To have a diva-like strop over a cake

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It's my birthday tomorrow. MIL always takes it upon herself to provide the cake.

Lo and behold she's brought round my cake. I'm funny about cake. I actually don't really like it. In particular I don't like chocolate cake. At all. It's the biggest chocolate cake. It turns my stomach to look at it so I won't be having any.

The appearance of the cake has reminded dh that he's forgotten to get the one type of cake I do like. It's apparently my fault because dh filled a prescription for me and in the process forgot to buy me cake.

I'm annoyed at MIL. I know I'm ungrateful btw. But I'm even more annoyed at dh for not having the conversation he's been promising to have with MIL about not bringing cake (we end up with far too much and I don't like chocolate cake) for the past 12 years and forgetting to buy me cake and blame me.

Aibu to strop?

I have never met a cake I didn't like. Am finding this situation baffling.

Can you not send DH out now to buy you a nice cake, and he can eat MIL's cake?

You, as a teenager, didn't tell your parents you didn't like the cake?

I'm sorry op, but you have lost ALL stropping rights. If you don't strop as a teen it's actually illegal to strop as an adult. Sorry!!

Honestly, the thought of chocolate cake makes me feel sick! No idea why and it's not normally an issue really.

Totally unreasonable. It's my birthday too. I didn't get a cake. I got a box of maltesers. I was a tad upset. I drank eleventy cocktails. I'm over it now.

Happy Birthday.

Blue my dad was bonkers (he's mellowed now he's in his late 80s...) and any sort of opinion proffering on my part was met with weeks of silence.

Dh has just dashed out somewhere with the dc.

Jesus wept.

You are mad at mil doing something nice and made at dh for not getting a better cake even though you don't really like cake at all.

And it's not even your birthday until tomorrow?

You really need to buy your own birthday cake.

And happy birthday! Enjoy the

Fuck me! For someone who doesn't really like cake, you're a tad obsessed with it.

I don't really like cake either.

Therefore if someone made me one/bought me one I would just smile and thank them for the lovely thought.

Oh I understand your cake disappointment. When DH and I had our handfasting (we had basically eloped and then had a ceremony and bbq a few months later so family could celebrate too) my lovely SIL volunteered to make our wedding cake. She asked what colours we liked but no questions about flavour, but I was quite busy at the time and didn't think to specify flavours. I'm generally a cake lover, and the cake she brought out was beautifully and lovingly decorated. But I detest fruit cake. So you can imagine how my heart sank when we cut into the cake and it was a fruitcake. I was also a few months pregnant, so hormones compounded the disappointment. I couldn't eat more than a polite nibble of the cake, and luckily no one seemed to notice as the booze was freely flowing.

I feel your pain OP

So you only like one type of cake but you haven't in 12 years said "I am sorry but I only like this kind of cake"

Go out tomorrow morning, if you can, buy the cake you like and explain to your MIL why you have. Hopefully she will say "Why didn't you tell me?"!!

I'm not mad at MIL.

You have told her many times that you don't like it, yet you are blaming your dh for not telling her? All very confusing. I don't understand why cake seems to be so important to you when you don't actually like it Do you think maybe this is just the last straw, have there been other issues with DH? You sound very angry with him about cake-gate?

What is the one type of cake you do like? Is it something obscure like walnut loaf?

Monkeyfeet I think eleventy cocktails is the prescribed remedy for overcoming severe cake disappointment

There are two types of cake I like: carrot and fruit. And I like them very much.

I am going ott about this, I agree. Pent up disappointment from the 8-year M&S cake reign.

you are an adult, smile say thank you, have a laugh and say you don't like chocolate cake so wont have a slice but it looks lovely and you're sure dh/dc/mil will love it.

No stropping required.

What is the one and only type of cake do you like?

"I have actually told MIL I don't like chocolate cake. Many times."

I was ready to say YABU (it's only a cake) but this changes things a bit. I can see why, after years of telling family members you don't like a particuar food item and still being presented with it on your birthday every year, you might feel a bit irritated. I suppose it's the lack of thought that's gone into it rather than the cake itself. I still don't think it's worth throwing a strop over though.

Why don't you punch it?

Punch the cake

Punch your MIL

Punch your DH

This should get the message across.

To be clear: I am not actually stropping at this moment. I am merely considering having a strop.

If you don't like cake really, perhaps mil did chocolate because that's what everyone else likes. She probably wouldn't be expecting you to have any. I don't like cake and I make DC chocolate cake all the time.

What sort of cake do you like?

Ps - here, have some sorry op I couldn't resist it:)

Is your Dh coming back do you think? Has he left over cake gate? I'm glad you realise you're being a diva.

One assumes he's coming back.

Worra punching the cake is genius (but a bit wasteful)

Thinking about it. Mum always buys dh a cake on his birthday. He isn't fussed as he doesn't like cake. But she always buys one for everyone else's birthdays so doesn't want him to feel left out. He eats a bit and says thanks.

She knows he doesn't like cake, but feels bad if she doesn't do it. He recognises it as a nice gesture.