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Original poster

Dp promised to cook.. He came home with food for himself!

91 replies

Stressedmama16 · 09/03/2016 19:30

I'm fully aware I'm being a pregnant hormonal bitch.

Iv had the flu all day and last night. Dp went to his mums house to sort out some of his old stuff. He texted me at 4 saying he doesn't want to be back late as he wants to cook tea. Fine, I didn't cook myself anything and sorted the kids out.

He walked in at 7 with some food for himself from his mum, made his own tea and than sat and ate it next to me. Before he even had said hello!!

I'm so upset. I'm hungry, poorly and pregnant.

😩😩😩😩

So Iv stormed off upstairs and he hasn't even asked me what's wrong.

OP posts:
littleleftie · 09/03/2016 19:54

Why don't you have access to any money?

lapsedorienteerer · 09/03/2016 19:54

No excuse, but having re read your post you don't suppose his "wants to cook tea'" meant he was cooking tea for his Mum (and brought home left overs for himself)?

mathanxiety · 09/03/2016 19:56

Ladies, you are not 'hormonal'. Please do not kick yourselves in the teeth by using language like that.

You are no more 'hormonal' than men are. Theirs is called testosterone, and it causes endless problems.

Why no cash or access to funds for food, OP?

Original poster
Stressedmama16 · 09/03/2016 19:57

I have my own money but trying to save x

OP posts:
Colliefeatures · 09/03/2016 19:58

Prick!

fuzzywuzzy · 09/03/2016 19:58

Does he have form for this?

What are his redeeming features?

LeanneBattersby · 09/03/2016 19:59

i would be absolutely hopping mad. What an ignorant thing to do. Why isn't he making your tea for you, even if his mummy made her precious boy his tea?

Original poster
Stressedmama16 · 09/03/2016 20:00

He normally is good! He cooks most nights tbh as he's a better cook than me lol.

OP posts:
IHaveBrilloHair · 09/03/2016 20:01

That is seriously out of order

KatharinaRosalie · 09/03/2016 20:02

so when he sat down to eat, you didn't say 'Oy! You promised to cook tea! Where's mine?'

Wagglebees · 09/03/2016 20:08

He's sulking and refusing to speak to his pregnant partner? Is that right?

tealoveryum · 09/03/2016 20:09

You aren't hormonal, you're justified in going full out furious at him. What a selfish git. To ignore you as well, what is his issue?

VinceNoirLovesHowardMoon · 09/03/2016 20:09

What did he say when you asked where your meal was?

bearleftmonkeyright · 09/03/2016 20:09

So this is a one off OP? He normally cooks and helps out with DC? Not excusing the behaviour by the way. From what you wrote it doesn't sound like things are good. You were going without food and had no money to get a takeaway. Is he just being a spectacularly thoughtless arse on this one particular evening? And do you have access to money?

lavenderhoney · 09/03/2016 20:15

It's seems bizarre to me he left you to it all day, with other DC, when you're poorly and pregnant to " sort old stuff" which can surely wait.

Then said he would cook for you and rocked up without speaking and ate.

How rude. And how negligent of you, your DC and your unborn child.

Don't blame his mil - God knows what he said.

The fault is all his, take care of you.

summerdreams · 09/03/2016 20:16

Yanbu. I cannot believe this im Shock for you Angry.

Original poster
Stressedmama16 · 09/03/2016 20:16

Think it's a one off tbh, I'm just so annoyed.
I have access to joint money and my own money, I just can't justify a take away plus I don't really fancy one.

He does help with dc and cooks most evenings, plus works hard.

Feeling emotional today :(

OP posts:
usual · 09/03/2016 20:17

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Lanark2 · 09/03/2016 20:19

Wow. I nearly killed a friend.. A friend of mine for ostentatiously buying himself a pizza, garlic bread and chips after we had agreed to eat together.. And by nearly killed I made him wait until his got cold whilst I ordered mine by threatening to bin it unless he did. Its outstandingly out of order (or 'jack' as we used to say)...

Longdistance · 09/03/2016 20:21

Tell him to get used to stropping on the sofa, as that's where he'll be sleeping tonight.

What shitty behaviour!

TheAngelofNitshillRoad · 09/03/2016 20:21

Naaaah, there has to be more to this. What are you not telling us?

No one is that much of a dick for no reason.

Did you tell him you weren't hungry because not well, or something??

bearleftmonkeyright · 09/03/2016 20:25

Flowers He should apologise. I bet you are knackered. I don't blame you for not wanting a take away. I love takeaways but I fully remember the feeling of wanting to throw up at the smell of takeaways when I was pregnant. And you have flu as well. Im going to make you a nice cup of tea, here you go Brew Put your feet up!

Waltermittythesequel · 09/03/2016 20:27

This is crazy.

Who does that?! And he's usually great?

Wagglebees · 09/03/2016 20:27

Why is he ignoring you?

bibbitybobbityyhat · 09/03/2016 20:30

What is the point of this thread? You are having a petty squabble but you want everyone to pat you on the head and say there there? I don't warm to you, tbh, for describing the food he has brought home from his mother's house as diahorrea. Is this a criticism of her cooking or what?