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Tell me about things that really piss you off even though you know you're being unreasonable...

548 replies

CrazyNewDogLady · 16/03/2016 16:26

I'll start.

My mum always puts 'your' in front of every single activity, work, hobby I do and it annoys the fucking life out of me. For example, me and DH bake a cake every Saturday because we're cool like that. Every time we speak on Saturdays she asks 'Did you do your baking today?'. I find it patronising, like she's saying 'Did you do your little baking activity today? Ah, good girl'.

I know I'm BU. I know she doesn't mean to be patronising but it boils my piss. But because I'm BU, I can't say anything. So I have to just fume quietly and vent on MN

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noddingoff · 17/03/2016 21:46

"Must have" as in "1000 must have handbags this March" especially when the unessential items described cost a couple of hundred pounds each.

People who offer to help when you are about a minute away from finishing the task you have been doing....usually getting in the way as you're going to the sink to drain boiling water off vegetables and co-ordinate everything. You should've asked when I was peeling the spuds, now just bloody well sit down at the table.

Jax123 · 17/03/2016 22:24

Ah yes, offering to help when I've nearly finished - we all know that ploy. Highly irritating.

Schwabischeweihnachtskanne · 17/03/2016 22:39

Making a statement into a rhetorical question by adding the word "no" and a question mark. DH does it and I see it on both MN and fb sometimes. It is condescending and aggressive, no? :o Although I think/ hope I am being Unreasonable to let it annoy me so intensely, as I am pretty sure that DH at least doesn't mean it to come across that way (can't be entirely sure about MNers :o ).

Getyercoat · 17/03/2016 22:55

Nosy fuckers, especially when it comes to money. "How much did you pay for that, do you mind me asking?"
Yes I do fucking mind you asking, do you want a copy of my mortgage application? If I wanted to tell you I'd have told you.

Sighers. My colleague sighs over nothing and it does my head in. You think this work is stressful? Off to Syria with you, that'll show you stressful.

Rainbunny · 17/03/2016 23:02

I agree about people who ask nosey money questions. I attended an industry event last month where I was sat with people of roughly my level of experience and position. Barely 15 minutes into it a male peer asked me straight out what my salary was and got testy with me when I declined to go into it. Since when did this become acceptable?

BreakfastAtStephanies · 17/03/2016 23:03

When I was about to serve dinner and wanted everybody to sit down at the table, DH would suddenly give the children important jobs to do JUST THEN , e.g. go and tidy your bedroom, put the lawnmower/your bicycle away in the garage, take this massive stack of random things upstairs and put them all away in the appropriate places.

No, DON'T send them away to the furthest most point away from the dining room. Dinner is ready NOW. I need them to sit down NOW. Any and all of these jobs are non-urgent and could be done at other points in the day/evening.

He has learned and changed the timing. DC still have to do their jobs.

I don't know why this annoyed me so much. Cold dinner wouldn't have done them any harm.

WhatALoadOfOldBollocks · 17/03/2016 23:04

My neighbour pratting about with his car day in day out. I catch glimses of him through the fence because he's right in my line of sight as I work on my laptop and it really irritates me. WTF are you doing to it!? Leave it alone and get indoors!

Leg jigglers. I was sat near one today whilst trying to concentrate on my work and every time he jiggled it rattled something. Tinkle tinkle tinkle. Grrrrr! Sit still FFS! Same for people clicking their pens, tapping pens on the table. Shut up. I admit I am sensitive to noise but it's like listening to a dripping tap.

HormonalHeap · 17/03/2016 23:06

Rainbunny it's acceptable in some other countries.. have to say it's unusual here though!

WhatALoadOfOldBollocks · 17/03/2016 23:07

I know I must BU because I'm in the minority on this but...why do most people walk so slowly?! I walk with a purpose whether I'm in a rush or not, yet everyone I know dawdles even when they do have to get somewhere quickly. When I go shopping there's never a soul who walks quicker than 1 MPH! Get a move on, you don't all have mobility problems.

Drivers whose speed is entirely dependent on whether they're going up or down hill, even when they have a vehicle that can easily cope with inclines. So in a 60MPH they end up doing 35MPH by the time they've reached the top then speed up to over 60MPH as they go downhill. They're normally the ones who drive well under the limit too.

Slow and/or hesitant drivers. If you can't drive up to the speed limit when the conditions are safe to do so, or you faff about at roundabouts and junctions, perhaps get some extra driving lessons or get off the road. You are not a good driver, you would fail your test if you drove like that.

Strangely I've often been described as "so patient" at work Grin

MrsOlaf78 · 17/03/2016 23:19

Toys with ridiculous amounts of packaging. It recently took me nearly fifteen minutes to liberate a Rapunzel doll who'd be bound up by an over zealous team of Christian Grays.

MrsOlaf78 · 17/03/2016 23:26

All these twatty modern verbs - skyping, tweeting, instagraming, Face-booking, blogging, vlogging, blah blah - why do we need so many words to describe boring the shit out of everyone.

springydaffs · 17/03/2016 23:28

Sex on the telly. I can't stand it, it's like watching people eating.

Plus I know how it's done, thanks.

BothBarrels · 18/03/2016 00:52

Obviously unnecessary replies to all on email.

#squadgoals AngryAngryAngry
#lifegoals AngryAngry

People tagging their friends in pics or a status saying, lunch with "this one" aarrrgggh just say their name!

Bae. Just, no.

TopHat33 · 18/03/2016 01:03

evenoldergregg yes! There's a particular friend if mine that puts full stops between every word on FB...why???

But then I posted from my phone once and did exactly the same as it seems the space and full stop got stuck/confused under my clumsy thumb. So that's why. But YANBU. If it ever happens I go back and rectify it because it's really annoying. HTH hun Grin

NorksAreMessy · 18/03/2016 06:45

I love my DH, he is the kindest, gentlest, most wonderful man.
But when I am arrested for his murder and dismemberment, it will be because
HE WILL NOT CHOOSE A SPOT TO PARK Angry

He drives round and round the car park, often passing several PERFECTLY GOOD spaces, before parking in the next county.

I now say 'drop me at the door and I will see you in the cafe' or similar.

angelos02 · 18/03/2016 07:06

People that don't understand the 'do not undo your seatbelt before the plane comes to a standstill & the seatbelt light goes' off instruction & start opening the overhead lockers. What's the rush?

BarbaraofSeville · 18/03/2016 07:31

I'm with you on that one angelos.

I especially hate that when you are sat in the aisle seat in the middle/back of the plane and the person near the window is pestering you to get up and get your stuff out of the locker even though the aisle is full of other people and there is no space to stand in even if you are prepared to get intimately close to a stranger.

It was even worse the last time I flew because by the time I got on all the lockers were full and I had to put my bag about 10 seats behind where I was sitting so I knew I wouldn't be able to retrieve it until most of all of the people behind me had got off the plane (one of those where you connect to the sky bridge rather than use steps, which could be at the back too).

Far better to just sit and relax for a few more minutes rather than stand and wait for everyone in front of you to stop faffing.

In fact, almost all behaviour by other people associated with air travel irritates me immensely.

'Forgetting' the liquid regulations that have been in place for about 10 years and then moaning about having to throw away your new shampoo.

Sitting down suddently in the security queue to sort your liquids and electronics causing me to almost fall over you as I am walking along.

Putting small bags in the overhead locker when the crew have told you to put it under the seat to save space in the lockers for trolley cases - the last flight I took almost missed it's slot due to this.

Turning phones on before 'allowed' when the plane has landed. I know it's a stupid pointless illogical rule, but can't you wait another 5 mins to check FB. You can't all be waiting for news on a terminally ill relative.

Standing for ages chatting with your mates in the emergency exit /extra legroom area and giving me dirty looks when I accidentally kick you on the one occasion that I have paid to sit in those seats. Pretending not to notice that your baby needs its nappy changing despite half the plane gagging due to the smell.

Being pissed on early morning flights. I know you are on holiday but I was looking forward to a quiet couple of hours snoozing and reading not being bumped about by your waving arms and listening to you shouting at your mate across the aisle about how wasted you are going to get in Magaluf. I honestly think that they should do separate flights to Mallorca for the naice places and the Magaluf crowd .

Sitting immediately behind me and talking loudly for the entire flight.

KondoLisaNice · 18/03/2016 07:34
  1. At work, people who introduce themselves with their very well paid job title then say "for my sins". ( If you don't want to do it fuck off and leave it to someone who does).
  2. On the radio the new fashion of starting sentences with ""So..."
cantbelieveImquittingcoffee · 18/03/2016 07:37

oh god yolofish my DM and DF both say Wai'rose instead of the proper way. Didn't used to be a problem when it was just a fancy London thing but now one opened up v near their home and they like to go for the free coffee. Also DM pronounces the country of Malay-see-ah instead of Malay-sha and seck-sual instead of sexual (not that this comes up too much thank gawd...). Makes me wish I was adopted.
Also - am pregnant so the entire world gives me the rage at the moment. Especially people in the gym changing room who ask me to move so they can get to their locker when I am sitting down to change my trousers. CAN'T YOU SEE I'M THE SIZE OF A HOUSE AND CAN'T STAND ON ONE LEG AT A TIME?? I will only be a second FFS.

MrsJayy · 18/03/2016 07:42

Chompy noisey kissing on tv its not needed.

tibbawyrots · 18/03/2016 08:09

My OH who drives around a car park to find the space nearest the shop entrance. I can walk across a car park, it's my hearing that's dodgy not my legs!

Also speaking to me as a lorry thunders by and looking away from me. I can only lip read if I can see your mouth! I've stopped apologising for not hearing what he said instead I just say "I can't hear you when you look away" because while it may be infuriating to have to repeat yourself, it's more bloody infuriating to just keep hearing "mumble mumble mumble" 😠

caperberry · 18/03/2016 08:18

People who speak louder than the average person. There's been times when I've been out with my friend in a very quiet cafe/restaurant and everyone around will be glancing over to see exactly who is sharing details of their life at such a loud volume and it's like she doesn't notice or just doesn't give a fuck. It's not like she's boasting either, the topic of conversation could be as mundane as the weather and she'll be declaring it to seemingly the whole bloody room.
Someone at my work asks me (when it's just us two in the room) "how are we?!" I have no clue how you are but I'm fucking fine thank you!

Katiepoes · 18/03/2016 08:26

People clapping along with music. This truly is unreasonable of me but I instantly despise all those doing it.

Also - for the poster with the people asking what DC would like as gifts - how about when you make a nice list with lots of choice, then the people buy NOT ONE THING from that list. Yes you SIL and MIL - if I'd known you'd do that Santa would have taken care of it, it is after all what the child actually asked for.

RoboticSealpup · 18/03/2016 08:36

Things being described as 'local'. What does that even mean?

'You can get it in your local pharmacy'. Really? Only in my local pharmacy? Can't I just get it in any fucking pharmacy, local or not?

I once saw a park being described as 'local'. "I love Nonsuch Park, it's just so local. Yeah, good for you. It's close to your house. Unless I'm your neighbor, why should I care?

OK, fine. I know that 'local' also has some kind of parochial connotation and implies that something is used mainly by people who live nearby, which just makes it worse because I hate people and I hate bumping into familiar faces expecting smalltalk

Wordsaremything · 18/03/2016 08:46

'I was sat' 'can I get' 'pant' 'trouser' 'enjoy!'

'Personal belongings' 'station stop' 'arriving into'

'Works night out' ( not factory workers, office people, mainly professionals'

' I turned round and said'

American pronunciation: 'clurk' for clerk and lootenant for lieutenant.

Gonna, gunna, gotten.

Other people. Especially those who feel the need to fill every silence with inane chatter.

Arrrrggghhh. I spend a lot of time quietly seething.

Feel better now! Grin