To think horrible SILs have taken over horrible MILs

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I hate my SIL she is totally batshit crazy but until i came on here I did not realise how common it was. There seems to be at least three SIL threads a day. What has happened to trigger to rise of the batshit Sister in law

I like both my SILs, one has very similar interests and we go on holiday together.

I have one crazy sil and one crazy ex sil.

I hear they speak highly of me

Not always a love them or hate them thing. I'm completely lukewarm about all my inlaws.

DB's wife is a nice enough a woman. We're not close, and don't have a lot in common, but hey ho. They've been together forever and seem very happy, which is the main thing. DM doesn't like her very much, but I think any huge drama died down years ago.

BIL's wife isn't batshit crazy, but she is a bit unkind and judgemental, and I don't really enjoy her company. I can get along with her when needed, but rather avoid spending too much time together.

I only have one SIl - very self obsessed unpleasant character - no interest in anyone else but herself - and MIL seem to (mistakenly) believe that everyone is fascinated by SIL - sadly SIL is a creation of MIL who has encouraged /demanded this kind of self important nonsense in relation to SIL. We basically don't give in to it and just deal with her on our own terms or not at all after many years of bending Over backwards wich was never reciprocated nor thanked- we stopped with it when we had DC as we didn't want them dragged into a whole range of unfair ridiculous expectations

However I know many others who have great relationships with their SIL and when I was a child most of my aunties on both sides were really nice decent people - many really went above and beyond for nieces and nephews despite having little money and kids themselves

I think it's just luck of the draw often the MIL will have created the SIL attitude issues. Also in my case I only have one SIL I think the more you have the more likely one of them will be decent

My SIL is the first feminist to ever have children. She seems to lack self awareness on a huge scale.

She is a very intelligent woman, but she has that irritating habit of oneupsmanship: we don't have kids yet, but nothing in anyone's lives is as bad as her personal hardship of life with a baby and toddler (with the help of a live in nanny). My husband recently had a really bad work trip with extended flight delays at both ends and posted on Facebook that he was a bit cross at the final delay; her contribution was to say 'well you could be delayed with a toddler and baby! See life's not so bad! ' We are ttc and not doing very well at it, but she doesn't know this.

I used to just read and roll my eyes but I really stopped bothering with her just after my wedding when she announced in a mass email 5 days after the big day that after describing our wedding, the previous two weeks had been 'the worst fortnight of her life'. It was really fuck you and fuck you for saying that - I know she meant that she'd had a tough time with her kids, but if you didn't know better, the wedding was the reason for her distress.

My mother in law is great though. Like her a lot!

Wow lots and lots then

On my side I love my Sil's they are great, different but both fab. I think my sister might be the bat shit sister in law on our side as she has had her moments including a bit of a jk moment at a wedding and my brother in law is great. On partners side I dont know, we dont hate each other and its realitively polite we have very different values and are not really in contact expect at family events when we are both there. I have a feeling that to them I am the bat shit crazy horrible Sil because their precious lazy good for nothing brother can do no wrong and slates me to them. Mil and all the rest of the family are ok.
It wont be forever

DH has two sisters. SIL1 is lovely though we see her rarely and she doesn't live near. SIL2 is a total fucking bitch.

No I have a darling xSIL. We spend weekend away together. She is ace.

I may have been a fairly challenging SIL to my brother's partners in days gone by in an intentional and ghastly way. He chose the same gormless lumps for a while which I snarled my way through.

I have a lovely SIL from him too now so my chickens never came home to roost......so far

I have 3 SILs
2 are really very lovely people and 1 is a massive fucker that I really don't like at all. We were never going to be best buds but the accumulation of shit over the years is too much for me these days. It's causing problems as I just don't want to see her, DH can see her whenever he wants I just won't see her.

I haven't ever written about her on here apart form one comment a long time ago under another username. Maybe I should.

Have you got a good story Piemernator ?? Sounds like it, we're all ears!

I would hate to be accused of trolling so even though I have contemplated writing about it in detail I haven't.

I have however gone NC with her which is causing a rift between DH and I. At no point have I ever said he cannot see her or any such unreasonable demand.

She is someone I tolerated and never really liked but she is my SIL so bit my tongue for 16 years. She always falls out with people she works with. I am reminded of that saying how if you meet an arsehole and then meet another and then another you have to consider that actually maybe you are the arsehole.

Amongst other things she actually hit my child and that was the turning point for me. I wasn't vocal at the actual time, it would have made a scene due to my anger levels and we were at Wembley at the time. Her own Mother has admitted her DD is a bully. DH reply last night to the ongoing loggerhead is as she is his big sister maybe she thought she had the right to discipline our child.

DH reply last night to the ongoing loggerhead is as she is his big sister maybe she thought she had the right to discipline our child

Eh, what now?

Just no.

Oh god she seems vile - why would anyone think you were trolling is she so bad it might sound made up?

Yes she is so bad it does sound made up, like a bad movie villain.

Just dipping back into this thread a day late - no, not that elephant. Those campaigners are even further off the planet than my ex-inlaws by the look of it, which takes some doing.

I have some amazing stories but cannot change my username to start a new thread she needs a thread

Yup I have a batshit crazy almost SIL. DP's sister.
She is absolutely horrendous. The things that woman has done and said.
We split up because of it because neither of us could stand it anymore (and the MIL is pretty bad too)
However, we realized we wanted to be together despite all of the horrendous behaviour from his family. We were apart for 4 months and all was quiet on the SIL front.
She got wind of us being back together and all hell has broken loose again.
Unbelievable.

There seems to be a bit of a pattern in that many nightmare SILs seem to be competitive. Same with mine, always has to be Queen Bee and hold court, enabled by DH's family. Always had to have new stuff, even when just moved house and not working etc. In the end FIL had to bail them out, which meant we had to bail FIL out, which was a bit much as we always used to have to save up for stuff.
But I have to say, she is very entertaining (though always horrible to me - going down to the beach with the rest of the family without telling me, leaving me on my own with a newborn on a family holiday - that kind of thing), so everyone loves her. I'm quite introverted, so never going to be the life and soul. Never expected her to want to be my best friend but could have done without the cutting comments and the being blanked/sniggered at etc.

My sil isnt too bad...as long as I have limited contact with her...the issue is her parents/my pils who treat their only darling daughter as the pampered princess she is, and spoil the shit out of her.

Mine are utterly, utterly lovely and normal

(and this thread is semi zombie!)

Both my sil are lovely - mil makes up for it though. Not truly nasty but makes us think she's okay and then does something totally bonkers/self centred/guilt-inducing. At one point they hated me but seems sil is the new focus and I'm the good one. That may have changed - hard to keep up. To be fair my sils are either 4 hours away by car or a 9 hour flight so maybe distance helps!

I have two SILs who are really lovely and only slightly batshit. My BIL on the other hand is batshit and utterly vile.