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AIBU?

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To ask that you cook a meal

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Ozwizard · 29/03/2016 18:08

Not a full on three course meal, just dinner for tonight. It will be turkey mince with pasta. Should take about twenty minutes away from the Xbox!
You would think that I had asked that the Nile be parted!! Yes yes I get that you are a teenager and have other things that are so much more important to do than help your mum out on this one occasion!
I came out of hospital three days ago having had a major tummy operation. And didn't fancy/can't stand at the cooker. Aibu?

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ouryve · 29/03/2016 20:32

Prick with a fork comes to mind, here.

Teen won't cook, ergo teen doesn't get fed. Tough cheese, really.

I do hope that shopping delivery included plenty of nuk-able meals for yourself. Take care of yourself, OP

TimeToMuskUp · 29/03/2016 20:35

I had abdominal surgery last November and wasn't great for several weeks afterwards. DS1 (10) cooked us salmon fillets, new potatoes and veg several times while I was off my feet. If he can manage, your DS can. Order your own takeaway and let him go hungry, naughty bugger.

girlfrommars33 · 29/03/2016 20:35

He's 13 and being an arse. Enjoy your pizza and think about the big bollocking you're going to give him when you're back to full strength. Look after yourself and hope you sleep well tonight

Baconyum · 29/03/2016 20:45

Agree not a battle for while you're in recovery but once recovered I do think you need to consider addressing his attitude. I also believe you reap what you sow. I have a teen daughter of my own and have worked with teens in a voluntary capacity including through scouting and guiding. So where everyone has to muck in or meals aren't cooked, dishes not washed and latrines not emptied! It would be easy for me to say my daughter wouldn't get away with that but actually she wouldn't even think to. I'm in poor health now anyway and she often cooks/cleans/tidies/runs errands. Her friends are the same. And they're boys and girls.

Enjoy your pizza and get well soon.

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Ozwizard · 29/03/2016 20:48

That's just it, he can cook, make his bed, iron, Hoover, clean and put his clothes away. And it's because I know he is capable of this that he annoyed me with his attitude. I would not tolerate him not pulling his weight and have taught him that he needs to do things for himself. It should not have been an issue tonight knowing that I am unwell.

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mamas12 · 29/03/2016 21:03

Is this some kind of reaction to your op.
If he stops to think about it is he afraid that he was goi g to lose you?
Is he constantly occupied so that he can't think about it
I would text him back say thanks for the apology but you need food to go with the tablets so you have had to order yourself a small pizza so when he makes the pasta dish just to cater for himself.

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Ozwizard · 29/03/2016 21:30

It could be that. I will have a talk with him and erasure him that I'm not going anywhere.

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ClopySow · 29/03/2016 21:36

Laughing at erasure

Talk to him through the power of music. Give a little respect should do it.

KurriKurri · 29/03/2016 21:36

As an afterthought Ozwizard - I was very ill when my DS was about 13/14 -big op, long recovery etc. He was wonderful at home - but acted out and got himself into trouble at school which was most unlike him. So the reaction to your illness theory may have something in it. - Doesn't necessarily excuse him being bolshy - but may explain it

StillStayingClassySanDiego · 29/03/2016 21:45

Enjoy the pizza.

Don't get into a shouting match with him tonight; when you're recovering from surgery and the effects of an anaesthetic you're off making judgements mentally as well as being physically knackered.

Eat, sleep and stay calm , who needs a fight?

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Ozwizard · 29/03/2016 21:47

Oops meds kicking in... Reassure not erasure!!
Could explain it but he needs to know that his attitude is not acceptable when I feel better I shall put it to him.

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Ozwizard · 29/03/2016 21:50

I had a spinal injection as well a general anaesthetic and low oxygen levels. So really do not want to argue with him. Staying calm will do me the world of good instead.

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CockacidalManiac · 29/03/2016 21:53

Hop you had lots of protein on that pizza! Goid for healing.

BeaufortBelle · 29/03/2016 21:54

This is a fight for another day. Teenagers can be vile when they are: Scared, unhappy, hungry, breathing................

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Have your pizza, neck your co-codamol, sleep well and don't either of you go to bed on a fight.

Tomorrow order in some easy meals, hot x buns, yoghurts, bananas, etc., small and easy to soak up the pills.

This is just how many teenagers are; eventually the nice bits of the little lads we kissed goodnight at nine emerge again.

Sorry he's been a shit tonight and has upset you. Hope you mend soon. Don't stop loving him; he probably loves you to bits inside and may have been scared witless. They don't articulate well at 13.

WhoaCadburys · 29/03/2016 22:00

Yes, was also about to say he could be scared and feeling weird, if he is normally a nice teenager.

Get well OP

novemberchild · 29/03/2016 22:42

My 13 yr old would cook if he was asked. He quite likes being let loose in the kitchen. So YA definitely NBU.

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