Or is DH about snack food?

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This is petty, you have been warned.

We are skint (not on the breadline, but one income at the moment) and trying to cut back on things. We used to top the teenagers' lunch money up with £50 a month but this was unsustainable so now they take a packed lunch. Part of the lunch is a kit Kat or similar. So obvs we have these in the cupboard. Dh also takes a packed lunch.

I was at home with the preschooler today and after a big breakfast and lunch he was still hungry this afternoon. Our shopping day is tomorrow so there were slim pickings in the house, we'd run out of bananas and apples and there were only prawn cocktail crisps left so I gave him a kitkat.

Dh got really pissy about this when he got home, even though I'd made sure there were enough left for tomorrow. He says that I shouldn't let ds2 have the packed lunch food, I said that he's a growing boy and needs to eat between meals (he's a bit of a grazer anyway).

So the upshot is, I've ordered plenty of snacky things for everyone this week which means the food bill has gone up slightly. AIBU to think food is the one thing I'm not prepared to scrimp on, and dh needs to be a bit more accommodating about the whole 'snacks' issue? He thinks we should all be eating three meals and that's it except he eats at least four bowls of cereal a day.

He's just nipped out and I've put the online shop through, which he will check when he gets in and query all the snacks. So do I stand my ground or not?

Ocado! When trying to save money. WTAF.

Morrisons use the same delivery service as Ocado but for about 2/3 the cost. Worth a try.

We're skint because I had to leave my job after severe MH problems. We're not on the breadline but we've gone from not really having to check what we're spending to having a strict budget.

We don't have a lidl or Aldi near enough to justify it, a trip would wipe out any savings in petrol costs.

Next time get the kid to regurgitate the KitKat and put it in your husband's packed lunch. He won't complain again.

He sounds a control freak and a killjoy

Checking your shopping so you don't spend to much

What Velvet said! It'll save you a lot of money, and yes kids need snacks they're little grazers and it's unfair to begrudge a child of a kitkat..but when money's tight I know it causes pretty non issue arguments

Have you tried making your own snacks? Muffins, cookies, flapjacks, cereal bars? Maybe worth a go - will keep the preschooler occupied & full as well!

How far is the nearest aldi or lidl? I can save £10-15 easily by going to one and that's on a £50-65 shop. I'm sure your petrol costs aren't more than £5?

He's cross with you over a kitkat from ocado? that cost 50% more than kitkats anywhere else

Looked on mysupermarket - 16 2 finger kitkats
Ocado £2.69
Morrisons £2.00
Own brand would be £1.50 max Aldi or Lidl and just as nice/choc probably nicer

Your budget would be flexible enough to accommodate a few hundred kitkats if you used a different supermarket op.

We have times of flushness when I toy with the idea of ocado. I do an online shop, get halfway through and cancel the fecking thing as it is really expensive. And I am not a careful shopper and quite happily blow £60 in marks and spencers for a weekend shop.

Unless you are getting to the aldi in a light aircraft you will save a fortune! Even tesco would be cheaper!

So he's allowed snacks but nobody else is,or is it he is and the other kids are but preschooler is not?

Aldi do lovely chocolate and biscuit bars called diggers there are 18 in a pack for £1.05. They're approx size of a club biscuit, dd takes one to school for a break time snack.

Aldi make own version kit Kats too. Can't remember how much they are tbh.

He's very unreasonable to be checking through your shopping list like that.

You would be a lot better off if you swapped supermarkets though - Asda or even Sainsburys would be cheaper.

OP even sainsbury or tesco would be cheaper.

Phequer, Aldi do lovely crisps. Beef in red wine or vintage ale cheddar....yum.

The Kitkats were a pound for 12. I am careful about using special offers and multibuys, and dh is even more careful. He's just been through it and swapped some bits around (and he did comment on the snacky stuff but left it alone!) and our whole week shop has come to £70, which for five of us plus cat and dog isn't too bad I don't think?

Do you have any Kitkats left? If you do....can you go and eat one right in front of him please

Fake KitKats? NOOOOOOOO!!!

I personally would try another cheaper online shop (Asda etc) and look at other snacks you can do.

When I was younger I made a celery and cheese loaf, savoury scones, fruit scones, flapjacks, cornflake cakes (chocolate) with my mum every week. We even made the odd quiche come summer time too for my packed lunches as I was a fussy eater.

We were a "frugal" family but mum ensured we had crisps, chocolate bars (normally Jacobs Club etc) as children in our packed lunches and always yogurts and fruit. We were also allowed a couple of treats a week (I liked a couple of big bags of BBQ Hula Hoops plus creme caramels. When older we did have more snacks but i actually preferred huge sandwiches (mighty white?!) and stuff like cheese on crackers etc. this was before the days of Cheese Strings etc but we did have stuff like DairyLea Triangles and Muller Corners.

I agree re Poundland/Home Bargains, Lidl etc for chocolate etc. but no way let your DH deprive your kids of food even if it is snacky stuff.