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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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To ask that you cook a meal

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Ozwizard · 29/03/2016 18:08

Not a full on three course meal, just dinner for tonight. It will be turkey mince with pasta. Should take about twenty minutes away from the Xbox!
You would think that I had asked that the Nile be parted!! Yes yes I get that you are a teenager and have other things that are so much more important to do than help your mum out on this one occasion!
I came out of hospital three days ago having had a major tummy operation. And didn't fancy/can't stand at the cooker. Aibu?

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littleleftie · 29/03/2016 19:50

You sound afraid of him?

I agree with PP, order yourself a takeaway and scoff the lot in front of him.

Shitty behaviour.

Vintage45 · 29/03/2016 19:54

Passive aggressive is just as bad. Im not fond of this type of martyr.

Bogeyface · 29/03/2016 19:55

Vintage being a martyr is totally different to being ill just after surgery and needing help that a selfish git wont give. In those circumstances ordering a takeaway is self preservation as much as anything else. The fact that it will also make a point to the son is just a happy side effect.

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Ozwizard · 29/03/2016 19:56

I get that he is a stropy hormonal moody teenager. I just don't have the strength to punish him at the moment. He's 13 and on school holidays. I can just about walk up the stairs to make it to the toilet let alone take out the Xbox lead. I like the next three things are the answer "no". Conflict is the last thing I need on top of painkillers. He's in his room playing on his Xbox now. Sent me a text saying sorry!!

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Vintage45 · 29/03/2016 20:00

Have to agree to disagree there with you Bogey. We reap what we sow. I hear so many women on here that bring up sons the way they do then apparently don't understand/boo hoo (do the martyr act) when the near adult acts an inconsiderate way.

EvansAndThePrince · 29/03/2016 20:00

Wait he apologised but isn't doing anything about it? That's not an apology.
Don't argue with him, just say look, I can't cook tonight so I'm ordering in tea since you won't, if you want something you'll have to cook or make a sandwich.

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Ozwizard · 29/03/2016 20:01

I'm not afraid of him at all. Just do not want to work myself up with an 8 inch scar across my tummy that has the potential to burst open if I loose it at him. I'm sore and in pain and need an easy recovery if he could just tear himself away from his busy life!!

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StillStayingClassySanDiego · 29/03/2016 20:01

Bollocks to arguing the toss over who cooks the tea.

The boy's a selfish arse and you're recovering from surgery.

Save the row, look after yourself.

StillStayingClassySanDiego · 29/03/2016 20:02

Have you eaten?

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Ozwizard · 29/03/2016 20:06

Another text saying he will cook later as he's playing with his friends. I had to eat some microwave rice for the time being so that I am not sick when taking codeine tablets.

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Vintage45 · 29/03/2016 20:06

Yeah save the row, order something in tonight.

Bogeyface · 29/03/2016 20:11

I would be tempted to text back "Dont bother, and dont bother asking me for anything for the forseeable future because the answer will be the same as you gave me"

OneLove10 · 29/03/2016 20:11

Tell him not to bother.
He's not that sorry if he's still telling you to wait. Swine. just order a takeaway for yourself.

expatinscotland · 29/03/2016 20:13

Just order something for yourself. Leave him to it and change the WiFi password.

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Ozwizard · 29/03/2016 20:15

Pizza delivery on its way! I know that he is going to come out with " oh you got yourself something"! To which I will not entertain him. He did this once before when he threw a strop about me getting a coffee at the garage but not him a hot chocolate because he had been rude before hand!

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expatinscotland · 29/03/2016 20:18

'Yes, I did get myself something.' Eat it all yourself, too.

dontcallmethatyoucunt · 29/03/2016 20:19

Self aborbed little shit. I honestly hope you do tackle this or he'll grow up as the next generation of self absorbed men. Not now though, now, I would order the take away, funds allowing and then go to war when you feel better. He should feel ashamed, teenager or not.

Or I could come round and drag is sorry arse into the kitchen and instruct him to treat his mother with some kindness, respect and human understanding. How dare he.

EvansAndThePrince · 29/03/2016 20:22

I agree about men not being taught and ending up being shit husbands, BUT I don't think now is the time to embark on that particular battle, enjoy your pizza OP

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Ozwizard · 29/03/2016 20:24

He's normally a good kid, doing his house chores. I guess he is just playing me up because he knows I am not at full strength. I don't tend to run around after him either so I don't understand his attitude.

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CockacidalManiac · 29/03/2016 20:25

Enjoy your pizza, the little sod can starve.

Bogeyface · 29/03/2016 20:26

To be fair to the OP, if he couldnt cook then presumably she wouldnt have asked him to, so it sounds like he can but he wont.

So having a go at the OP for not teaching him how to look after himself is wrong. Sounds like she has taught him but he has an major attitude problem. The XBox would stay put for the moment but as soon as I was well enough it would be removed, he doesnt bloody deserve it. I would be changing the wifi password asap though.

Where is his father OP? Would he have a word with him?

YouTheCat · 29/03/2016 20:27

But when you're not at full strength is exactly when he should step up.

Definitely say 'no' regularly to him . And don't share the pizza.

And why do people who disagree on these threads always come out with 'oh you obviously haven't got teens' Ffs no I haven't. I have 20 somethings.

LifeofI · 29/03/2016 20:30

YANBU, he is being selfish. Enjoy your pizza and when you have the energy i would tell him how selfish he was when you were ill and if he would like you not to help him when he is ill!!!

CockacidalManiac · 29/03/2016 20:30

This is a battle for another day, just take things easy and look after yourself

SecretsAndStuff21 · 29/03/2016 20:31

When I was a teenager, my mom would not come home until 6 pm or later. We were expected to peel spuds and prep veg, put the hoover 'round and light a fire.
It was hardly hardship on out part, at most took about 20 minutes of our time. I think at 10 or 11 I could cook a decent meal as could most of my friends.
We weren't precocious homemakers, just normal kids. I think if you can play minecraft or other computer games you are capable of helping around the home.

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