To think that you shouldn't put naked pictures of your kids on Facebook

[coralpig]

I'm Facebook friends with a mother (we don't know each other in real life but our kids share an activity).
She has 3 kids of primary school age and has put up lots of photos of them completely nude with the way they are positioned obscuring their private parts. The children look really really smiley and relaxed in the photo and I think it's totally fine for them to enjoy being naked around each other. However I do think that it's massively inappropriate and quite unsafe to put these on Facebook. Mother in question has a private profile but hundreds of fb friends. What do you think? Is it my place to send her a message saying I think she should them down for the safety of the children? WWYD?

Dovinia a child of five can't consent to having photos put on Facebook. If you're worried about his consent you shouldn't post anything.

I agree with what many posters have said here about how these photos can spread to strangers.

I wonder if you and I know the same woman OP. When her children were small my friends sister put naked photos of her nieces in the bath up on Facebook. I mentioned it to my friend, who was horrified. They don't much get on so rather than confront her she reported the photos and they were taken down.

This same sister, literally yesterday has put 'arty' pictures of all 3 of her own children in the bath. We aren't friends on Facebook anymore, but I have seen the picture because I am friends with the childrens GM who has shared it, which just goes to show how people you aren't even friends are being shown naked pics of your kids.

My BFF's XP used to frequently post naked and half naked pics of their DD2 - so much so that my own DM commented it was odd. He never did the same with the other DDs and it started to appear rather creepy.

I don't think I will message her anymore as we don't know each other. However I think I should still report the photos. Does Facebook let the person know who reported it?

Exactly, it only has to be screenshotted by somebody, and its all over the internet, in anyone's hands.

You've all gone completely batty! Get a chuffing grip!

Children's bodies aren't sexual. They're beautiful innocent little creatures - literally, creatures, just like puppies. Should we stop putting pictures of naked puppies on the internet - is that creepy too?

There is no harm caused whatsoever by having these photos on show. In fact you could probably argue that normalising their nudity would be a force for good.

This attitude of hiding them away because it's 'creepy' can only result in an increase in the belief that there's something wrong with the image of a naked child when in fact there is NOTHING wrong with it.

In the rare case that a child suggests they actually give a shit, remove the picture(s).

FFS!

Concerned have you rtft? The bits about social media being a well known place for paedophiles to access and share photos of naked children?

Why, WHY would any sane person risk this happening to their child? All for a few likes?

YOU are the one that needs to get a grip.

Nudity is not wrong.
Uploading photos of your naked children into the Internet IS WRONG.

But sadly concerned some sick fuckers DO find children bodies sexually actractive and parents should take every precaution to insure these bastards don't get their hands on pictures of their children....

Actually, anyone who doesn't realise, in 2016, that publically sharing photos of your nude children on the net is wrong, is a fucking idiot and needs reporting.

Why, WHY would any sane person risk this happening to their child?

Actually, nothing would happen to the child. An image is not the same thing as a child. If someone photoshopped her skin to be blue it wouldn't make her a smurf.

(She spends a lot of time nude but I don't share pics of her like that.)

Disappointed you seem very naive about this.

If a police officer came to your house or child's school to say that they had identified them on photos being shared and used by paedophiles, would you and your child be affected?
Or would you just laugh and say 'oh it's only a body! That person doesn't even exist any more! It's just a child, loosen up!'

The problem is not for today's primary aged child, it is for the teenager and adult they will grow into. Because those naked pictures will still be on the internet when they are all grown up and wanting a bit of privacy.

disappointed one.. 2 girls in my DD'S class started their periods when they were 9.. its very common for girls to be developing younger and younger, so I think your 'under 10' needs a thorough review.

I recently discovered that it is illegal to own an image (even of yourself as a child) of a child totally naked with the private parts exposed.
So posting a childs privates online is deffo illegal. I wouldn't post my naked child with privates hidden online. Once those images have been published, I have no control over them and cannot dictate what 100's Facebook friends may do with the images. I get they're innocent children, who by the time they potentially end up in the wrong hands may no longer exist because they're older. However, I don't want some pedo jerking off to my kid or anyone else's for that matter.

Exactly Perspicacia.

I know that my parents have bath photos of me - in albums.

But when I was being bullied at school, if my bullies had been able to just go a few years back on Facebook and find nude photos of me, I'm sure it would not have been very nice. Luckily I grew up before social media took off!

I'm glad of that aswell ohshutuptomas kids are living in a bullies dream world now...

My parents have naked pics of me, I have naked pics of my dc's but not in a million years would I, my parents or come to think of it any of my siblings put them on the net for all and sundry to look at....innocently or otherwise.

and these children will have a massive electronic footprint for all to potentially see and scrutinise when they say get vetted for a job or some such thing. Privacy is a good thng and we still have no concept of the impact of social media for the future of our kids. EG The photos and write up of kids drunken car accident, where they wrote off the car posted and obtained for a future employer to search see perhaps - who knows? Funny maybe, sort of? That could be a dint in job prospects. My kid has a small footprint (a couple of photos at 6 months) and that's how I intend to keep it.

Yep, you've all gone completely bananas.

Do none of you go to the beach in summer and let your kids swim in the sea - or abroad, outside in a swimming pool?

What if someone's watching!!! Aaaagh! OMFG! Binoculars! Shiiit! Won't someone think of the children! (oh, someone is!!!) AaagH!

And how will you control the photos taken by pedos there?

Aaaagh!

Let's get our children to all wear niqãbs!

Here you go, have one on me:

a grip

Concerned - when swimming my children do not have their genitals on display; they wear swimming costumes.

Erm......are you ok...?

OSUT

The pictures discussed in this thread are of children in the bath with their genitals NOT displayed.

Concerned you seem very excited about all this.

concerned.. you are deliberately missing the point.

One something is online, it becomes digital. Digital is DATA. This is data that is attributable to your child forever and a day.

By all means, upload whatever you want of your own data, as an adult you can consent. But your child cannot, and I don't think you have the right to add to their digital footprint if it may embarrass or affect them in later life.

However, who gives a shit. Kids genitals are not sexual. I spent much of my childhood beach visits naked. As do many kids today - including mine.

I'm just gobsmacked - it's taken me completely by surprise. I can usually predict the direction a thread will go after reading the OP and I'm usually pleasantly surprised by the likemindedness I share with posters on mumsnet, which is different to almost all other sources I happen upon. It's one of the reasons I love mumsnet so much. It's a breath of fresh air in an otherwise extremely ignorant sounding world. A bit like Radio 4 in that regard (on the whole).

It is a form of 'moral panic'.

The pictures discussed in this thread are of children in the bath with their genitals NOT displayed.

Actually, no. Pretty much the entire thread is discussing people who share nude photos of their children online.

However, who gives a shit. Kids genitals are not sexual

No, to most people they are not.
However, for millions over the world - they ARE. Are you truly this naive? Have you never heard of paedophilia? Do you not understand what it is?

But Some do find them exactly that concerned THAT'S THE POINT!!!!!