To not be happy about my £10 bunch of flowers from the garage...

[Niceproblemtohave]

Since my husband earns over £200k income (not a stealth boast but reason why I'm thinking this is just a piss poor effort! )

I know that tomorrow Facebook is going to be full of wonderful breakfasts in bed, beautiful bouquets, shiny happy people - and I'll be there with my £10 bunch of diesel smelling crysthanenums.

On the other hand I'm so so lucky to have the DC that I do (for many years we didn't know if it would happen or not) so most of all I will be feeling v v happy to be celebrating Mother's Day at all!

[DraughtyWindow]

Crikey, if this is all you have to worry/complain about you ought to thank your lucky stars. Really, are you serious??! 😂

[SoThatHappened]

i'll probably never have dc hth with accpeting the £10 flowers

[WorraLiberty]

Seriously, what happened to appreciating a home made card from the kids and some breakfast in bed?

The world seems to get more materialistic every day, until things like Mother's Day completely loses meaning.

[BennyTheBall]

I'd rather have a few £1 bunches of daffodils - at least you can make them look nice if you cut them short and put loads in a tank vase.

A mixed bunch - bleurgh!

I am a huge fusspot, admittedly.

[Lynnm63]

If I get a hug, home made card and cold toast in bed I'll be happy. In fact just the hug will make me happy.

[Vixxfacee]

Why do people expect gifts for doing something they that chose to do. It's the thought that counts. Right?

[celtiethree]

FFS so your hubby earns 200k so u expect more for Mothers Day! I assume that his salary allows u to live a v nice life ( plus your income if u also work). It's one day that equals a marketers delight. Be more concerned that your dh shows that you matter everyday and that he reinforces to your dc how much u bring to their lives everyday!

[Katarzyna79]

I dotn think my husband has ever made me a cup of tea, maybe once to be fair but ive been married 10 yrs and I cannot recall a time he made me tea.

I can remember the sweetest thing he did he made me dinner just for me, 3 different dishes to welcome be home after a weekend away seeing ill family members. I hold on to that memory....may never occur again lol

I wotn get anything for mothers day its not really celebrated by us, well actually my kids have made me cards but ive put them away to enjoy tomorrow. I love handmade items.

when theyre old enough id be happy if they made me a cup of tea and some toast mothering sunday or not.


worthmore have achat with your son make him realise just him being with you is more than you could ask for. but if hes adamant give him some crayons and paper tell him he can make you a card if that will make him feel better?

p.s do people go to church service on mothers day? I recall hearing sermons on bbc radio about mothers day its a Christian thing right, not just commercial?

[ssd]

I bought my own mothers day flowers from asda tonight and my mum is dead

go away op

[LaurieMarlow]

I get it OP. Mother's day is (among other things) a means of showing appreciation for a role you play that is seriously undervalued by society. It's symbolically important in a way that most posters on here won't acknowledge. Garage flowers are lazy and grim. He should have tried harder.

Hopefully the DC will ensure you have a lovely day anyway.

[Brummiegirl15]

I spent last Mother's Day sobbing and hiding away because I'd just suffered my 3rd miscarriage in a row and wondered if I'd ever ever be a mother.

Tomorrow I don't care how many times my 10 week old baby girl wakes me up, I am so so so grateful to have her, as the pain and agony of last year still feels very fresh.

[PerspicaciaTick]

Enjoy being a mum. Enjoy your DC. Make a mental note not to overthink Father's Day when it comes around.

[NoCapes]

What kind of garage has £10 flowers?! I thought they were about 50p in a garage and that's why people got so offended?
Supermarkets do fancy £10 bouquets, and I've told DP off in the past for spending so much on something that's going to die in a week, I'd be happier with a £2 bunch of tulips

Did I miss the point?

[Mitzeee]

Katarzyna you're right about it being a Christian thing. Traditionally, Mothering Sunday had nothing to do with mothers! It was a chance for people to return to their 'mother church' (where they were baptised, or their local parish church). It would also be the one day that those in service got off to go home and see their families. This was always the fourth Sunday in Lent, and over time has evolved to the commercial 'Mothers Day' we have now.
Happy Mothers Day OP and all the other mothers on here!

[SukeyTakeItOffAgain]

Yes OP. You are very lucky to have children at all. Don't waste time resenting to source of your mother's day flowers.

[coffeeisnectar]

My teen has bought me something. It's top secret so no idea at all what it is. 10 year old asked dp to take her shopping this afternoon as she wanted to get me something desperate from teen.

They came back with a hallogen heater, a box of pansies to be planted out, a box of toffifee (half eaten) and a bag of skittles. I'm not sure if any of that's meant for me but do think it's a great shopping selection!

For years I got nothing except a hand made card which I loved. Now I love that teen is so excited about what she's got me and that dp made the effort to take his stepdaughter shopping on a Saturday afternoon because it made her happy.

That's all that matters.

[LaurieMarlow]

The fact that others have sadder stories to tell doesn't negate the fact that the OP is upset. We should all be feeling appreciated on Mother's day.

[hugoagogo]

Jeeps I wouldn't be best pleased either.

Flowers are such a waste of money.

[littlehooty]

DP is on a high income and I Wont get anything tomorrow. Just like I got nothing on my first mothers day last year. My son is only 2. I'm lucky enough to be a mother, I'm happy with that

[WorthMoreThanThat]

He's made a card at school and said he's wrote something all by himself in it and I told him that's more than enough and the fact he's made it himself means more than anything else. Just think school have been talking about and he's got it in his head he should have a present. I have txt his fathers mum to ask if I drop a couple of pound off without him seeing early in morning would she pop him to the shop and let him buy some chocolates or something so he doesn't feel upset. Everyone knows I'd never expect anything but makes me feel so sad for him that he's asked several times. It's the last thing he said when I dropped him....mum I don't think dad will let me get u anything for Mother's Day even if I ask again will he :-( Thoughtful little boy he is

[bearleftmonkeyright]

My DP has made me a cup of tea every single morning without fail since we first lived together 16 years ago. He wont do anything different tomorrow as he will make me porridge for breakfast which he normally does most days. He wont get me flowers, or do anything different. My youngest has made me a card at school and given me a potted plant decorated with stickers. Mothers day is crazy. It's materialistic nonsense. I really don't see why partners or husbands should do anything different.

[TheWoodenSpoonOfMischief]

Worthmore dh once forgot to do anything for Mother's Day on behalf of the kids.
They were so upset on the day so I did what Katarzyna suggested and they made me cards and then we baked a cake together.
Dh always remembers now. It's never a big deal - just flowers or chocs and my favourite breakfast - but it's the joy the kids feel when they give me something that makes me happy rather than what they give.

[BillBrysonsBeard]

Well done OP for admitting you are BU so quickly! Just enjoy your kids and stay away from facebook It will be full of show offs. Pity the relationships where the bloke has to overcompensate for being rubbish all year so he has to go all out on hallmark days, and pity the women who feel like they need to tell the world about it.

[MrsHathaway]

I've made about seventy paper posies for church tomorrow, so I bloody hope people turn up

In the OP's position I'd be annoyed. He's thrown money at a problem, but zero thought. There won't be a squiffy hand-drawn card, fistful of daffodils, etc, unless he remembered to save them from the nursery bag (fat chance). Not even a nice bunch from the florist, because that meant advance thought.

It isn't about motherhood, is it, OP?

[BlueJug]

TimeToMuskUp good post.

It is a gift. I know I'm lucky to be (and to still have) a mother.

I do hate all this entitled, commercial shit. We do nothing on the day. It isn't about flaunting stuff to prove to others that you are so loved! You are or you aren't. Other people don't matter
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