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AIBU?

To not be happy about my £10 bunch of flowers from the garage...

126 replies

Niceproblemtohave · 05/03/2016 22:03

Since my husband earns over £200k income (not a stealth boast but reason why I'm thinking this is just a piss poor effort! )

I know that tomorrow Facebook is going to be full of wonderful breakfasts in bed, beautiful bouquets, shiny happy people - and I'll be there with my £10 bunch of diesel smelling crysthanenums.

On the other hand I'm so so lucky to have the DC that I do (for many years we didn't know if it would happen or not) so most of all I will be feeling v v happy to be celebrating Mother's Day at all!

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Fraggled · 05/03/2016 22:38

No £200k income here, but I'm bloody thrilled with my £10 flowers from tesco that DS and DH chose for me today.

PaulAnkaTheDog · 05/03/2016 22:40

Ah yes, salary dictates what gift you get Ffs, you're talking about seeing on Facebook (Lord have mercy!) what others get. Would you feel happier having an expensive gift and posting pictures of it, even if it was a kick in the stomach to friends on a lesser salary?

It's Mother's Day. Children shouldn't be spending more than a tenner, be it by themselves or by Dad.

I don't get a present tomorrow. I do get to spend the day with my son. Perfect.

Twinklestein · 05/03/2016 22:41

I get my mother stuff for mother's day, my children get me stuff for mother's day, but not my husband.

sugar21 · 05/03/2016 22:41

Feel I have to comment. You are very lucky to be accepting a gift even if it does come from the petrol station.
I won't be getting flowers or anything else.
Why compare a gift to what is put on facebrag, I will never understand the constant competition on there.
I have bought some nice daffodils to put on my dds grave. I expect they'll look nice but they did come from Sainsburys.

WitchWay · 05/03/2016 22:42

It's the thought that counts. Really. I'll be happy with a card, but I have a horrible suspicion that DS won't have twigged that it's Mothers' Day - I haven't mentioned it (not up to me) & DH is pretty clueless with remembering stuff.

Sedona123 · 05/03/2016 22:42

YANBU. I think that it's the thought that counts, and it sounds like there is no thought going into it being Mother's Day.

That said, my DH is also a high earner, and I tend to get a lovely gift, but would prefer a small beautiful bunch of flowers, and a cup of tea in bed.

If it makes you feel any better about your situation, I'm going to miss 90% of Mother's Day tomorrow as it was my DM's funeral yesterday and I can't fly home until late afternoon.

NewLife4Me · 05/03/2016 22:43

I don't let my dc buy me flowers for Mother's Day, they know it really sickens me and I never get them
There are 2 nice bouquets from dh to his mum and step mum ready to go tomorrow.
I know all 3 of mine will be here tomorrow and think that's all I can ask for, that will make me pleased.
They'll get a present for me as 2 are grown up now, but I wouldn't be bothered if not. I tell them to save their money and cook a good dinner for us all.

ILostItInTheEarlyNineties · 05/03/2016 22:44

You've got 200k coming in and you're moaning about flowers? Get in the real world.

BlueJug · 05/03/2016 22:44

Brummiegirl15 That's a nice post. Glad that you are so happy with your baby. Enjoy her!

All the fuss often makes those who are not mothers but would like to be or who have recently lost mothers very sad. One reason why I play it right down - my two closest female friends (known them both for over 30 yrs) were both unable to have kids. I was lucky.

ghostyslovesheep · 05/03/2016 22:45

I don't even have my kids with me tomorrow due to access - be happy

I got breakfast in bed today (pancakes and strawberry's) and my middle child saved her snack money and got me a lovely plant - this makes me happy

with the best will in the world get a grip!

WorthMoreThanThat · 05/03/2016 22:45

Yeah totally about how happy it makes him feel being able to give me something. The school card will be lovely and he'll be proud of himself for that but the fact he's specifically asked to get something n been told no is just mean. They could buy a chocolate bar for 50p and he'd be happy!

NewLife4Me · 05/03/2016 22:46

Sugar

I'm so sorry, I haven't posted on any other thread as there aren't the words.

PaulAnkaTheDog · 05/03/2016 22:46

Incidentally OP, nice nickname. Very apt.

Ditsy4 · 05/03/2016 22:47

Yes, your right. Mothering Sunday was the day when girls in service were allowed home to visit their mothers. The one day a year the had off. They would take a cake( Simnel) and go to church and enjoy the day together. In the church we pray to Mary, the mother of Jesus.
Mother's Day is an American celebration. It is also now celebrated in Australia.
I will be unlikely to see any of my children tomorrow. My daughter is away, present waiting to be opened. My sons will be busy looking after other people's mothers. We will have another day together. I will celebrate with other ladies from church that we are lucky to have been mothers. We are having lunch together. I will light a candle for my own mother.

OP I do understand that you feel that he could afford to buy some better flowers but let me tell you a secret...he is a man, they don't think like we do!
He will have been getting petrol, been waiting to pay, saw a sign/ cards about Mother's Day, saw flowers and thought oh yes get some flowers. He will not have thought oh don't get them from garage because they have been there several days, are garish colours and and a poor choice I really ought to buy a big bunch from a good florist he will just think I can just get some now! Just accept them with grace at least he thought of you.
In a few months when you are at a garage make a comment about garage flowers and maybe next time...

TheFridgePickersKnickers · 05/03/2016 22:47

The OP went ages ago.

ssd · 05/03/2016 22:48

writing up her piece for her editor, probably

WorraLiberty · 05/03/2016 22:51

Christ, it was only Valentine's day a few weeks ago.

Some people really are a slave to all this commercial stuff.

If you need an expensive bunch of flowers, dutifully bought by your DH on a certain day in order to feel appreciated for being a Mother to your kids, you'd be better off examining why.

Then see what you can both do to put that right.

WorraLiberty · 05/03/2016 22:52

OP I do understand that you feel that he could afford to buy some better flowers but let me tell you a secret...he is a man, they don't think like we do!

Are we going to play sexist crap bingo now?

sugar21 · 05/03/2016 22:53

Its ok Newlife

SaveSomeSpendSome · 05/03/2016 22:54

Dh makes a piss poor effort with mothers day, birthdays, christmas cards and gifts, valentines day etc.

He hasnt even bothered to send his mum a card. When i mentioned it today he said that there is too much of this special day commercial rubbish and that was that!!

I does piss me off tbh that any of the occassions i ve mentioned above he makes no effort for or it will be a dash to TESCO at 10pm the night before or on the morning of the event and i end up with some rubbish that was the only thing he could find at the last minute.

I would love him to surprise me on these occassions but i ve accepted that thats the man i married.

starry0ne · 05/03/2016 22:58

I can understand how OP feels... She doesn't say she is not lucky to having her Dc...

I am a LP with no family nearby..My DS wanted to get me something... Sister usually sends money but didn't get round to it so I sent him in the card factory to pick the commercialised stuff... I have no idea what he has bought..

It isn't about the stuff its about the thought the love that went into it.. Dependant upon DC age take them out to pick something.. Make a card at home with them...

Are people with high incomes not allowed to be pissed off ?

ghostyslovesheep · 05/03/2016 23:00

her 'dc's' don't earn £200,000 though her 'DH' does - she is not his mother

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Yohoodlum · 05/03/2016 23:02

I don't do Mother's Day for my Mum and my lovely adult kids don't do Mother's Day for me. My lovely DH definitely doesn't do Mother's Day for me because that would be peculiar and slightly creepy I'm not his Mum
I also don't do Facebook

There is no angst I my house.

kipperydippery · 05/03/2016 23:02

I refuse to have any money spent on me for Mothers Day. The DD's have picked every crocus in the garden & my kitchen table is covered in paint & bits of card & glue, daddy has been very busy :)

My DH gets up every SINGLE morning of the year to make coffee for both of us, while I lay in bed & cuddle the kids for 5 mins. That to me is worth way, way more than a fancy Mothers Day gift, breakfast in bed or anything else.

DH knows how much I appreciate it.

Oldraver · 05/03/2016 23:06

I wish people would stop this 'he's not your mother shit'. Its twatty

If they have DC's below teen years then the father is responsible for helping DC's get a card or present

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