To think horrible SILs have taken over horrible MILs

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I hate my SIL she is totally batshit crazy but until i came on here I did not realise how common it was. There seems to be at least three SIL threads a day. What has happened to trigger to rise of the batshit Sister in law

SIL (DB's wife) is fabulous. That her interests coincide with mine is a bonus, but I can't imagine anyone not liking her unless they were determined not to. Both XSILs were lovely but barking. I'm still occasionally in touch with XBIL's XW (you follow?) and she's settled down a bit in recent years, though always working hard and deeply caring about any person or animal in need. Haven't had anything to do with XH's DSis since the divorce, she's even further off the planet (I used to think XH was the sane one!) but does have a good heart. She paid for three of my DC to visit her overseas at vast expense and they had a terrific time. She's the one who gave the falconry centre a hard time for chaining the poor birds to their perches and not giving them a television to watch. Her long-term partner left her due to her obsession with an elephant. (Not a romantic obsession, I hasten to add. Even XH's family weren't that peculiar.)

we both hate wasps and mil thinks you should show no weakness to them

Your MIL is right, Northernlurker. Wasps are terrible bullies. If you run away they run after you. If you flap at them they get all excited and will sting. The best way to deter the feckers, if they're determined to make a nuisance of themselves, is to punch them between the eyes.

I love both my SILs (DH's sister & Dbro's wife). They are some of my closest friends as well as my family and I would do anything for either of them.

We differ in opinions and approaches to lots of things, but have a similar filthy sense of humour which makes family gatherings a riot

I have lovely SILs, it's DH who's been lumbered with the batshit ILs.

MIL is lovely. Her two DD? One SIL is lovely but sadly lives on the other side of the world, the other is miserable and lives an hour away. SIL's finest moment was coming to our house and totally ignoring me, as in not even saying hello when I greeted her, because of some perceived slight. The ILs all pander to her so no-one said anything! She's currently very cross as we got a cat and she doesn't like them (she blames me for this). The corresponding BIL are quiet and unfriendly but don't cause me any bother.

On my family's side, my SIL is lovely and my two BIL are lovely. Phew!

Obsession with an elephant!?

My DBro remarried last year, SIL is nice enough but a bit of a drip, but shes nice to my DDs and makes him happy so thats all that matters. We dont live near each other so rarely see them.
ExSil wasn't my type of person either, a bit competitive. I was hurt that she had nothing to do with my DDs after they broke up though.

DHs sister is bonkers. We are NC but I have no idea why . She hasnt been near us since the day DD2 was born 14 years ago. She lived 10 minutes away but wouldn't come to see us or the DDs.
She was in a new relationship and said she couldn't come round when invited for dinner with new bf because he had a big nose and we wouldn't be able to keep quiet about it . DH gave up at this point.

Mil told me once about how SIL and her new DH, (don't know about the size of his nose, we weren't invited to the wedding,) loved the DDs and watching them grow up.

This confused me because they lived in a different country. Apparently they had been home and hid behind cars in a shopping center car park watching us one day.

MIL is an absolute cunt.

My SIL is lovely but DSis SIL is full on batshit crazy. Her MIL is lovely too but she definitely drew the short straw with her daughter in law (not DSis). She held a grudge that DSisMIL held her daughter when she came home from the hospital. I'm talking about for 5 minutes. She and DSisBIL moved across town from living behind MILs house without telling anyone. It gets worse, far worse but it would out me.

Luckily DP is an only child so I only have to deal with his mother.

My brother's last girlfriend was a horror, I think we all breathed a sigh of relief when that finally ended!

This confused me because they lived in a different country. Apparently they had been home and hid behind cars in a shopping center car park watching us one day

Jesus that's creepy

I have brilliant SILs in the main. The odd hiccups here and there but I love them all. My own family can be a bit of a PITA at times so I don't know how we ever managed to marry.

Both sides of DHs family are batshit. I'm not sure how he hows managed to end up so normal.

There have been appalling FIL and BIL as well, but they don't seem to cause as much heat on threads - presumably because very, very few posters can identify with either variety of batshit relative? Whereas most of us either are, or may one day be, a SIL, MIL, or DIL.

IL is an inherently hard relationship, I think. Just by its nature.

Well I have a nasty MIL and I only dislike one BIL as he doesn't bother with his brother (my dh) and our kids but expects us to play happy families with his wife and youngest child (his previous three don't count as they aren't his current partners). I also have horrible GILs (husbands nanna's on both sides).

It gets worse, far worse but it would out me.

I have lovely dreams, where PoisonousSIL recognises herself in my posts and gets so angry that so many anonymous people know that I have seen through her saccharine shite

Even when I realise this means I give her some thought, occasionally, I still smile. The bitch in me whispers that I am in a far better place than she is

I have a batshit sil and bil!

They are both a total nightmare! I don't talk to either of them after they threatened to kill me on Facebook.

The comments about my disability were pretty below the belt as well

Obsession with an elephant!?

Animal rights campaign involving a solitary elephant in a zoo, in apparently unsuitable conditions. SIL became so involved that apparently she stopped talking about anything else for the duration. She kept sending the DC emails and cuttings about it until it was eventually successfully shipped off to a safari park with other elephants and space to roam. Which is nice, you know, but in between a campaign there has to be a bit of room for real life. Round about the time the elephant moved out, so did her husband

I like my SILs fine..never going to be best friends but they are decent people.
I know one of them really isn't keen on me though! She disapproves of how often I go out and of the fact that her DB does his fair share around the house. I don't hold it against her though, I blame FIL and his wretched, old fashioned opinions which he has indoctrinated his whole family with. Lazy oaf.

Is there a FIL thread by any chance? Cause mine is a real prize.

Annie

Was it this elephant?

m.youtube.com/watch?v=BLC7u_1Yp_w

Just before I met my husband two of his brothers wives had fought in the garden and had to be prized apart by my now FIL. From that moment on I was content that a) I wouldn't be the batshit crazy one b) my crazy family would seem quite normal in comparison.

I have 7 SIL's (both DP and I have massive families) and they are all fine. I'm closest to Dbro's partner - they've been together going on 20 years and we are good friends. All the others I see less regularly but we all keep in touch.

Maybe I've nicked all the good ones?

Oh and I adore my MIL maybe this isn't the thread for me

I have 2 sil I would happily go round with if try lived near. And the other who I just don't feel I have much in common with. I find her a bit materialistic and self centred, as her oh is. I think it's that they feel we should be terribly jealous of them (we're not) so they try and flaunt things in front of us to make us And they like everyone to think they're so busy so any family event tends to have them desperately trying to make it revolve round them.

I am a sil and I know that my bro's girlf doesn't really like me. Don't know why, its complicated. But its sadly drawn my bro and I apart. C'est la vie.

I don't hate my SiL, but she is crazy, and I feel sorry for my db!