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AIBU?

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To ask our guest not to eat the baby-food?

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IslandCanary · 30/03/2016 15:02

DH's friend and his partner are staying for a few nights. I've met her on 2 occasions, she seems very nice, normal, friendly.

On their arrival I told them to help themselves to anything from kitchen, showed them the snacks cupboard, fruit, fridge etc. Plenty of biscuits, chocolate, crackers, cake, yogurts, cheese etc. Baby food is in bottom half of cupboard.

This morning I found 2 empty jars of Heinz baby porridge in the recycling, along with an empty pouch of purred mango. Mid-morning I noticed her eating a baby cocoa-vanilla dessert straight from the jar!

I don't know what to do! DH thinks it's hilarious and says not to mention it. I'm irritated as the jars are expensive, they are for DS and there is plenty of other food.

AIBU to think this is really weird and rude? Should I hide the jars or let her carry on?

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WorraLiberty · 30/03/2016 17:16

I don't know what to do! DH thinks it's hilarious and says not to mention it.

That's even weirder than her eating the food in the first place!

toomuchtooold · 30/03/2016 17:18

Was the chocolate pudding the Hipp one? I used to love that.

Seriously odd behaviour though. Agree to the suggestion to hide the food. Who would do that? Apart from anything else, what if you eat the baby's main staple? Empty an adult's food cupboard and they can always order a takeaway. Not so simple with a little one.

LetMeBe · 30/03/2016 17:19

Sounds bizzare, YANBU why would an adult even think of doing that. I have a 1 year old and yes they certainly are not cheap. If it was me I would ask in a very casual way but depends how well you know her. I'm curious to her reason though.

OTheHugeManatee · 30/03/2016 17:21

Best thread title ever. OP, YANBU.

Please come back and tell us how they react when you ask them to stop stealing food from your baby' plate

BMW6 · 30/03/2016 17:23

Christ on a bike, who DOES that !!!

I'd have to say something like "when I said help yourself, I didn't include the babies food - naturally" then I'd give her the hard stare.

TheEmmaDilemma · 30/03/2016 17:25

WTAF?

squashtastic · 30/03/2016 17:32

I'm with your DH. Food is food is food: if it's good enough for your baby, it's good enough for your guests. And vice versa. Why differentiate between the baby's food and everyone else's?!

Hmm why would one differentiate. Well because her baby might struggle with a steak but presumably gets on just well with a jar of mashed peas? Like many people's babies? Because it's an expensive convenience food she has presumably bought for the baby as clearly explained by the label from 4-6 months or whatever?

Do you eat dog food? or is food food?

squashtastic · 30/03/2016 17:33

Although none of that matters to you OP, You clearly can't say anything. She's weird but that her deal. I'd hide the baby food.

Goingtobeawesome · 30/03/2016 17:38

Posters saying you did say help yourself, and other food is expensive too, are being deliberately thick. It is obvious that baby food is for a baby.

Phalenopsisgirl · 30/03/2016 17:42

Lol, yanbu, but I would just move it somewhere else rather than say anything.

NeedsAsockamnesty · 30/03/2016 17:44

I have a guest coming later,should I hide my kids perscription food packs or the cat food.

After all one does not wish to commit a grave hosting error

IHaveBrilloHair · 30/03/2016 17:45

There's being told to help yourself and actually having some common sense/etiquette around food though surely.
Even if told to help myself I'd never think to have a drink of a really expensive whiskey for example, or cook the whole pack of bacon for sarnies for myself.
Taking babyfood is odd, and I eat the bloody stuff.

Phalenopsisgirl · 30/03/2016 17:50

And when I say I wouldn't say anything I only mean because I would assume this person clearly had no idea it was baby food ( although God know why not, do they think there is some weird trend for low flavour food in tiny portions!?) and would feel desperately awkward and about causing someone that level of embarrassment. If it were me I'd feel like a total idiot!!

achildsjoy · 30/03/2016 17:54

I would just hide it, if she asks you about it you will know wether it was a mistake or she actually knows that it's baby food.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 30/03/2016 17:55

Wasn't there a 'baby food' DIET a while ago that seemed to be a bit of a flash in he pan? Maybe this woman hasn't realised that it's passé?

HootOnTheBeach · 30/03/2016 18:05

Also BS to the people saying she might have an eating disorder. People with eating disorders tend to hide it, not steadily make their way through food and leave evidence in plain sight.

TeaOnEverest · 30/03/2016 18:07

Wtf. You don't have to be rude, but you should really mention it

winchester1 · 30/03/2016 18:13

If it was an eating disorder or diet surely you would bring baby food with you. What if your host didn't have any would you eat nothing?
I'd feed a jar to the baby in front of them and say how much he likes HIS jars and you get a few for easy meals as they ate so expensive.
Even the weirdest of guess must get that type of hint.

DancingDinosaur · 30/03/2016 18:18

I used to work with someone who bought baby food to eat, there was certain jars she really liked. You need to tell her to stop though, as presumably she can eat anything, and if you're weaning on purees only, then thats only for your dc. Which is then annoying if you run out.

ClarenceTheLion · 30/03/2016 18:19

If you have an 'I can only eat baby food' disorder, then you should really travel with your own supply, not steal from an actual baby!

MyKingdomForBrie · 30/03/2016 18:25

I wouldn't mention it because I wouldn't want a guest to feel awkward.

Are you sure they were your jars OP? If she likes baby food she might have bought her own?

pigsDOfly · 30/03/2016 18:33

I'd be very tempted to hide all the baby food and fill up the cupboard with tins of tasty looking dog food. See what she does then.

Alternatively, just tell her that it's food specially for your baby and when you said help yourself you didn't mean she could deprive your baby of his dinner.

FunnyDuddy · 30/03/2016 18:36

I'd say somthing or if you feel you can't id hide them.

It's fair obvious baby jars are for babies, what with the ages 0-6, 6 months plus ect written on them!

And when someone says "help yourself to anything" any normal adult knows that that applies to adult food only.

Hide the jars and if she asks where they've gone say your not sure someone seems to have eaten them all and it couldn't of been DS

GrumpyOldBag · 30/03/2016 18:47

It would be rude to mention it to your guest.

I would just hide the rest.

KimmySchmidtsSmile · 30/03/2016 18:48

That is bizarre...bloody hell, I was struggling eating one spoon of it when the DC were small: you know the drill, mmmmm look baby it's delicio... mmmmm it's really quite...my DC didn't fall for it then. You know what you need to do OP? Give her a jar to feed the baby and see how much of it ends up in her mouth "one for me, one for me, one for you, another for me"
And those pouches are minging an' all!

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