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Original poster

To not want my child to go to one of those Kids' Clubs at a holiday resort?

139 replies

LightTurquoise · 23/03/2016 20:01

I have a 7 year old, who is more than happy to be in the pool and do stuff with us, so was DS who is 4, but we went into the hotel entertainment and the kids' club was just finishing off. He wanted to join in and he couldn't, but it was possible me for me to book it. I'm just not sure I want him to think that's what a holiday is. I want him to know its spending time with family, etc.

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Branleuse · 23/03/2016 20:35

up to you innit?

We sometimes go somewhere there is a kids club, and sometimes they go and sometimes they dont.

Nice for parents who have no other chance of a break

museumum · 23/03/2016 20:36

If we went to a holiday resort I'd have to let ds go to the kids club. He'd be gutted otherwise. It'd be like someone taking me to a spa then not letting me in the pool!

We don't really do resort holidays. We ski (ds goes to kids club) and we have a holiday where we spend the whole week all together in the campervan.

justmyview · 23/03/2016 20:37

If you can book by the day & he wants to go, what's the problem? Why should your wish to spend time with him take priority over his wish to join the fun and make some new holiday friends?

Wolpertinger · 23/03/2016 20:38

Next year book the sort of holiday that doesn't have a kids club and you have to do stuff together. Problem solved.

If you are at a big resort he'll see the kids' club and want to go.

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LightTurquoise · 23/03/2016 20:38

It's 7 hours, that's the issue. 2 - 3 would be fine.

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minipie · 23/03/2016 20:39

If you speak to the hotel I am absolutely sure they will allow him to join just for an hour or two.

TheFear · 23/03/2016 20:39

Jesus why are people so prescriptive?
The child is on holiday and wants to try something out. No harm in letting him try it once.
A holiday is for everyone, and to me a holiday means my family being happy and enjoying themselves. It also means everyone having a break.

My kids love having time with peers and I like eating with adults and drinking wine.

Next week we'll be in a hotel with an evening kids club that will allow my husband and I to eat alone, and the kids to do some art, play games and watch a movie with other children. What's so awful about that?

Summerblaze100 · 23/03/2016 20:39

Hey DS. Do you want to go to the kids club all day or spend time with me, your dad and sister going to .

Then it's his choice and he won't feel left out of your thing because he didn't want to do it in the first place.

Also, surely you don't have amazing things for a 4 year old planned all week so send him there and do one of the things he may not enjoy.

I don't think it's great to stick kids in kids club everyday and haven't been anywhere myself that have had them. But if the kids want to then why shouldn't they have the holiday they want.

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LightTurquoise · 23/03/2016 20:41

They all speak Portuguese.

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exLtEveDallas · 23/03/2016 20:42

You know, it's not a prison sentence. He doesn't have to stay there for 7 hours.

Sheesh.

MudCity · 23/03/2016 20:46

I think it is great he has shown an interest in doing an activity separate from you...he is finding his own feet and surely will cope so much better with school if he is encouraged to socialise with other children now.

And don't worry about the language barrier. Play is a way of communicating.

Good on him, I say. Let him try it. If he doesn't enjoy it or doesn't want to go again, he doesn't have to does he?

NewLife4Me · 23/03/2016 20:46

OP, I'll pm you.

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LightTurquoise · 23/03/2016 20:47

Okay, if I can check on him, every hour, to make sure he is enjoying it, he can go.

If seen a couple of little girls crying and being sent in their...

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BastardGoDarkly · 23/03/2016 20:49

Oh, I'd let him do one day, if you do it on a day you've not got anything massive planned? Maybe check in at lunch time, see if he's had enough?

Leslieknope45 · 23/03/2016 20:49

If you don't want him to go (which you clearly don't) then don't send him!!!!!

Leslieknope45 · 23/03/2016 20:50

I don't get all the angst over this. Don't send him then.

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LightTurquoise · 23/03/2016 20:50

How do I look at PMs from the app?

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MrsJayy · 23/03/2016 20:55

Just let him go if he fancies it you can spend time with your Dd your son can do his thing are you a wee bit miffed he wants to go instead of being with the family ?imo its his holiday too so whats the harm for 1 day

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LightTurquoise · 23/03/2016 20:57

I'm not miffed, of course he would want to do all the dancing, he loves all that.

I just don't think he gets its an all day thing! He loves being in the pool with DD

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MrsJayy · 23/03/2016 20:57

We let Dds go if we were not doing anything paticular that day was morning or afternoon sessions though

MrsJayy · 23/03/2016 20:59

Does it have to be all day can you not just go collect him all day is like daycare not a fun club iyswim

VelvetCushion · 23/03/2016 21:05

If it was a club that was for say an hour session whereby you can hang around the pool then fine.
If its an all day job then no. I would not want to go off and leave him there. I agree with you OP.
Could he just not go for an hour?

NewLife4Me · 23/03/2016 21:06

Sorry, I don't know.

There is no way in a million years I'd have sent one of my own.
Things have changed so much since I did the job, old gimmer but check your insurance from your company if you use outside company and check all that of hotel and know that they might have different policies and procedures etc.
If children are crying definitely not.
The rest in the pm if you ever find it.
Good luck

TendonQueen · 23/03/2016 21:09

I would be very surprised if, even though you have to book (and pay, if that's the gig) for a whole day, you couldn't just rock up and take him out after two hours. How could they stop you? I would book him in for one day, and go and collect a couple of hours later to do other stuff. Maybe your eldest would appreciate some one on one time, look at it that way?

I do think checking on him hourly is OTT. You'll make the kid anxious if you do that.

WipsGlitter · 23/03/2016 21:10

It's not prison. You can spring him get him when you want. Let him do a day and see how it goes.