliating. OP, wherever it was some people are just snobs crap. Honestly pay no attention .

CigarsofthePharoahs · 31/03/2016 20:44

It was the 80's, the white splashes all up his jeans were probably quite fashionable looking!

WhatTimeIsItCuckoo · 31/03/2016 20:55

MeadowHay · 31/03/2016 22:05

No YANBU. That lady was a stupid fart. I am so sorry you felt stressed and upset. It was an accident, these things happen. That lady needs to get a life.

SistersOfPercy · 31/03/2016 23:07

Over the summer I was in lidl and wearing fairly open ballet pumps when the guy in the queue behind me dropped a huge jar of mayonnaise. I had shattered glass all over my foot as well as mayonnaise and was actually bleeding.
He looked at me, walked off and returned about thirty seconds later with another jar, looked at the mess in the floor and me mopping up mayonnaise and blood from my foot and went to the next till.

I realise it was an accident but in that case an apology or at least some acknowledgement that he'd hurt me would have been great.
In your case op she needs to get a grip.

Twitterqueen · 01/04/2016 14:07

Ollieplimsolls
I am writing that one down for future use!

FullMoonDiva · 01/04/2016 14:15

'I'm sorry I didn't accidentally aim better, next time I will'

Elle80 · 01/04/2016 14:19

YANBU! Definitely not! She sounds like an utter arsehole

OurBlanche · 01/04/2016 14:24

I know that woman, Skrewt Really I do!

I fumbled a jar of Branston's pickle, you have no idea how far up and down an asile that stuff can travel, or how fast! I parked my trolley over the impact point, found amember of staff and waited until he came back with the cleaning stuff.

He thanked me for staying with it an I apologised to him for causing him extra work. We smiled, all done and dusted, thought.

No! I turned and there was an angry looking woman, who wasn't there when I dropped it. She said "What about my apology? I stepped in some... well? I am waitng"

To which I replied, in my very best, teacher's voice "You'll be waiting a long time then".

The Tesco bloke sniggered (to be fair he also offered her a clean cloth to wipe her shoes) and I walked away! I met her again at the checkout, she was still mumbling and glaring,

Monstertrucker · 01/04/2016 14:51

I was at the supermarket a couple of weeks ago and the cashier dropped and smashed a ginormous bottle of fish sauce (I'm in asia) that the chap if front was trying to buy. I didn't get any on me but the poor cashier was covered. I did nearly suffocate myself by trying not to breath though! If you see her again aim some fish sauce her way - then she'll have something to complain about.

toomuchtooold · 01/04/2016 15:20

I remember a few years ago, I was in an Underground station and a man wearing much the same face as me tried to get past me - there was enough space for us to sort of edge past but I was looking for a fight and so was he for whatever reason. When he tried to push me out the way I shoulder barged him and he stumbled back and then there was a bit of "what's your problem"/"what's your fucking problem" before one of the Underground staff stepped forward and we both hurried on past.

Thing is, I'd just moved jobs and my new job was really hard and I was thinking I'd made a mistake changing career. My dad was in the final stages of lung cancer, and a month or so before my much wanted third pregnancy had ended, as with the two others, in miscarriage, and the NHS were massively giving me the runaround about test results and generally my life was filled with sadness and nobody around me gave a fuck. I was in a permanent bad mood, I was spoiling for a fight. I wanted to be offended. If I'd been in that aisle with you, I'd have had a go at you for sure.

I always assume when someone gets passive aggressive with me in public (happens about 3 times a day, as I have 4 year old twins) that they must be as unhappy as I was that day. Many of them are middle aged quite successful looking people (I used to live next to a very famous modern art gallery here in my new home country, so a lot of the judgers and tutters were people who were having a nice day out and some lunch while I wrangled my way across town with a double buggy to go to my language class) but in that case I always think jesus, you have all day free, you're on a jolly, you're obviously not short of a bob or two and you're still so unhappy that you get a thrill out of acting all outraged because my kid fell into you when the train stopped? Sucks to be you then. I might be knackered and look like shit and have dirty Peppa Pig socks and a squashed blueberry in my bag, but that will pass. Whatever the hell is wrong with you is not getting better.

Right I better stop preaching now or someone will screen grab this and share it on Facebook! "What this harassed mother said about tutting in Tescos will blow you away!"

WhatTimeIsItCuckoo · 02/04/2016 09:10

toomuch

AntiHop · 02/04/2016 10:45

toomuchtooold very good points.

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