To think this is a backhanded insult and totally uncalled for?

[pavlovapippa]

I've been doing some work recently with an old friend of mine from school, we'll call her Gemma as this is her name and I don't care to give her a false one. Anyway so I invited Gemma out for a few drinks the other day as she's never met my boyfriend and we haven't really had a good chance to get together since school, we went to a local cocktail bar where I live and the night was lovely apart from one little moment which has been playing on my mind since.

I went to the loo, she came with and whilst in there she made a comment about my boyfriend to the effect of "oh he's gorgeous, you've done well for yourself." Now am I being unreasonable to think that this is very rude and suggests that I am inferior to him as she's oh so shocked that I've managed to find somebody so attractive? Maybe this seems petty and I am just blowing this out of proportion but she could have made a comment on his appearance without having to say "you've done well for herself". Now debating whether or not this is somebody I want to be friends with.

I enjoyed last night's thread more really.

Hmm

I'm sorry. I just found it surprising she went from someone you were working with to your employee in 20 minutes.

Oh it's ridiculous isn't it Goingtobeawesome? I receive comments like that too, saw one of my old school teachers in Costa once and made the comment 'who are you sponging off?' as I had a designer bag (paid for with my own money by the way).

Ooh, you are a card Pippa.

He probably has lots of qualities she likes

What kind of entertainer?

I'm just picturing the end credits to Phoenix Nights.

I think you might have issues OP. She told you she's so happy you've met a top bloke and now you are analysing it?
What is so odd about that???
You sound as if you have a very warped perception of what is normal.

Maybe she just meant that she hadn't done so well in the bf department.

Try not to worry about it. She probably didn't mean it maliciously. I mean let's face it, we've all said things that may have come across the wrong way to other people.

I've certainly dropped some clangers in my time!

??? It's a compliment!!!

You sound like such a high maintenance whack job.

Christ. And I got deleted and bawled at for suggesting someone use punctuation to help us help them last week

Your teacher said that Pippa?

That's a bit odd - in my experience teachers are usually pleased when former pupils have done well.

Did you not make a good impression at school?

See...I told you all its Groundhog Day!

I enjoyed last night's thread more really.

Me too

still want some pavlova cake though

Did she make this comment in the same breath as expressing her envy of how successful you are?

Yes Quiet my former GCSE English teacher, she brushed it off with a laugh afterwards but still it's a very scathing comment to make.

Perhaps she is jealous of you like all those others you wrongly claim are?

Wow some of the comments in here come across as bullying if you ask me, not what I expected to see!

Hope you okay Pav and sorry you had that experience, I'm guessing it was said in a nasty tone for you to take it that way, I would confront her or just block her but that's just me

Hugs xx

Oh my Pippa it would have been a perfect time to roll out the MN standard "did you mean to be so rude" though.

I still have cheesecake. carrot cake is long gone

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