To think this is a backhanded insult and totally uncalled for?

[pavlovapippa]

I've been doing some work recently with an old friend of mine from school, we'll call her Gemma as this is her name and I don't care to give her a false one. Anyway so I invited Gemma out for a few drinks the other day as she's never met my boyfriend and we haven't really had a good chance to get together since school, we went to a local cocktail bar where I live and the night was lovely apart from one little moment which has been playing on my mind since.

I went to the loo, she came with and whilst in there she made a comment about my boyfriend to the effect of "oh he's gorgeous, you've done well for yourself." Now am I being unreasonable to think that this is very rude and suggests that I am inferior to him as she's oh so shocked that I've managed to find somebody so attractive? Maybe this seems petty and I am just blowing this out of proportion but she could have made a comment on his appearance without having to say "you've done well for herself". Now debating whether or not this is somebody I want to be friends with.

[ilovesooty]

I enjoyed last night's thread more really.

[Nullipara]

Hmm

[PaulAnkaTheDog]

I'm sorry. I just found it surprising she went from someone you were working with to your employee in 20 minutes.

[pavlovapippa]

Oh it's ridiculous isn't it Goingtobeawesome? I receive comments like that too, saw one of my old school teachers in Costa once and made the comment 'who are you sponging off?' as I had a designer bag (paid for with my own money by the way).

[HoundoftheBaskervilles]

Ooh, you are a card Pippa.

[Spandexpants007]

He probably has lots of qualities she likes

[OhShutUpThomas]

What kind of entertainer?

I'm just picturing the end credits to Phoenix Nights.

[BigQueenBee]

I think you might have issues OP. She told you she's so happy you've met a top bloke and now you are analysing it?
What is so odd about that???
You sound as if you have a very warped perception of what is normal.

[angielou123]

Maybe she just meant that she hadn't done so well in the bf department.

[SausagesAndLaughter]

Try not to worry about it. She probably didn't mean it maliciously. I mean let's face it, we've all said things that may have come across the wrong way to other people.

I've certainly dropped some clangers in my time!

[Alanna1]

??? It's a compliment!!!

[GooseberryRoolz]

You sound like such a high maintenance whack job.

Christ. And I got deleted and bawled at for suggesting someone use punctuation to help us help them last week

[MissBeaHaving]

[Quietwhenreading]

Your teacher said that Pippa?

That's a bit odd - in my experience teachers are usually pleased when former pupils have done well.

Did you not make a good impression at school?

[MissBeaHaving]

See...I told you all its Groundhog Day!

[DontCareHowIWantItNow]

I enjoyed last night's thread more really.

Me too

still want some pavlova cake though

[ouryve]

Did she make this comment in the same breath as expressing her envy of how successful you are?

[pavlovapippa]

Yes Quiet my former GCSE English teacher, she brushed it off with a laugh afterwards but still it's a very scathing comment to make.

[Shutthatdoor]

Perhaps she is jealous of you like all those others you wrongly claim are?

[ginagiraffe]

Wow some of the comments in here come across as bullying if you ask me, not what I expected to see!

Hope you okay Pav and sorry you had that experience, I'm guessing it was said in a nasty tone for you to take it that way, I would confront her or just block her but that's just me

Hugs xx

[Quietwhenreading]

Oh my Pippa it would have been a perfect time to roll out the MN standard "did you mean to be so rude" though.

[PaulAnkaTheDog]

I still have cheesecake. carrot cake is long gone

[Shutthatdoor]

Welcome to MN Ginagiraffe

[fatherpeeweestairmaster]

I can't wait for LuluLeopard to check in.