To ask our guest not to eat the baby-food?

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DH's friend and his partner are staying for a few nights. I've met her on 2 occasions, she seems very nice, normal, friendly.

On their arrival I told them to help themselves to anything from kitchen, showed them the snacks cupboard, fruit, fridge etc. Plenty of biscuits, chocolate, crackers, cake, yogurts, cheese etc. Baby food is in bottom half of cupboard.

This morning I found 2 empty jars of Heinz baby porridge in the recycling, along with an empty pouch of purred mango. Mid-morning I noticed her eating a baby cocoa-vanilla dessert straight from the jar!

I don't know what to do! DH thinks it's hilarious and says not to mention it. I'm irritated as the jars are expensive, they are for DS and there is plenty of other food.

AIBU to think this is really weird and rude? Should I hide the jars or let her carry on?

Beyond all of the weirdness and food issues with her thinking restricting her calories by eating baby food is okay...

She is taking food from a baby. It's selfish. If she wanted baby food she could have asked you when she arrived if you could get some in.

Hide it all OP. She's brasen. I would simply say, breezily,
"Well those jars are expensive and for when I don't have time to cook something from scratch, it's difficult to have something in the house for convenience when it isn't there. I would prefer you to get your own baby food if you want it, or your welcome to any of the adult food."

Cabbage, you are not alone. I totally agree with you!

Does she drink milk?

Give her a bottle instead of a mug or glass?

This is totally weird.

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Of course 'help yourself' doesn't mean BABY JARS if you're an adult. Daft bint. I wouldn't hesitate to ask her not to.

It's like taking candy from a baby!

You have to spell it out. Why are YOU embarrassed about her eating your baby's food?

Do you think it's because the baby food is nearer the bottom and she hasn't noticed the top shelf (clutches at straws!).

Just tell her if she wants to keep guzzling eating food meant for the baby can she please go out and buy some as you need to know how much is in the house to feed the actual baby.

Agree with cranberry. She has openly said that she likes to eat them so you can openly say not to!
Although if your DH really thinks she has issues with food then probably best to do what you said and hide some and move on from it.

This is totally NOT normal.

I think your DH is right and that she has an ED.

I think I would just hide away as many jars as necessary and not say anything - if they run out and she asks, I would say something like cranberry suggests.

Go down and hide all of them seriously man. If she brings it up point her towards the shop.

Definitely hide them. If she does have genuine issues with food then obviously that's awful but she can't keep eating your baby's food! That is not on.

Is she underweight?

It seems very strange.

How long are they staying for?

I would be raging!!!

I know that you said help yourself but the baby food was clearly set aside for a specific purpose, to feed the baby! Surely they realised it was baby food, wouldn't the portion sizes be a clue? YANBU. I would just politely say something like 'I forgot to mention please don't eat the food on that shelf as it's for the baby but you can have anything else.' IMO a quick conversation is actually less awkward than hiding things from them, they would probably realise you had done that and feel embarrassed. Then again, they don't seem very observant!

What a weirdo. Even if I liked baby food I wouldn't admit it to anyone publicly! A friend at uni liked Farley's rusks. I thought that was odd but students often have strange habits!

To be honest, it would piss me off so I would just hide them. I take it you are giving her breakfast, lunch and dinner so these are 'just snacks'?

Is she very thin?

Does she eat normal food with you at meal times?

I think I'd be pretty irritated about it and would definitely request she ceased eating them immediately. And she'd never be getting an invitation for a return stay.

That's very strange! I would eat some of my own babys food if it came down to it, ive eaten some of his pureed fruit before, but never in a million years would I assume it was okay to eat someone elses babies food!! Does she not have any children? Is there a chance she didn't realise it was baby food? Or maybe she couldn't find any porridge so just used the baby porridge? It does seem very strange that she would eat it knowing it was baby food and having been shown where the adult food was..
But you know im not sure there is anything you can do because really you did say help yourself and you didn't say not to eat the baby food... its just one of those unspoken things that most people wouldn't do.. however obviously shes one of the few people in the world who never got the memo for some reason lol!! So I guess yeah the only option is maybe to hide it?
I mean you could be brave and just say 'can you not eat the baby food sorry I didn't say that specifically but I just forgot, its just that its more of a pain to replace and I need to know how much of it have in so I don't run out' or something similar. I know I wouldn't dare do that tho hahaha id probably just let her eat it and never ask why and just be wondering forever what on earth was going on in her head!!

How long are they staying?

What a bloody nutter. I would be majorly pissed off if someone ate food that I had specifically set aside for the baby. You need to tell her to stop eating your baby's food. If she wants to eat baby food, then she can go buy some herself. She's pathetic.

She has issues with food? I would have some issues if she ate my baby's food!

I would have said what I posted earlie or even just "I'd prefer if you didn't.".

She's a weirdo.