To find my family a bit common and embarrassing

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Or am I just pretentious?

They love the cakes at pat Valarie and go on about them. When I think these are vile made off site factory cakes that are frozen.

They played the sam smith album and went on about how good his voice is and all that. Sounds like music for people that dont like music IMO.

They are wolfing down cadburys chocolate saying how delicious it is. Over sweet waxy stuff - give me Mr Roth any day.

I just don't feel on the same level as them. Really average lives and I just have nothing in common with them.

And I never said I was better, just that I'm not on their level.

Surely that's contradictory? If you see yourself as being on another "level" then the assumption by default is that you see yourself as "better"?!

Unless you're suggesting that their different level is actually "above" yours and therefore they're better than you? Which makes sense as you've come across as not terribly nice.....

If you must judge people, make it over something that matters, like how they treat other people, or their general attitude, demeanour and actions......not over trivial personal preferences......

Pat Val is not posh.

But you OP, are absolutely ghastly.

Am I the only one who's never been to Patisserie Valérie? Am I missing out?

It can tear families apart when they don't enjoy the same cake. My mum enjoys sugar-free fruit cake

You sound like a terrible snob, who thinks too much about really unimportant stuff. They like something you don't. That's it. It doesn't even need a second thought, let alone navel gazing and online discussion.

TBF Cadburys is a bit shit now, but for everything else you sound crazy. You just like different things to them.

Who exactly do you think you are?

You haven't backed down though, you think you are on another level to them! No you're not, you just like different things.

Oh, Shatner, I'm so sorry. Thinking of you at this difficult time

Come meet my family OP. Half are in prison, The other half are on methadone, they keep old sofas and rusting fridges in their front garden, none of the windows are intact. No one works , I have two sets of full cousins who have kids together.

I think you may be a bit of a pretentious snob OP.

Enjoy these

They are from Aldi, so you should be ok.

Ungracious and very bad mannered of you, OP. Are you terribly insecure that you feel the need to make judgements? Why? Who gives a fuck whether cakes in a cake shop are vile or the best thing ever? Graciousness and good manners means never discomforting people for their views. Posh restaurants would roll their eyes and look down on you if you went in and ordered beans on toast, for instance. The very poshest restaurants would just prepare it for you and would respond as if you had ordered the most expensive item on the menu, because discomforting the customer is far more gauche and bad mannered than their food choices.

Op are you 15 and determined not to be like the other kids?

I could understand if your family voted UKIP or something, but judging them over their choice of cafe and easy listening, is rather stupid.

Dear OP. It's should have not should of

It's worth remembering this little tip, as otherwise it might make you sound 'common and embarrassing' when you post.

HTH.

I am intrigued, OP. What do you do during these conversations? Look bored? Try and convert them to things which are "on your level"? What do you think they should be discussing?

And I never said I was better, just that I'm not on their level.

Their level being "common", "popularist" and "embarrassing" and your level being what exactly?

"Pat Val"

Arf

Pat Val cakes are not posh at all, though they are quite nice. I like the cheesecake.

Makes a lot more sense, too, than the hordes who queue outside Betty's in all weathers to pay a tenner for a scone, thinking they're posh, and desperately Instagramming the whole thing at the same time.

Oh yeah, and Sam Smith is shit. My sister loves him. And Adele. And Ed Sheeran. But that doesn't make her a bad person, whereas your sneering makes you very unpleasant.

Jolse - you beat me to it!

My heart bleeds. Do they eat Greggs sausage rolls?

I used to work with rich clients, proper stinking rich clients, most were lovely, down to earth people and you wouldn't tell they were really rich by their behaviour. You sound like a wanna be. Like what you like.
We shop in aldi and lidl and my husband has a 6 figure salary. We like the food in there, your being judgmental and would be exactly two type of person I would avoid

Patisserie Valerie used to be lovely when it was only the Soho branch. There. That's snobbery done properly.

This is a reverse, right?

I find some of my family embarrassing, they get inappropriately drunk and they fight each other.
I only had four guests at my wedding as I couldn't face the compulsory punch up that would follow.

I have have no idea about their cafe or chocolate eating habits or what "level" they are on. You may want to consider a hobby like knitting OP, it would expand your clearly limited horizons no end.

More bollocks. I've reported