Who is BU- me or neighbour?

[SmashingBumpkins]

We get on well with our neighbours. We're not 'friends' as such but will always stop for a chat etc.

Yesterday I saw the woman at the corner shop and we walked home together having a chat.
On the way, she mentioned that I woke them up that morning with my hairdryer and, subtly, asked if I could not use the hairdryer early in the AM. With the way she asked she wasn't really asking for a response or even a conversation about it, just kind of mentioning it in passing I guess in the hope I'll change my routine IYSWIM. So, I didn't respond there and then.

I got home at told DH. He was really miffed about it and said she was very U and I should have told her to bugger off.

This hairdryer usage doesn't happen every day- 3 or 4 weekdays I shower at the gym so don't use a hairdryer at home. On the weekend, I either don't bother drying it or I'm doing it at about 10am.
So a couple of work days a week I do dry my hair at home and it's about 6am when I'm doing it- I recognise that this is v early for some!

I can't really dry my hair elsewhere in the house as the other 2 bedrooms are occupied by DCs and in the living room is the dog who's terrified of the hairdryer and will bark like a mad thing causing more noise.
DH said I'm mad for even considering sneaking around the house in the morning using the hairdryer somewhere inconvenient for me just to avoid inconveniencing the neighbours.

So, AIBU to be using the hairdryer at 6am a couple of days a week? Or is she BU to mention it?

I should say it's quite a powerful hairdryer and we have quite thin walls (we can hear their phone ringing, for example).

[Oysterbabe]

There was a really similar thread a few months back where the op was disturbing her neighbour by using a breast pump in the night. Almost unanimously people said she should go to a different room. Weird how this one is much more divided.

[Alisvolatpropiis]

Oyster I think that was in part because the op of that thread was using the pump every three hours during the night. If she'd just been using it at 6am I doubt many would have suggested she do so in a different room.

[HoldMeCloserTonyDanza]

Why is this thread still going on?? It was solved days ago!

She can dry her hair in the living room while DH walks the dog. Problem solved, she has lovely hair, politely hinting neighbour gets some sleep.

Why is everyone so aggressive?

[dragonflygirl1]

I always dry mine in the kitchen as it's the only place I don't wake people up. Plus, I wait as long as I can before drying so that it only takes 2 mins even though I have very long hair.

[OhSoGraceful]

I can't picture how a hairdryer through a wall could be all that loud, sounds like your NDN is either a bit oversensitive, or exaggerating a bit.

Our NDN have a youngish child who does cry quite a lot. When we're awake and the house is quiet, we do hear her a bit, but she doesn't disturb us when we're asleep, or wake us up. If NDN ever ask us about it, we just say we hear nothing, can't see how it would help anyone for them to be stressing about noise, when they're already doing everything they can and suffering with disturbed nights themselves.

I agree it's worth looking at quieter hairdryers, etc, but don't think 10 mins of hairdrying, twice a week, at 6am, constitutes a noise nuisance. I don't get up til 7, but accept different people have to have different routines.