To find my family a bit common and embarrassing

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Or am I just pretentious?

They love the cakes at pat Valarie and go on about them. When I think these are vile made off site factory cakes that are frozen.

They played the sam smith album and went on about how good his voice is and all that. Sounds like music for people that dont like music IMO.

They are wolfing down cadburys chocolate saying how delicious it is. Over sweet waxy stuff - give me Mr Roth any day.

I just don't feel on the same level as them. Really average lives and I just have nothing in common with them.

I've never even heard of Pat Val. My level must be so low in completely underground. where the cool kids are

Shatners

I thought for a moment it was a soap character

Oh FFS. Now I have a massive craving for Patisserie Valerie strawberry gateau. Is being 9 months pregnant a sufficiently good reason to throw a massive tantrum if DP won't get in the car, drive into town and get me some? I suspect he will not be pandering to me keen...

Wow! You are being pretentious! I grew up in a council house in London with a very working class family. My sister still lives in a council house. I own my own home, have a good job, earn above average salary, I'm well travelled and holiday all over the world. I food shop in Waitress and enjoy foods my family have never even heard of let alone tried. It doesn't make a jot of difference to me, they're my family and I still consider myself to be working class because that's my roots. I do judge on a couple of things tho, I expect everyone to work unless they have a damn good reason not to and I can't stand people who shout and swear in public.

I like Pattisserie Valerie, so I suppose I must be common then? Although thinking about it I call my sofa a settee, my grandmothers were both 'Nan's' as opposed to Grandma and I eat my dinner at midday.

Yes, I think I'm probably as common as muck.

OP, you are Valerie Jones from Rivals and I claim my prize.

Are you still at Green Lawns? How's Fred Fred?

I'm also a bit partial to Primark and Pound shops. Yep, common as muck.

Oh dear OP. I bet your family don't even use fish knives or serviettes either. Up to you to educate them.

I've just looked up Patisserie Valerie and think it looks lovely. Never heard of it before. Is Lindt chocolate OK? Is it common to bite off the bunny ears?

Ha ha "I would of"! And you call your family "common".

The OP seems to be getting rather a hard time considering what the consensus on Mumsnet appears to be on things like:

Smoking
Tattoos
Caravans
Pandora jewellry
Greggs
McDonalds
Yankee candles
Asda
Names beginning with the letter K

There have been multiple threads recently about how shit Cadburys chocolate is and Patisserie Valerie too.

Or are you allowed to dislike said downmarket products as long as you don't express judgement against those who do?

Please stop typing Pat Val. It's making my bum clench. Anyway, with regard to your 'troubles'......

I think that only very common people use the term common. ;-)

I actually agree with you OP, always thought Patisserie Valerie was overrated, though I've never tried Mr Roth!

I think I understand your post but some took it the wrong way, I've known people who only buy into mainstream stuff because it's exactly that... is it so wrong to wish people would branch out a little?

I don't think I've taken it the wrong way at all.

The question wasn't 'AIBU not to like Cadburys and Patisserie Valerie', it was 'AIBU to find my family common and embarrassing'. Fine not to like certain things, but to insult people and categorise them as 'less' than you because of it is snooty and idiotic.

OP, you sound like someone who lives under a bridge and in addition are seriously sub-literate, for someone who looks down on others.

i thought you meant they played a smiths album all the time .. that would be cool!

We are all different in this world, it takes all sorts and so what if they like cadburys and you prefer Roth's , there wouldn't be a market for either if we all ate Lidl own brand ( which is better than some other chocolates anyway) how do they treat you otherwise? are they supportive, do they really care about you? that's what really matters. Not what they buy or what they prefer in life. That's how I judge anyway. If they are horrible or nasty or don't treat you with respect then there is a reason not to like them( in my opinion. )

Hold on! I am deeply offended Greggs is on that list! I LOVE Greggs sandwiches! :)

Mr/Monsiuer Roth is Aldi's own brand isn't it/

When I was growing up in the 80s and early 90s, my mom wouldn't let me have hoop or dangly earrings because they were 'common'. She also called my friends from the council estates 'common' and 'tarts'.

This was from a woman whose dress sense was remarkably similar to that of Bet Lynch from Coronation Street, and who now watches Jeremy Kyle on a daily basis (whilst complaining how awful the guests are)!

Greggs cakes are delicious, they do a gorgeous chocolate rainbow muffin.

I have tattoos. I like McDonalds as well.

Didn't realise there were so many snobby fuckers on here!

Does it really matter if people are common? Surely what really matters is a person's character. If a kind and supportive friend also eats chips in the street are they a lesser friend for it?
I'm sure you'd think I'm as common as muck but I don't care. Although I've never heard of Patisserie Valerie and the last time I was in Aldi was when i lived in Germany as a child, so it might be difficult to judge exactly where I am on the common as muck scale.

There's one on Piccadilly. Am with you now. It's ok if slightly pretentious for tpirists. The Richoux has always had a soft spot or top floor in the big Waterstones.

I wouldn't call it common; possibly a tiny bit Waggy, but not poor quality and not horrible. DD won't go in there. Suspect it's had it's day.

I do sort of understand the OP's pov, even if she did put it extremely badly.

My family had a similar sort of divide - but less about "popular" stuff, more about attitudes. My mum and sister were very into showy, trashy things, whereas my Dad and I are more reserved and restrained. My sister's idea of a good birthday meal out was TGI Friday's - my Mum too - but not my Dad or I. My sister didn't like "posh restaurants" as she never knew what to eat, if it didn't have chips with it, she got upset. My mum's favourite meal out was their local Chinese (nothing wrong with this, btw, she just wouldn't consider trying e.g. French or Italian as an alternative). Dad and I loved going to quiet French, Italian, Spanish, English, whatever instead. Mind you, couldn't get Dad into an Indian restaurant - he doesn't like spicy food.

There was a lot of academic inverse snobbery going on though in our house - my Mum thought my Dad looked down on her because she wasn't university educated, and my sister thought the same - whereas Dad and I both went to University. I didn't look down on my mum or sister for not going to University (nor did my Dad, for that matter) - each to their own - but I did get snobby about their taste in restaurants etc.