NC as very outing.
I'll start by saying I've never bought into the idea that men 'look after' or 'babysit' their own children. They are their children FGS!
Today H wanted to go to watch the Rugby with his friends. All fine. I'm not his keeper so he can go and I hope he has fun. But I asked him yesterday to sit with ill ds whilst I got on with other things. He said he couldn't manage the whole day with ds as he'd need to speak with his mates about today's arrangements. I know he will come back later today totally wasted/ out of his head as he'll have been with 'the boys' watching the Rugby; so in my mind I thought it only fair that he did his 'parenting' yesterday as I know he'll be gone for most of today and most likely be good for shit tomorrow.
He thinks I was being entirely unreasonable and have put too much on his plate to contend with 
I asked him to go to pharmacy to get prescription for ds yesterday, he didn't go. I asked him to cook for dc yesterday, he ordered take-away. I honestly want to divorce him atm. I'm not asking for the moon on a stick!