Awkward one...

[Pippa12]

We have a family wedding in the near future. One child (5) is invited and the younger child (6 months) isn't? Bride has not said as such, just younger child's name not on invite? Assumed it had been a typing error (almost RSVPd yesterday with all our names on- would've been awkward!) but it's transpired that younger children aren't invited. Is this abit odd or am I being over sensitive. I'm not against child free weddings at all, in fact me and DH are generally chuffed about then . But to invite one child and not the other bearing in mind they're family? Is that normal? The plan was to take both and have them both picked up at 8'ish anyway but will feel bad asking babysitter to have youngest all day AND THEN come and collect eldest!

You HAVE to tell us the dress code!

Dresscode It's a good job im laid back!

I'd be leaving with her as well tbh.

A dress code as well?! They didn't also have a poem in the invite asking for money did they they sound like the perfect MN bride and groom!

If my DD was only invited so that she could be the window dressing, I would be leaving at the same time as her and not want to ruin her special day. Children are just tiny admittedly somewhat annoying people, not decorations!

They sound like cheeky fuckers, as a pp said your daughter is a child not an accessory. But at my age (late 50's) i don't really get child free weddings. I also wonder how the bride and groom will feel when they have kids who are basically not welcome and left out of family weddings.

i think it's awful. ok to have kids shower petals everywhere but then they must just fuck off and not be seen again. yuck.

Yes, leaving with her is probably an option. When we do go to weddings where kids are invited we get them picked up as its a long day for them and we get best of both worlds so DD won't be too confused by the set up but she generally has a drink and meal with abit of a dance first. The wedding when baby was 2 weeks old we left early due to being nakard, uncomfortable and still a hormonal mess. Well it's good to know I'm not completely out of touch with wedding etiquette and this is a odd set up. But as I said, each to their own, my head is held high.

Will your baby even care?

No he will have absoloutly no idea- as I've said he's 6 months old and he'll be none the wiser. But that doesn't mean I don't find it odd.

It is odd. In my experience it's the adults that don't behave at weddings anyway.

You can't keep us in suspense about the dress code OP

My money's on a startrek theme.

I can't say because it will probably out me, but let's just say it's not something you keep in your wardrobe! I've been very diplomatic so far so I'm not being caught out moaning on MN

I'm guessing a Tudor theme with a spit roast, falconry and all that shit

Haha scarletoverkill, that would probably break my patience 😂

Game of Thrones?

If you were bf I presume not or expressing? You might not be able to leave your ds. I think if you want a child free wedding fine but it's very bridezilla to have them and send them away when they are no longer useful to the wedding

I'd leave with Dd after the ceremony and take her somewhere special where she can wear her dress all day. I'd also leave dp at home with the baby rather than use a baby sitter (but that's my personal preference). It's definitely odd and really unfair IMO.

What's the dress code???

If anybody on this thread recognises this wedding as one the are invited to please reveal the dress code

Oh it's dp's family so I guess that's not an option. Horrid

They want your daughter there as a glorified decoration but she's not welcome to stay and she won't be in the photos? Bloody weirdos

See it's nice people like you OP who inadvertently keep utter narcissistic horse shit like wedding dress codes going. I would fuck them off for being utter twats. Well I say that; I would if it were friends. I appreciate family is more difficult. Them I'd just tell not to be so cocking ludicrous 😀

I don't get this, a child age 5 is a lot more trouble than a 6 month old! They have their crazy wedding brains on!

6 month old stay where they are put, do not answer back and only cry when they are wet, hungry or tired!!

5 year olds are a whole different ball game!

if there's a dress code, the there needs to be a subtle act of subterfuge. If it says "wear pink" then turn up in purple, with a pink carnation. Purple, you say? That's not purple, it's mauve and mauve is far more pink than purple [innocentface]