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Makeup AIBU

112 replies

Tryingtostayyoung · 09/03/2016 17:22

My DD age 4 went to play at one of friends houses from nursery and when I went to pick her up had makeup all over her face, obviously not properly the children had done it themselves. Took me by surprise as I've never allowed her to do that before and didn't actually like it, AIBU? What age would you have allowed that?

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ILostItInTheEarlyNineties · 09/03/2016 18:53

Yes fair point Mrs J. I'm probably in the minority but I don't like seeing little girls in makeup. I agree it's all quite innocent and I maybe the wrong person to comment because I have sons!
I have been a nanny for girls and I've never seen makeup in their toybox but it's obviously more of a popular thing to do than I thought.
I must admit, I do sometimes paint my 3 yr old niece's toenails if I'm doing mine.

cornishglos · 09/03/2016 18:54

My 2 year old son likes trying on my make up.

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Tryingtostayyoung · 09/03/2016 18:56

To be clear I'm not "outraged" in fact I wasn't necassarily saying that my opinion was correct I was trying to see how other people would feel as it isn't something I would ever think to let her play with.

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TheBakeryQueen · 09/03/2016 18:57

I think it's fine, it's child led play. My little boy has a frozen make up set that he loves to play with before bath time.

ILostItInTheEarlyNineties · 09/03/2016 19:02

I assumed from your post tryingtostayyoung That your dd was wearing adult makeup (maybe she was if it was that noticeable?) Play makeup would certainly be safer to use and less likely to irritate eyes or skin.

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Tryingtostayyoung · 09/03/2016 19:04

I think that if it had just been a little I wouldn't have been so shocked but she had a full face, lipstick, blusher, eyeshadow some sort of powder. I just felt that it wasn't particularly right on a 4 year old.

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MadamDeathstare · 09/03/2016 19:08

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ILostItInTheEarlyNineties · 09/03/2016 19:16

Christ, it takes enough effort to take my makeup all off after a long day, without having to remove my daughter's full face of slap too.

Vintage45 · 09/03/2016 19:17

Grin I really think that you're being PFB here OP and as for Madam not liking things from china, well I'm kind of thinking I've heard it all now. One of my DS's has multiple allergies (epi pen) and I still wouldn't care about a bit of make up going on during a play date.

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Tryingtostayyoung · 09/03/2016 19:20

ILostItInTheEarlyNineties this is very true!!

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tibbawyrots · 09/03/2016 19:21

child led play

Confused is that like, playing?

ILostItInTheEarlyNineties · 09/03/2016 19:23

I don't think it's an overreaction to feel a bit Shock when you pick up your dd from a friend and she's plastered in makeup. The OP's not fuming, just a bit bemused.

When does the playmakeup stop being used? If 10 year olds are still playing with it, won't it just transition to adult makeup by early teens?

lessthanBeau · 09/03/2016 19:25

I think playing with make up and nail painting is fine for home, some children like it more than others, my DD and dn age 7, both had play make up, my DD doesn't bother with it now, but dn loves it, wears mascara , false lashes and lipstick. Shes having a pamper party at a nail salon for her birthday, my DD is a bit Hmm about it as she thinks it will be boring. Don't make a fuss and make it more enticing than it needs to be.

lessthanBeau · 09/03/2016 19:29

earlynineties dn has already ditched the play make up for the real thing, she even had a make up advent calendar for Xmas. Personally think it's probably better for her skin than the play stuff!

Chippednailvarnish · 09/03/2016 19:29

My DS does DD's make up quite often.
The Shrek look is one of his favourites, nothing to do with being grown up whatsoever.

YABU

Arpege · 09/03/2016 19:30

It's just role play.

They play kitchens, ironing, babies.... all part of being a grown up.

Why not make up? I don't see the problem.

Goodnamesalltaken · 09/03/2016 19:30

I understand where you are coming from OP, I would be the same if my 4yr old DD came home with make up on. I don't know if thats because my mum was quite militant about us not wearing make up until we were around 15/16. But I know I would not be happy and DP would be even more so.

Chippednailvarnish · 09/03/2016 19:31

won't it just transition to adult makeup by early teens?

I doubt DD will be heading off to secondary school with full Princess Fiona slap.

Vintage45 · 09/03/2016 19:31

So glad I mix with chilled out mums.

My DS's have come home in plaits and all sorts in the past.

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Tryingtostayyoung · 09/03/2016 19:36

I just think that turning up to collect my 4 year old who looked abit like someone's Great Aunt with bright pink lipstick smeared all over her face is just unnesacary, I'm totally chilled out but that doesn't mean to say I think everything goes to keep them happy

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ghostyslovesheep · 09/03/2016 19:38

me and you both Vintage - my eldest (now 13) was so obsessed with make up from about 3 - she ruined so much of mine (which I only wear on nights out) that I got her her own to play with - DD2 couldn't be arsed, DD3 is also obsessed

it's just playing - I'd rather not stifle their imaginations with my own hang ups

ILostItInTheEarlyNineties · 09/03/2016 19:45

There's a difference between being chilled out and allowing your child to smear something all over their face in the name of fun.
Would you be relaxed if your child drew a moustache on your friend's baby with lipstick because he or she were engaging in child led play?

Vintage45 · 09/03/2016 19:47

Of course it is ghosty. OP I really think its another case of a "you' thing. My kids are boys and have been made up to look like drag queens on a play date. The mums and I cried with laughter.

Arpege · 09/03/2016 19:47

My child smears all sorts over her face - Christ make up is the least of it.

Can we stop saying child led play? It's ridiculous

Vintage45 · 09/03/2016 19:49

I have no idea why you have to take things to the extreme here ILost Confused