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Who was BU, me driving or man on horse?

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EsmeraldaEllaBella · 20/03/2016 18:42

Sorry for another car thread! Name changed recently but am a regular poster

So today I was driving in the countryside, road is wide enough for 2 cars, 60mph road, very straight. There were 3 people in a line on horses coming towards me on the opposite side of the road. I was going about 40mph but slowed to 30mph when I saw them. The man on the front horse started waving his arms and looked really angry saying slow down slow down! Wtf? Angry horse people around here piss me off so much. Was I BU?!

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DallyDo · 26/03/2016 06:43

Was the thread mentioned though?

Mia1415 · 26/03/2016 07:30

30mph! Seriously? That's way too fast.

MrsDeVere · 26/03/2016 09:06

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Gabilan · 26/03/2016 09:35

It has been big news for a while because of the funeral crash a few weeks ago. Still, I do get the hump when journalists can't do the research they're paid to do and just piss around on the internet, getting more informed people to do their work for them.

Although not quite as much as I get pissed off when the OP starts saying "I ain't gonna" and then feigns ignorance of who Sid is.

FarrowandBallAche · 26/03/2016 09:46

Glad OP has seen some sense.

I can just imagine how angry that horse rider was.

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EsmeraldaEllaBella · 26/03/2016 10:08

Ffs mrsD stop being such a bitch.

I have been reading every response and as said in my pp I have learnt from my question

Yes I has recently name changed, because I'm a regular poster and try to NC every 6 months or so so details over several posts arents identifying. Yes I really was that ignorant in my op. yes I left the thread because I'd already said everything there was for me to say and quite frankly was so embarrassed to discover it had been taken up on h&h too.

I was embassed but have learnt. But seriously I am off mumsnet now. So thanks mrsD, you have put off a life time mumsnetter from ever coming back.

Thank you to everyone else, I really have learnt and passed a horse very slowly a few days after! Grin

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Gabilan · 26/03/2016 10:09

I did think about this thread the other morning as I was cycling into work and some twat in a van overtook me too close, too fast and with oncoming traffic that made the manoeuvre distinctly unadvisable.

I'd just passed a horse. I'd seen it well in advance. It wasn't bedecked in hi-viz but frankly it's a horse. It's quite big and if you're pedalling at 20mph, easy to see in advance. Being experienced, I summed up the situation as "hunt horse, well ridden by an experienced rider but on its toes and a little spooked by me". So I stopped pedalling and free-wheeled towards it at about 10mph from the time at which I was 60 yards away to when I passed it. It wouldn't have occurred to me to do any differently. I simply saw my "right" to the road and need to get into work as completely insignificant when compared with the safety of another human being and a horse. It would never have occurred to me to bleat about how the animal shouldn't be there or about the rider's tax, insurance and experience. I just slowed down and made sure we were all safe.

Then twatface in the van nearly took me out for the sake of waiting a few seconds until the oncoming car had passed and it was safe to overtake. I'd summarily take licences away. I bet people would suddenly develop respect and the ability to concentrate at that point.

SoupDragon · 26/03/2016 10:10
Hmm
FarrowandBallAche · 26/03/2016 10:11

Tootle pip OP

FarrowandBallAche · 26/03/2016 10:12

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EsmeraldaEllaBella · 26/03/2016 10:14

I just said I NC regularly

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FarrowandBallAche · 26/03/2016 10:15

Yeah whatever.

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EsmeraldaEllaBella · 26/03/2016 10:17

You seriously think some reporter would bother replying otherwise?

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FarrowandBallAche · 26/03/2016 10:20

Regulars know that MrsDevere is anything but a bitch.

Gabilan · 26/03/2016 10:29

OP there's been quite a lot going on on this forum recently that makes it difficult to trust anyone is who they say they are. MrsDeVere made it quite clear that you might be who you say you are but that she was a bit Hmm If you want to leave, well that's up to you but I doubt it's entirely because of something one poster said. You can't be that thin skinned if you've been on the internet a while. Perhaps just own the decision a bit more instead of blaming one person.

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EsmeraldaEllaBella · 26/03/2016 10:37

Yea fait enough gab, I'm very emotional and tired today

Sorry Sad

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WellErrr · 26/03/2016 10:45

Regulars know that MrsDevere is anything but a bitch.

True dat!

Glad you're slowing down now OP, but the flounce was a bit OTT

MrsDeVere · 26/03/2016 10:59

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Kewcumber · 26/03/2016 11:02

Roads are for cars

That statement is the basic problem with a significant minority of car drivers. They think "road users" means car drivers. They think that them being to drive as they like is more important than the safety of other road users. That they are more worthy.

I grew up in a horsey country area with hilly windy lanes around town. See my share of twitchy horses but I've always managed to be far enough away from them for it to be a minimal risk to me.

I always like it when anyone acknowledges my actions on the road - it makes me feel like part of a community of thoughtful road users. But it's really not a big problem if someone has their hands full or is just absent-minded about it.

As someone pointed out, I'm doing what I should I'm not a toddler I don;t need positive feedback to keep doing the right thing!

Hissy · 26/03/2016 11:56

Someone actually said "roads are for cars"?

Someone here is THAT stupid? Really? I'm horrified!

Roads were created for horse drawn vehicles... So actually roads are for horses more than they are cars!

RomComPhooey · 26/03/2016 12:04

I see the op got a unanimous YABU from the outset, but I will just add that a girl in my high school suffered a serious head injury after a speeding driver spooked her horse & it ran into the path of an oncoming car. Her horse had to be put down at the scene because of the serious injuries it had sustained. She was in hospital for months.

BoatyMcBoat · 26/03/2016 12:31

Weren't roads originally created by people walking between two points a sufficient number of times to make a track - which may even have started as a very small track made by animals.

Romans built some great roads, mainly for walking/marching on.

I don't think anyone can reasonably claim supremacy on the roads. Though some very entitled and ignorant- people try to.

Gabilan · 26/03/2016 12:50

Oh an awful lot of people pull the Roads Are For Cars shit, usually after they've done something stupid and dangerous that's put your life at risk. Then they start on "road tax", licence and insurance.

The fact that roads were for people walking and riding, and then armies, and then horse-drawn vehicles entirely passes them by. They aren't even aware of their own legal status on the road and completely ignore the fact that cars have been around for about 120 years and only became really common post WW2. It's one of things that makes me wonder if humans are an intelligent species at all.

80sMum · 26/03/2016 13:10

The British Horse Society's video DEAD SLOW should be shown on national TV.

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