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AIBU?

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There's accommodating everyone on holiday and then there's Donald Trumpt

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MoodSwingsAndRoundAboutz · 15/03/2016 07:45

DH and I are taking my son (15) and his two sons (19 and 21) to New York in August. We've tried to accommodate everyone in planned activities but DSS1 is insisting on us going to a Donald Trump Rally while we're there as its "funny". Personally I'm refusing to have my name or my DSs name associated with it and I will not spend my time in NYC watching a nazi campaigning. DH however is going along with him saying we need to be accommodating. His younger son also does NOT want to do this. Obviously i can choose to just not join them but AIBU to expect DH to support me with this? We're only there for four days. What a waste of time

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RuggerHug · 15/03/2016 07:47

It's a waste of their time. Do something you want with the other two and let them know they decided to watch that asshat over....whatever the rest of you do.

AllPizzasGreatAndSmall · 15/03/2016 07:48

He's 21, he can go on his own.

RatOnnaStick · 15/03/2016 07:50

Tell them no. Its not what the holiday is for. If either of the two older boys want to do it they can book and pay for their own trip at another time.

Surely he's saying it to get a rise out of you anyway if he just thinks its funny? He'll have moved on by august.

RebootYourEngine · 15/03/2016 08:10

I agree with rugger do something fun and exciting with the other two boys and make sure you take plenty of photos to not so gently rub it in

Pastamancer · 15/03/2016 08:22

Have you seen the post going around Facebook where someone went to one for a laugh and actually found it rather threatening and scary?

iseenodust · 15/03/2016 08:29

Just come up with some many other decent options to fill the four days that it just has to give. Is there a baseball game/fab show/helicopter trip that can only be done at the same time? There are five of you going for four days so you have no time for an activity that only one really wants to prioritise.

MaidOfStars · 15/03/2016 08:34

Send him on his own.

But you're doing something wrong in NY if you have time for political rallies.

GloGirl · 15/03/2016 08:37

God, I'd just tell him that there's no way you'd tolerate someone going on holiday with you and standing in support of a bigot. And if he's not cheering for Donald Trump, he will get the shit kicked out of him so he'd better be wearing a big Trump badge, and waving an American flag if he wants to go.

MorrisZapp · 15/03/2016 08:40

Is there a website or something with Trumps rally dates on it? August is light years away in political terms.

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 15/03/2016 08:42

It's unlikely to take all day is it? Dh and Dss spend a couple of hours doing that whilst you all do something else and then meet up.

If the two of them want to do it, I don't think your wishes supersede theirs tbh just because you don't.

Renniehorta · 15/03/2016 08:50

It would be a very interesting experience, very illustrative of a certain section of American life, much more so than shopping or visiting monuments. Let him go. You go do something you want to do.

VertigoNun · 15/03/2016 08:55

Do your own thing whilst they partake in their own thing.

PaulAnkaTheDog · 15/03/2016 08:58

As much as I hate Trump, I could understand the appeal of experiencing an American political rally. They seem to be a totally different experience than events across here.

noddingoff · 15/03/2016 09:05

I'd let him go alone or with his dad while you do something with the others, but would insist that he doesn't drink and stays "undercover" with an American flag etc. Because if he gets tempted to start good old British ripping the piss out of Trump supporters, or even a gently sarcastic slagging, he's likely to wreck everyone's holiday by ending up in hospital or a police station.

RhombusRiley · 15/03/2016 09:10

Agree with noddingoff. Let them go, and make your first priority be chatting to the other two about what fun thing they would like to do at the same time. BUT if they are going to the rally because it would be a laugh they need to take care not to rub people up the wrong way. There has already been violence associated with the campaigning IIRC.

CwtchesAndCuddles · 15/03/2016 11:12

He's 21 he can go on his own!!!!

PuntasticUsername · 15/03/2016 11:35

Have you posted about this trip before? It all sounds very familiar.

WorraLiberty · 15/03/2016 11:39

He can go on his own at 21.

Your DH can go with him if he fancies it.

OP, I know more about your holiday planning woes with this trip than I have ever known about anyone elses

Yambrel · 15/03/2016 11:43

I wouldn't do it. No-one will know you're doing it ironically so it will look as if you are supporting him and bumping up the numbers. Plus you'll have to be polite to the people around you. Imagine if cameras film you and you end up on tv!

Choughed · 15/03/2016 12:18

He can go on his own. I actually think it's a good idea - exposure to local politics. Shows he's aware of and interested in current affairs.

(When I was on holiday in Washington DC I sat in on a Supreme Court case for a day and loved the experience).

SquinkiesRule · 15/03/2016 13:37

Surely by August there won't be any more rallies unless Trump has won the primaries. The last Primaries are in June. please god don't let Trump win the republican primary vote

SenecaFalls · 15/03/2016 15:07

There will be Trump rallies for the general election if Trump is the nominee, but there is no way to know if there will be one, and if so, when it would be, in NYC. My guess is that it is highly unlikely that he will hold one in NYC in August.

Birdsgottafly · 15/03/2016 15:12

I think that you will have to see what the mood is like at the rallies at that time, they seem to be getting more and more violent.

I agree that he can go on his own if he wants to see one, I don't think that it is a laughing matter if DT gets through to the next stage, tbh.

firesidechat · 15/03/2016 15:18

I didn't think you were married yet op. Isn't the wedding soon or were you calling it all off?

firesidechat · 15/03/2016 15:22

Have you posted about this trip before? It all sounds very familiar.

Yes, she has indeed.

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