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To ask our guest not to eat the baby-food?

254 replies

IslandCanary · 30/03/2016 15:02

DH's friend and his partner are staying for a few nights. I've met her on 2 occasions, she seems very nice, normal, friendly.

On their arrival I told them to help themselves to anything from kitchen, showed them the snacks cupboard, fruit, fridge etc. Plenty of biscuits, chocolate, crackers, cake, yogurts, cheese etc. Baby food is in bottom half of cupboard.

This morning I found 2 empty jars of Heinz baby porridge in the recycling, along with an empty pouch of purred mango. Mid-morning I noticed her eating a baby cocoa-vanilla dessert straight from the jar! Confused

I don't know what to do! DH thinks it's hilarious and says not to mention it. I'm irritated as the jars are expensive, they are for DS and there is plenty of other food.

AIBU to think this is really weird and rude? Should I hide the jars or let her carry on?

OP posts:
mrsjskelton · 31/03/2016 09:44

I think that's really weird! Of all the good in the house...

mrsjskelton · 31/03/2016 09:44

Oops food

ouryve · 31/03/2016 09:45

Is she for real?

Wombat87 · 31/03/2016 09:59

I've done a fad diet... The Baby Food Diet. It did work. But I wouldn't choose to eat it on a normal basis. I am someone who maintains weight through diet. It may not be food issues as such, but someone like me who's conscious of their weight and what they eat. I always check labels and yes, baby food is a good way to keep your calories in check with low salt.

But I wouldn't dip in to my friends kids stashes for 3 meals a day! If I was that bothered id ask if they minded I have one or two, and the rusks would be in trouble for sure, but I wouldn't constantly graze on it! When I do a shake diet and stay at someone's house... I take my powders with me and then don't use them because the food they give me is way more yummy, she should have done the same if she's that picky over what she eats

ChristmasZombie · 31/03/2016 10:42

*Yesterday 20:13 Lweji

I suppose apple puree would go well with pork chops.*

As long as the au pair hasn't eaten all the chops, of course.

Lweji · 31/03/2016 10:58

Oh, dear. Is there an au pair in this story? At least the OP doesn't have only expensive organic unprocessed food. Clearly. She's a slacker with all the pouches and jars.

Lweji · 31/03/2016 11:01

She is eating dinner with us though she picks at it.

Maybe you should try to plate her meal like this:

To ask our guest not to eat the baby-food?
Fillybuster · 31/03/2016 11:06

There's no way I'd be able to stop myself saying something about that - so I'm very impressed at your self control OP!

Properly bonkers. Made me smile but I'd be steaming about it in your position. It's completely odd behaviour....you shouldn't need to specify which food to leave, in the same way as you wouldn't expect to ask guests to use the toilets despite the presence of nappies on the premises.....ShockShock

puppydogmummy · 31/03/2016 11:10

I had some German students stay once who complained our muesli was stale....what muesli? Turns out it was the dogs dry food. They ate us out of house and home

PovertyPain · 31/03/2016 11:14

Am I the only one thinking that eating it in front of OP, after it was pointed out it was baby food, was passive aggressive? I have a picture in my head of her eating it and thinking "screw you".

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 31/03/2016 11:45

Poverty, that's interesting. When I read the OP first I thought what an attention-seeking woman (the guest, not the OP!). In my mind I can picture her as one of those old-teens that wanders around a supermarket, unwashed and in grubby pyjamas with a full face of slap. That sort of attention=seeking.

I don't know what her partner must think? What man would want to be around someone like this?

I think OP or her husband should just say, "Enough; we're providing meals. The baby food is for the baby. You can eat anything else - leave his stuff ALONE".

PovertyPain · 31/03/2016 11:47

That's it Lying. It was the fact that she acknowledged OP but instead of asking if she minded, she went on to eat MORE in front of her. I think she's a brat.

ImNotThatGirl · 31/03/2016 11:48

I know people are saying they're furious but it's actually funny and weird.

OnlyLovers · 31/03/2016 11:52

Right, after your update I'm feeling firmer. That's some brass neck she's got. Although TBF you could have been more direct than saying 'do you realise that's baby food?' and 'leave enough for DS'.

Why should you sneak around hiding food in your home, or lie about where the baby food has gone? Just say 'I don't think I was clear enough before –please don't eat the baby food. You're very welcome to all the other snacks etc I pointed out to you before.'

Woman up, OP!

MackerelOfFact · 31/03/2016 11:58

Oookay then. That's pretty bonkers. It's not as if normal desserts or porridge sachets aren't clearly labelled with their calorific content, is it?! And it's probably still cheaper to have a normal yoghurt and throw half away than it is to eat a baby one if she has a tiny appetite.

Lweji · 31/03/2016 12:00

If you won't eat a full yogurt, you put the portion you eat in a bowl or mug, and keep the rest. It will keep for a couple of days easily.

GrumpyOldBag · 31/03/2016 12:49

Poor woman, it sounds to me as if she has an eating disorder.

Cut her some slack.

reallywittyname · 31/03/2016 13:08

Make her a bottle of formula for when you're all having a cuppa. If she says she doesn't want it, say "oh I didn't realise you were a bottle refuser" and offer her your boob instead Grin Grin

PovertyPain · 31/03/2016 13:09

People with eating disorders don't tend to advertise the fact and don't like eating in front of others. This woman just sounds like a dick.

frasersmummy · 31/03/2016 13:18

Now that you have said leave enough for ds. I think hiding it will make your guest think you don't trust her enough to leave some for ds

I think you should either just grin and bear it and stock up for the little while they are your guest or say I am running low on baby food can you leave whats left till I get to the shops please

Kit30 · 31/03/2016 13:21

Wasn't there a celeb baby food diet going the rounds a few years ago? Still a bit odd, but some people buy breast milk on t'internet so count yourself lucky she's not eyeing you up for a protein shake

PovertyPain · 31/03/2016 13:28

some people buy breast milk on t'internet so count yourself lucky she's not eyeing you up for a protein shake

Bwahaha! I had to read that twice. Bitty bitty, springs to mind.

Oldraver · 31/03/2016 13:33

I dont think she has food issues (well she may) but more rudeness issues.

What kind of person takes a babys food in someone elses house ? It is beyond rude

Lynnm63 · 31/03/2016 13:43

Heinz used to do a chocolate pudding that I'd finish off if one of the dc's didn't and I've served puréed fruit pouches over ice cream as a quick desert before now. In my own home though I wouldn't dream of eating someone else's babies baby good.

Glitteryfrog · 31/03/2016 13:49

Doesn't baby food say 'Heinz baby food from X months?'
I've tried a taste at a baby shower and it tasted of nothing.
Give me a bag of crisps or steak.