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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Original poster

To not want my child to go to one of those Kids' Clubs at a holiday resort?

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LightTurquoise · 23/03/2016 20:01

I have a 7 year old, who is more than happy to be in the pool and do stuff with us, so was DS who is 4, but we went into the hotel entertainment and the kids' club was just finishing off. He wanted to join in and he couldn't, but it was possible me for me to book it. I'm just not sure I want him to think that's what a holiday is. I want him to know its spending time with family, etc.

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curren · 24/03/2016 10:05

I don't have an issue with people using them, I do have an issue if a child is crying and not wanting to go and still being forced in there, so the parents can have a break

What business is it of yours?

And that's not your situation, so why does it matter to you?

DesignEye · 24/03/2016 10:06

So u came on Mumsnet during your lovely break in such a lovely place, to ask if your son should go to kids club?... When essentially you think parents shouldn't use them to get a 'break' on 'holiday'? Your son will probably have more fun in kids club than with you who seems overly concerned with being 'seen' to do the right thing! How boring!!! What exact activities do you have planned for a 4 year old to enjoy, as well as yourself and an older child? Sounds like a whole lot of pompous BS! I'm assuming you want the thread to tell u what a good MC family you are for holidaying without using kids club like all the other 'bad' parents! How pathetic. Just get on with your holiday and don't be so invested in what other people are doing.

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LightTurquoise · 24/03/2016 10:06

It happened yesterday morning, 2 little girls. It isn't my business, but how could I not notice it?

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WorraLiberty · 24/03/2016 10:08

I've never used them but if one of my kids wanted to, I would probably stay local and send my DH off to do something with the other DC. One or two days in a whole holiday isn't going to impact on everyone else too much.

Plus, you get some time to yourself while your other DC gets 1-1 time with your DH.

Win win.

ghostyslovesheep · 24/03/2016 10:13

who goes on holiday with their family and spend their day on MN trying to start a fight - are you that parent ?

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LightTurquoise · 24/03/2016 10:14

Yeah, definitely that parent

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Only1scoop · 24/03/2016 10:14

We tend to always have car hire on hols so don't tend to be very hotel based. We explore quite a bit.

However, We normally check out kids club and get a timetable so dd can meet the organisers and see what activities she fancies joining in with.

They aren't generally for dumping your DC at you know Op

Costacoffeeplease · 24/03/2016 10:15

What on earth has two girls crying got to do with your son wanting to go?

He wants to go - he may love it, he may never want to go back, but it's his holiday too, so give his opinions some respect. And shock horror - if you're in Portugal people will speak Portuguese

Groovee · 24/03/2016 10:16

My kids didn't go every day. But they loved being in the air con place to play while it was just too hot outside for them.

Tywinlannister · 24/03/2016 10:23

I used to get put in the kids club on the first day of the holiday. I usually hated it tbh. After that we'd get to choose ourselves if we wanted to go and we usually made our own friends in the pool anyway so didn't need it. We'd be fairly independent from our parents on our resort holidays anyway with our mates we'd made ourselves.

After my experiences I prob wouldn't put them in unless they expressed an interest. Seeing that he has, let him do one day, why ever not?!

HamaTime · 24/03/2016 10:27

I'm guessing your that parent then. Where the kid is crying. I can't believe you think that's okay.

Guess away. I've never been anywhere with a kids club, resort holidays really aren't my bag see I can be a massive snob too. I have been lots of places where my kids have cried and I've chivied them along. Last week the school had a movie night run by the PTA. One of my kids (dc4) wanted to go so I bought a ticket, rearranged an appointment so I would be able to drop him off and arranged to do something one on one with my other small kid (The big ones were out). We get to school and he kicks off, he wants to go home and play with dc1 (who is out), he is scared of the movie (one of his favourites) and he doesn't even like popcorn (he loves it), he has 'no friends' (he's a social butterfly). I wasn't prepared to fuck about and let down dc3 so he went in, and loved it. Had it been 10 years ago and dc1 had behaved like that I would have reacted differently because I am 'that' parent. The one who knows their dcs and can make appropriate judgments about them rather than eyeballing everyone else with a vague not vague sense of superiority.

WorraLiberty · 24/03/2016 10:28

I saw a child crying in the street once.

Mine have been locked in the house ever since.

I just can't take the risk.

Shutthatdoor · 24/03/2016 10:30

Worra

HamaTime · 24/03/2016 10:31

I don't want to worry you Worra but mine have been known to cry in the house.

WorraLiberty · 24/03/2016 10:33

Well the 24yr old is getting a bit tearful/restless.

But the other two are teenagers with WIFI and a local Pizza Hut delivery, so I don't think they've even noticed.

DurhamDurham · 24/03/2016 10:34

Mine once cried when I put her to bed so I've had to keep her up ever since......its been a long five years

curren · 24/03/2016 10:35

So the AIBU is

My son wants to do something, unt want him too because I spend all my holidays judging the parents that do this?

And for some unknown reason I love Portugal but don't trust the Portuguese people. Aibu?

What everyone else is doing is none of your business or concern.

Spend some time with you kids and get off MN. I bloody love Mn, can not imagine spending my holiday on it though. Whilst complaining that some parents don't see holidays as family time.

ExtraHotLatteToGo · 24/03/2016 10:38

Seriously, this place gets more batshit by the day.

ExtraHotLatteToGo · 24/03/2016 10:39

Nail on the head Curren!

AnnPerkins · 24/03/2016 10:40

I like DS to have the option to go but it's his choice and so far he hasn't wanted to.

TBH I would like him to go in for the odd half-day so he can have fun with kids his own age and DH and I can have some adult-time. If that makes me a bad person I can live with that.

I would miss DS if he went for the whole day, though, and wouldn't encourage him to go, unless he was really keen.

I'm a bit that this thread has turned so controversial though. Chill out, OP, you're on holiday!

xenapants · 24/03/2016 15:43

Absolutely batshit. This woman is still going to be wiping her kids' arses when they're teenagers, isn't she?

EverySongbirdSays · 24/03/2016 16:03

This whole but....THEY ARE PORTUGUESE.... THIS IS A PORTUGAL RESORT!

Is this some Maddie McCann induced paranoia?

Only1scoop · 24/03/2016 16:46

I've got visions of her Ds with his nose pushed longingly at the play club fun activity room....

Whist DM still mulling it over and weighing up the pros and cons

DurhamDurham · 24/03/2016 16:48

.........and asking strangers on Mumsnet to validate her mollycoddling parenting.

mouldycheesefan · 24/03/2016 16:51

Give your child away?
Because they fancy joining in with some dancing?
Get a grip! You are not 'giving your child away'. You have the opportunity to spend 1-1 time with your other child so do that instead whilst older one goes kids club.
My dcs love kids club. It's up to them when they go and when they don't.

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