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To not be happy about my £10 bunch of flowers from the garage...

126 replies

Niceproblemtohave · 05/03/2016 22:03

Since my husband earns over £200k income (not a stealth boast but reason why I'm thinking this is just a piss poor effort! )

I know that tomorrow Facebook is going to be full of wonderful breakfasts in bed, beautiful bouquets, shiny happy people - and I'll be there with my £10 bunch of diesel smelling crysthanenums.

On the other hand I'm so so lucky to have the DC that I do (for many years we didn't know if it would happen or not) so most of all I will be feeling v v happy to be celebrating Mother's Day at all!

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MistressDeeCee · 05/03/2016 23:08

Its not even Mothers Day yet. He may have another gift for you, for all you know

You're not his mum its not your day - I hope he's got his mum a nice card and gift actually

Since you appear to equate caring with money, tell him you're not happy as the flowers don't cost enough

Sorry you won't be able to join in the Facebook Boast-Fest tomorrow n all, try not logging onto Facebook.

TendonQueen · 05/03/2016 23:09

Isn't the Mothering Sunday mother church story itself untrue? Mother's Day started out being about going home to see your actual mother and then the church came up with the 'mother church' story to hijack it.

Missing the point I know, but Morrisons flowers are really nice. I also got the ten quid ones and they have £3 pocket money bunches, two quid single bloom bunches and daffs for a quid. Can't beat that.

TheFairyCaravan · 05/03/2016 23:11

I won't be seeing my children tomorrow. They both made it home last weekend, for the first time since Christmas, because it was my birthday. I don't know when that will happen again. I didn't see DS1 last Mothering Sunday either.

I'll be more than happy with a text or a phone call.

MistressDeeCee · 05/03/2016 23:11

Sorry for your loss Sedona123 thats a tough callFlowers

mollyonthemove · 05/03/2016 23:12

My dd's friend lost her mummy in a terrible tragedy less than a month ago. Today we have been thinking how very sad she will be tomorrow. I have my three amazing children and can't bear the thought that they suddenly one day could not have me. Tomorrow I will get a card DD has made and a coffee in bed. That's important. Dd's friend won't ever be able to make her !mummy a card again.

Ackvavit · 05/03/2016 23:13

I'm Confused. You are happy to have children you didn't expect. He earns a 😳 Wage. You compare this with a thoughtful act of him buying flowers you don't like. Best advice , stay off social media, it's all stealth boasts and status anxiety. Quite why his salary means he should lavish you with gifts is totally indicative of me me me generation. You sound like you have a hard working partner, a growing family and little else to worry about. I'd stealth boast that my husband is so comfortable in our relationship he knows he doesn't need to piss away loads of hard earned money on over inflated bouquets and we get the irony of " garage flowers "

ILostItInTheEarlyNineties · 05/03/2016 23:14

You're right Op, niceproblemtohave

Saracen · 05/03/2016 23:16

I do think you should expect something from your DP on Mother's Day. Not flowers or a gift though, cheap or expensive. You're not his mother.

IMO his job is to nag your kids to be grateful about what a fab mum they have, ensure they have picked you some flowers not from the neighbours' garden or made you a card or burned you some toast or whatever passes for gratitude in your house, and clear up the mess created by their efforts.

Katarzyna79 · 05/03/2016 23:22

mrshathaway I was going to suggest paper flowers (but thght ppl would say I'm a cheapskate) I remember making them as a child at school for my mum. also we make them in indian wedding as garlands, and to decorate the stage area, they can look pretty amazing with the right materials and colours, this is how its done in south asia but the rich will use fresh flowers to make everything. plus nothing beats handmade items made with love :)

BarbaraofSeville · 05/03/2016 23:23

Exactly kippers surely little everyday gestures like that are worth a hundred times more than even the most extravagant presents on Hallmark days which are often out of a 'she'll moan if I don't get her something' sense of obligation anyway?

PrincessHairyMclary · 05/03/2016 23:37

Worthmore My DD loves giving gifts so I take her to a £1 shop and stand at the end of the aisles so I can keep an eye on her and tell her she can choose 5 gifts, she chooses whatever she wants for me. Then she goes off to the till to pay. We grab some tissue paper and sellotape and she goes off to her room to wrap them. I've got some interesting presents but she always has a story as to why she choose them.

smugasShit · 05/03/2016 23:54

My DH has just bought me a Mercedes Benz for Mothers Day. We're a bit hard up though, so it's only got two seats.

ArcheryAnnie · 06/03/2016 00:02

I like the smell of diesel.

/spectacularly misses the point

smugasShit · 06/03/2016 00:03

Oh, you wouldn't like this car then Archery Annie, it's petrol.

WorraLiberty · 06/03/2016 00:05

My DH has just bought me a Mercedes Benz for Mothers Day. We're a bit hard up though, so it's only got two seats.

How can you stay married to this utterly selfish cunt?

If you need help leaving the bastard, we're all here for you hun Thanks xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

GasLightShining · 06/03/2016 00:09

I am a bit drunk so only read the first few posts.

I am on your side OP unless that is what the DC chose.

My DC are old enough to earn and choose the presents but when they were younger my DH (and me when if was Father's Day and birthdays) would buy what the DC wanted to get. So it might be quite extravagant or it might be quite basic but it was what the DC had chosen. And when I say chosen I mean the DC would go shopping with DH (or me) and choose

DH and my attitude has always been it's thought not the cost so any old bunch of flowers won't cut it as I don't like flowers (but there is one I like)

NinaSimoneful · 06/03/2016 00:11

TimeToMuskUp That was lovely Smile

We're not doing anything for mothers day tomorrow because I'm 38 weeks pregnant so we're going to celebrate next month.

SoThatHappened · 06/03/2016 00:12

I dont actually get the comments of you arent his mother, he doesnt have to get you anything.

If you have children that are too young or dont have money to buy their mother gifts, then surely the DH / DP SHOULD buy mum a gift / flowers on behalf of their children to give to mum and make some effort with said flowers bought by dh but from dc to give to mum.

SpringHasNearlySprung · 06/03/2016 00:14

Since my husband earns over £200k income (not a stealth boast but reason why I'm thinking this is just a piss poor effort! )

For fuck sake get a grip! What do you expect Tiffany diamonds? When my DC were small I was delighted with a bunch of daffodils they'd picked themselves even although DH earned more than £200k I've never made a huge thing of Mothers Day. After all, I'm a mum every day not one day a year! If Fb upsets you so much then don't look. I never understand the angst created on here over Mothers Day.

GasLightShining · 06/03/2016 00:17

I've got some interesting presents but she always has a story as to why she choose them.

Just read this and that is the whole point.

My DD spent an obscene amount of money on a piece of kitchen equipment for a present when she got her first part time job. It did far more than I needed it to do and was bigger than it could have been but five years later I still have it as I can't bear to get rid of it for something smaller because she bought it for the right reasons

PaulAnkaTheDog · 06/03/2016 00:17

Facebook should be coughing up for the emotional issues it causes...

PurpleDaisies · 06/03/2016 00:20

For fuck sake get a grip!

She did spring-ages ago.

GasLightShining · 06/03/2016 00:22

SpringHasNearlySprung 'a bunch of daffodils they'd picked themselves' is fine if that is what the DC want to do I think in the OP's case the DC have not been involved and it is has been the DH lazy arsed choice

WorraLiberty · 06/03/2016 00:25

If you have children that are too young or dont have money to buy their mother gifts, then surely the DH / DP SHOULD buy mum a gift / flowers on behalf of their children to give to mum and make some effort with said flowers bought by dh but from dc to give to mum.

Why is it all about buying and money though?

What's wrong with a thoughtfully made card that the actual children have put time and effort into making?

FastWindow · 06/03/2016 00:29

I want that worra i want dh to put the same effort i do into Fathers day. So he has something from the dc.

Not bought. Made