To pretend to be sick, so I don't have to go to my inlaws Easter do

[LardLizard]

To be honest they are so annoying

Tell you what you should do n think, they are racist and unpleasant

They make us feel stressed dh still want s to go though


I would honestly rather spend the entire day doing chores at home, I'm thinking about pretending I'm sick at the weekend


There do is a lunch and tea at their house so it's a whole day long thing, it's just too long but they won't change it to just say a lunch

Youngest is only two, so can be hard work, eldest is almost nine
So will be a very long time, some kind mumsnet terms have helped to give me idea of how to help the day pass faster like take a ball for the garden n get out for a walk etc
But I'm seriously thinking about pulling a sickie

[Luciferbox]

Ha, I'm doing the same. Well, I was ill yesterday but I'm dragging it out.

[LardLizard]

Could never last a whole week

[HackerFucker22]

If it were me I'd be sending DH alone and he could decide to either a) tell in laws you are ill or b) tell in laws you didn't want to come for xyz reason..

I wouldn't actually pull a sickie to my husband.

Although I'm lucky and have fab inlaws so what do I know wish mine would bloody invite us all round for lunch and tea

[LardLizard]

Fiz, ouch, I would never do that about a funeral

[Fizrim]

You'd be surprised, I've had a young child say to me 'mummy's not ill, she didn't want to come' (funeral).

[SukeyTakeItOffAgain]

Mine are coming for a week.

Being ill for a week might be stretching it :(

[LardLizard]

Oldlaund, yes they think, it's not fair on businesses, and it will put company's out of business......

For me the worse is saying women shouldn't be allowed to report being raped etc after say ten years

I mean you can't reason with this type of thought process, they won't change

[LardLizard]

ll just pretend to them, they don't know
I'll pretend to have diarrhoea

[Fizrim]

Be aware that your children may say you are not ill - I have seen this happen!

[oldlaundbooth]

Women shouldn't take mat leave?

WTAF?

[LardLizard]

WHat about next time?


I'll just suck it up and go, I suspect

[oldlaundbooth]

This crossed my mind too, and I am actually sick. But am I sick enough?

Send DH and you stay home.

[LardLizard]

You lot are making very tempted to do it,
Well I will decide on the actual day, but I can see it as option now

It's too late to say we can only go for lunch as they will have the food etc
Although they do this full day do, every year and they don't break from tradition

But perhaps next year we can get in quick with reasons why we only want to stay for lunch

Only reason thinking of pretending to dh I don't feel well is, don't want him annoyed that I'm not coming
Or I tell him I'm considering doing this and then he didn't want me too, I can't realistically do it then

It's not his fault they are the way they are, and you can't argue with stupidity really

To give you a few examples of their views

Women should not be allowed to;
Take maternity leave, as it unfair on employers
Report sex. Crimes from years ago...........


There views on immigrants are not fair or nice, typical dailymail stuff


They try n tell you what you think, what you should do
When you say you don't want to discuss something they carry on and on

You can't reason with people like that

So I have two plans

Either go anyway, and just keep on repeating I don't want to talk about that, if certain things come up
And just immerse ourselves with the children all day and try and zone them out

Take a ball, go for a walk, take a game, take some stickers books and lots of toys

Or pull a sickie, which I've actually never done before, so it's not like they will suspect

If I do pull a sickie , it will be a 24 hours sickness and diarrhoea thing
As not pretending to be ill the other days

[WonderingAspie]

Yes, don't go. What a waste of a day. It's fine to be ill. I've been ill before and sent DH off to his relatives. I didn't feel bad, although I did genuinely feel ill, I think it may have been brought on by stress (I have a long term illness and stress does make me worse, if I force myself into doing something that I don't really want to, then I end up feeling very ill).

[gotthemoononastick]

I would not lie about this ...what about the next time?
Have a huge grown up talk about how their views will affect the children's outlook and hamper their lives.
I never understand how people only find out about culture clashes after they are married.

[Queenie73]

Personally I wouldn't bother pretending, I'd just say I wasn't going and let my husband make excuses if he wanted to. But if you do lie, be prepared for one of your kids to blurt the truth.

[OneLove10]

I'm not sure it's a good idea to pretend.

You'd have to start being sick a day or two before, on the actual day and then a day after to not make it look suspicious. Maybe rather just go for the lunch and say you aren't feeling too well there and come home. And then you can be fine for the next day.
Don't let them rule your long weekend.

[ssd]

its meant to be wet all weekend op, so if you go you'll be stuck indoors with the inlaws, or trailing round some shopping centre/garden centre place

I cant think of anything worse.....

[Ginslinger]

I would tell DH that it's lunch or tea but not both. It's really hard the first time you do something like this but just tell MIL that you are really looking forward to lunch but you will be leaving at 3.00pm - no explanations needed - it's what you're doing. good luck

[Lighteningirll]

Do it, everyone wins you get a day on your own dh and dc get to see family who get to see them without a dil who dislikes them win win win and I think it can be good to expose dc to short controlled periods of racism sexism etc because it opens up discussions about why we don't do it, they will face it eventually it's their home life that matters.

[BeefLasagneForMyTea]

Oh definitely pretend to DH as well, he might bring you some flowers as sympathy. If he says he'll stay with you, tell him no he had better go and take the children too in case they all catch what you've got.

[TheOddity]

I think you'd be doing DH a favour by lying. Makes it a lot easier deliver that message to his parents. Life is too short and I can tell by your post that a day doing what you fancied while DH and kids are looked after would be a rare and beautiful thing. and lets face, Dil is rarely missed if there is a DS and DGC present!

[Letustryagain]

You do know that pizza and easter eggs are a cure for most illnesses don't you?

You could be poorly when your DH leaves and miraculously cured by the time he returns! Films help too...

It's your Easter weekend aswell, stuff 'em and stay at home. HTH!!

[fieldfare]

Absolutely what Doreen said.

If it's going to be absolutely unbearable, and you don't think Dh will support you in only staying for lunch OR dinner then I'd be honest with him. He can tell them what he likes to smooth it over but you don't have to go.

[TheWoodenSpoonOfMischief]

I also think it's sad that you have to pretend to be sick to your dh.

This is your life. Do what you want and stand up for yourself.