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Original poster

To have a diva-like strop over a cake

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2ndSopranosRule · 12/03/2016 17:40

It's my birthday tomorrow. MIL always takes it upon herself to provide the cake.

Lo and behold she's brought round my cake. I'm funny about cake. I actually don't really like it. In particular I don't like chocolate cake. At all. It's the biggest chocolate cake. It turns my stomach to look at it so I won't be having any.

The appearance of the cake has reminded dh that he's forgotten to get the one type of cake I do like. It's apparently my fault because dh filled a prescription for me and in the process forgot to buy me cake.

I'm annoyed at MIL. I know I'm ungrateful btw. But I'm even more annoyed at dh for not having the conversation he's been promising to have with MIL about not bringing cake (we end up with far too much and I don't like chocolate cake) for the past 12 years and forgetting to buy me cake and blame me.

Aibu to strop?

OP posts:
TheRattleBag · 12/03/2016 19:45

I really want a piece of chocolate cake now. And I'm meant to be chocolate-free for Lent. Bugger.

Phalenopsisgirl · 12/03/2016 19:46

She obviously enjoys making it, just think of it as a card. I've had cakes made for me in the past that have done nothing other than look beautiful on a cake stand, you don't have to eat it.

DoreenLethal · 12/03/2016 19:47

Are you anywhere in the East Midlands?

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2ndSopranosRule · 12/03/2016 19:50

To reiterate: I'm not actually stropping. Nor shall I. Indeed, MIL phoned and asked if we'd got it (she left it in the porch) and I thanked her very much. The rest of family shall enjoy it after all!

In case anyone's wondering how much older than 9 I am, I'm in my late 30s. And generally very pliable. I seldom throw my toys out of the pram but I've had a very full-on few weeks at work, I've been poorly and chocolate cake was the last straw today.

Dh has put a bottle of prosecco in the fridge for later so all will be forgotten soon!

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Bettercallsaul1 · 12/03/2016 19:51

To be clear: I am not actually stropping at this moment. I am merely considering having a strop.

Grin Love a considered, calculated strop!

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2ndSopranosRule · 12/03/2016 19:53

I'm nothing if not thorough.

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Bettercallsaul1 · 12/03/2016 19:54

Aaaw! Sure you don't want to change your mind about that, OP?

feebeecat · 12/03/2016 19:56

Annie my 21st was one or two years decades ago and still hate the stuff. And yes, added further annoyance by peeling the icing/marzipan off and eating that - and thereby was accused of 'wasting' the cake. Apparently. I think I was just liberating the icing from its evil clutches but hey Wink

Mrsmorton · 12/03/2016 19:56

If you do decide to have a strop, wil you send me a birthday card? Kind of redresses the karma balance...

clary · 12/03/2016 20:05

My DD doesn't like cake. Any cake (weird child). I am sure she used to when younger but anyway.

So I make her a giant cookie for her birthday. I would rather make her a cake. But that WBU.

OP I think if you have made it clear you don't like choc cake then YANBU. As another poster said, it's like someone buying me a big tub of liquorice every year

Cariadity · 12/03/2016 20:07

I hate chocolate cake too, just the thought of it's sickly chemical taste ... Blurgh YANBU

MinniedeMinx · 12/03/2016 20:10

YANBU. After 12 years how can these people not know you any better than this?

God people are nasty and spiteful, and you dont have to be grateful for something you dont like and dont want.

EweAreHere · 12/03/2016 20:10

Happy Birthday, OP. I hope you enjoy tomorrow.

BigQueenBee · 12/03/2016 20:14

I don't do cake either. I find it cloying and strangely unsatisfying. Thing is most people love the spongy bland sugary confection and don't get that some of really dislike it.
I'd just accept her kind and generous token and take it to work for the cake munchers to enjoy.
That's what I do
The giving is the most important thing really. It isn't about what you like or dislike.
She's gone to a lot of effort to produce this cake.
I feel your pain.

Bettercallsaul1 · 12/03/2016 20:18

I love chocolate cake, as long as it's an expensive one with real chocolate. OH bought me one yesterday - he knows the way to my heart.

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2ndSopranosRule · 12/03/2016 20:24

If she'd have made it this would be a rather different story: it's from Aldi.

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expatinscotland · 12/03/2016 20:25

I can take or leave cake. So I'd give it away to the kids, take it to work, etc.

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 12/03/2016 20:25

I love cake, all sorts. I don't much like icing if it just tastes sugary - chocolate/coffee/cream cheese frosting is fine, though! However, I digress. I really just wanted to boggle at this:

I can never understand what people see in dead fruit. Annie, I hate to break this to you, but by the time you get to eat it, all fruit is dead - not just raisins and currants! Grin

FanFuckingTastic · 12/03/2016 20:31

I hate chocolate cake, and chocolate ice cream too.

You would think after a decade, family would know something like that.

Bettercallsaul1 · 12/03/2016 20:35

I prefer all my food to be dead before I eat it, to be honest.

Labradorlover01 · 12/03/2016 20:37

Just to add to this cake debate...Cheese Cake is NOT nice...why does everyone like it so much?

If you come to my house for dinner and offer to bring pud please make it a chocolate fudge cake Grin

Chocolatteaddict1 · 12/03/2016 20:40

Ah see what you should have done is karate chopped it like kylie Menogue did in that scene from delinquents.

No more cake ever again Wink

poorpaws · 12/03/2016 20:46

I really really love chocolate cake and I haven't go any. I wish I hadn't read this, I'm salivating and drooling about chocolate cake. It is one of my most favourite things in life (I'm on a diet). 😂😂

OneThingAndThenTheNext · 12/03/2016 20:52

I didn't get a cake at all for my birthday last week, so I'm afraid it's a YABU from me

BarbaraofSeville · 12/03/2016 21:01

I like cake but only homemade really. Factory cake is almost always not that nice.

This situation is what happens when everyone is too polite to tell the truth. You're always have to graciously say 'thank you, that's lovely' whether you like something or not so then the giver thinks that you like their cake, gift or whatever and continues with similar gestures in the future.