Aibu to be this fed up :(

[Gymboree567]

Hi
I'm just down, fed up
But I shouldn't be I have 3 good kids, a job, a house, a husband and everything should be ok, but its not
I'm so lonely, I have one friend, which I seem to put all the effort into, my 13 year old speaks to me like something she's stepped in, I work 20-30 hours a week yet do all the housework, it's a constant battle with 3 kids to keep on top of everything.
When ever I try to speak to my husband about it, he says he doesn't want to hear it, if I'm having a bad day I should keep it to myself
I suppose my main problem is loneliness, I feel I've tried everything to meet people but friends never stick, I've tried
Volunteering
Making friends through work
Helping at a riding stables
Adults only swimming
Parent and toddler groups
Excercise classes
Online friendships
Approaching people in the street (that I recognised not strangers!)
Reconnecting with old school friends
Joined the gym
Neighbours
Play dates/mums from school

Nothing's worked!
My husband has friends and I've asked if we can all do something together with their wives too but he says no he's happy how it is and doesn't want to

I feel like I've got the short straw, I work just as much if not more than him, I have to deal with the kids including a stroppy teenager, endless cleaning and tidying and I have no support and no one to turn to when I feel down

I know I should be happy we are all healthy (touch wood) and are financially stable although no where near rich we have everything we need
Aibu do I just need a kick up the ass, or is there more to life
Thanks x

[Gymboree567]

Maybe you are all right
He came home at 5, I've been quiet, not moody just not talkative
I know he knows I'm upset but he hasn't said anything, no are you ok, or are you feeling alright
Nothing
:(

[Cornishclio]

I think you have a big problem in your marriage. If your OH is like this when your children are still living with you what would it be like when they leave home? The DC also seem to be following in your OH footsteps so please take back your self respect.

I am assuming your OH will not do counselling so start by working on your interests/ making new friends. Evening classes, walking groups, cinema trips with workmates or other mums? Sometimes all it takes is someone to suggest/organise things. What about a book club if there is a local one or suggest to neighbours etc. Even an activity holiday might work as you could meet people. TBH I wouldn't fancy doing Disneyland on my own but if that appeals then go for it. Would your OH not even do a holiday with you? Why are you still with him?