That the nursery didn't change DD's

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Nappy for 4 hours. I dropped her off at 8 and she wasn't changed until 12. She's 18 months and would have been changed twice in that time as she wees loads. They are normally quite chunky after her naps (TMI I know!)
Appreciate I've only got her though and they have others to change.
She's got nappy rash tonight 🙁
Genuinely I don't know whether to mention it to them tomorrow or just leave it.

I mean not needing to change for poo. The nappy would be wet, so would change for that reason.

Ditto never. My 18 month old poos every few days.

A HV told me once not to put too much sudo on, OP. It can stick to the nappy, and when your baby wees the nappy won't absorb it as well, thus causing your child to end up with the wee on them rather than soaking in to the nappy, IYSWIM. Not sure how true it is though, DD has never had nappy rash.

My DS must be unusual as well. He normally poos once a day or skips a day.

I am not in the UK but in another Northern European country. MY DS (13mo) goes to daycare here. The policy is a change before his nap at midday but otherwise only a change if he poos. So he is normally changed in the morning when he wakes up, before his nap, then before he sleeps, unless he poos.

Salem that is true. My littlest has rashy tendencies so we always smothered her in sudocrem and told nursery to do the same. She developed horrendous thrush and the doctor told us off as her skin hadn't been able to breathe with all the barrier cream in it. The wee was than stinging her and making it worse.

4 hours is pretty average. If she needs changing more often then that, then gently mention it to them tomorrow. But if she already has nappy rash, don't think you can really say it was down to them?

That said, if you're honestly going through that many nappies a day, and she's drinking that much fluid every day, I'd mention it to your HV because that it quite a lot.

To be honest, four hours is usually okay, but there is a difference between being in a dry nappy for three hours and then being in a slightly wet one for an hour and being in a soaked nappy for 4 hours because it was used immediately upon drop off. If DD looked like she needed changing, she should have been changed. Simple as.
I very often have this problem with a little girl I pick up from her nursery. She is 30 months old, is at nursery for almost 10 hours a day and is entirely potty trained at her home and at my house. She is always wearing a completely soaked nappy when I pick her up that has started to 'crystalise' from being worn so long and usually had a wet spot in the middle of her back where it has seeped up. I've mentioned it to nursery several times but apparently she only uses the potty sometimes at nursery, preferring to use her nappy the rest of the time and doesn't like being changed (this is true, she does not like being changed but unfortunately she doesn't have a choice). This astounds me as she hasn't had an accident in over a month whilst at my house and drinks an awful lot so her nappies quickly become very uncomfortable if used. The other day when I went to pick her up, she ran straight to me, pulled her nappy and pants down and weed on the floor right in front of me. She was obviously distressed and none of the nursery workers were anywhere near the doorway where I was stood. To me, it appeared as though she had been desperate for the toilet, had not wanted to go in her happy and none of the nursery workers had taken enough notice of her to realise her situation.
When I managed to get one of their attention, she laughed and said 'woops child A, did you not want to use your nappy or the potty today?'
I have discussed it with Child A's mum but she didn't really seem overly concerned (the usual) so am a bit stuck really.

I worked as a mothers help when I was 19 during uni summer holidays. One of my charges was 18 months old and I got told off for changing him too frequently as 3 hourly changes was costing a fortune in nappies