to finally believe in karma

[Dinkiedoo]

My ex and I split up when son was a baby ...he was cheating.. I brought my son up on my own and he gave up work so he didnt have to pay child support. He still saw my son every fortnight for the day but never bought him anything even tho he wore designer clothes etc bought by his partner. (they never married)
27 years later he is now living on his own in a run down area in a one bedroomed flat. My son reports that he hardly goes out and looks terrible. Apparently he just sits in his chair covered in a blanket.
Im not sorry for him . I m just glad that his partner saw him for what he was at last and threw him out. Son sees him about once a month if ex is lucky .
The karma bus has run over this cheat a few times me thinks

You chose him OP, you had a child with him. He didn't turn out to be what you wanted but was clearly charismatic enough to get you and a subsequent partner to fall for him.

Enjoying his current discomfort after nursing a grudge for 27 years says more about you than him. You really need to move on. I've had people in my life who hurt me badly, they never cross my mind now, I'm totally indifferent to them.

As for karma, meh, it's a load of shite in my opinion. Chances are if you're an egregious arsehole you'll eventually get treated like one. That's not "karma", it's logic and plain old cause and effect.

Plenty of wonderful people get dealt very bad cards, according to "karma" that would mean on some level they deserve it. They don't.

well that was a random bit missing from my post

give up
give in
give it all you've got

^^three choices sounds like he has chosen the first two

and to be honest i nurse a bit of a grudge against my ex its not the fact he dumped my daughter its the fact that he and his wife blame me for his lack of contact with her they are venomous about me refuses to take any kind of responsibility for it won't work apparently can't work (when the CSA ask for money he has a breakdown) has developed a drug habit and an alcohol problem after we split also my fault and i refused to go to there wedding which meant she didn't get to rub it in my face that she got a ring and i didn't (i turned him down i didn't want to marry him but to her she wanted to rub my nose in it and i denied her revenge)

the only thing i want is the one thing i will never have an admission that its his fault he doesn't see his daughter that actually im not a crap mom he is a crap dad that i did try to maintain a relationship with him so he could see her and when she got involved she got dropped like a hot rock

i don't dwell on it but when she is ranting off all over facebook that i dared to ask for money (once in 15 years) for his daughter the unfairness of the situation hits me

i would be lying if i said it didn't piss me right off

i try not to dwell its unhealthy

op i dont blame you at all for feeling somewhat happy that things have turned out like this,he bought this on himself by the sound

if it makes you feel better than so be it,shame its taken so long

Horrible twist to my story above.
My ex has died ! He was found dead by his daughter .She rang my son .His number was one of four he had on his phone.
I now feel sad for him as obviously he was lonely and washed up .
He hurt me and he had hurt his son with his disinterested attitude.
My son feels guilty he didn't do more but ex never contacted him much . He did ask son to go and see him last week but son didn't and says he regrets that .
I have mixed feelings . I feel bad for what I said re the karma bus .I am sad he is dead and has left so much hurt behind him. He was not a nice person.But I also feel I wish he had apologized to me for giving me such a hard time when he was alive but obviously he didn't give a shit .
I am in shock but its not about me. My son has lots of questions and I am doing my best to support him and answer tactfully .I never bad mouthed him to my son while ex was alive and certainly wont now he is dead