To pretend to be sick, so I don't have to go to my inlaws Easter do

[LardLizard]

To be honest they are so annoying

Tell you what you should do n think, they are racist and unpleasant

They make us feel stressed dh still want s to go though

I would honestly rather spend the entire day doing chores at home, I'm thinking about pretending I'm sick at the weekend

There do is a lunch and tea at their house so it's a whole day long thing, it's just too long but they won't change it to just say a lunch

Youngest is only two, so can be hard work, eldest is almost nine
So will be a very long time, some kind mumsnet terms have helped to give me idea of how to help the day pass faster like take a ball for the garden n get out for a walk etc
But I'm seriously thinking about pulling a sickie

I'm not sure it's a good idea to pretend.

You'd have to start being sick a day or two before, on the actual day and then a day after to not make it look suspicious. Maybe rather just go for the lunch and say you aren't feeling too well there and come home. And then you can be fine for the next day.
Don't let them rule your long weekend.

Personally I wouldn't bother pretending, I'd just say I wasn't going and let my husband make excuses if he wanted to. But if you do lie, be prepared for one of your kids to blurt the truth.

I would not lie about this ...what about the next time?
Have a huge grown up talk about how their views will affect the children's outlook and hamper their lives.
I never understand how people only find out about culture clashes after they are married.

Yes, don't go. What a waste of a day. It's fine to be ill. I've been ill before and sent DH off to his relatives. I didn't feel bad, although I did genuinely feel ill, I think it may have been brought on by stress (I have a long term illness and stress does make me worse, if I force myself into doing something that I don't really want to, then I end up feeling very ill).

You lot are making very tempted to do it,
Well I will decide on the actual day, but I can see it as option now

It's too late to say we can only go for lunch as they will have the food etc
Although they do this full day do, every year and they don't break from tradition

But perhaps next year we can get in quick with reasons why we only want to stay for lunch

Only reason thinking of pretending to dh I don't feel well is, don't want him annoyed that I'm not coming
Or I tell him I'm considering doing this and then he didn't want me too, I can't realistically do it then

It's not his fault they are the way they are, and you can't argue with stupidity really

To give you a few examples of their views

Women should not be allowed to;
Take maternity leave, as it unfair on employers
Report sex. Crimes from years ago...........

There views on immigrants are not fair or nice, typical dailymail stuff

They try n tell you what you think, what you should do
When you say you don't want to discuss something they carry on and on

You can't reason with people like that

So I have two plans

Either go anyway, and just keep on repeating I don't want to talk about that, if certain things come up
And just immerse ourselves with the children all day and try and zone them out

Take a ball, go for a walk, take a game, take some stickers books and lots of toys

Or pull a sickie, which I've actually never done before, so it's not like they will suspect

If I do pull a sickie , it will be a 24 hours sickness and diarrhoea thing
As not pretending to be ill the other days

This crossed my mind too, and I am actually sick. But am I sick enough?

Send DH and you stay home.

WHat about next time?

I'll just suck it up and go, I suspect

Women shouldn't take mat leave?

WTAF?

Be aware that your children may say you are not ill - I have seen this happen!

ll just pretend to them, they don't know
I'll pretend to have diarrhoea

Oldlaund, yes they think, it's not fair on businesses, and it will put company's out of business......

For me the worse is saying women shouldn't be allowed to report being raped etc after say ten years

I mean you can't reason with this type of thought process, they won't change

Mine are coming for a week.

Being ill for a week might be stretching it :(

You'd be surprised, I've had a young child say to me 'mummy's not ill, she didn't want to come' (funeral).

Fiz, ouch, I would never do that about a funeral

If it were me I'd be sending DH alone and he could decide to either a) tell in laws you are ill or b) tell in laws you didn't want to come for xyz reason..

I wouldn't actually pull a sickie to my husband.

Although I'm lucky and have fab inlaws so what do I know wish mine would bloody invite us all round for lunch and tea

Could never last a whole week

Ha, I'm doing the same. Well, I was ill yesterday but I'm dragging it out.