Soooo I think dh is pissed with me

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We have an agreement that if any child wakes us before 2am it's his turn. After its mine.

I had a terrible sleep due to his wandering hands last night that come 1.55 and ds wakes I nudged him awake to deal with it.

I kindly asked if he would mind sorting out ds. He opened one eye and then buried his head back into the pillow. I took this as a no, he's not doing it.

Went to get up to find him grabbing my arm to make me stay in bed however by now he had wound me up so I threw him off and went and made a bottle. Bottle ready and he suddenly appeared to take the bottle off me. Told him forget it, I'll do it, to which he snapped you've woken me up now just give it here.
He then stormed off to ds's room whilst I went back to bed.

He didn't say goodbye to me this morning and he hadn't done the bin bags like he normally does.

I just know that when he gets home tonight he will be quiet and sulky until I have it out with him to which it will be all my fault for waking him up when he was so tired.

So...wibu to wake him up when I was already awake?

OP Your partner may have a higher sex drive than you and if he has been getting "it" only once a fortnight this may be affecting his dreams. Have you considered other methods of satisfying him than actual intercourse?

If you google - how to satisfy male partner without intercourse you will find a lot of sites, some by psychologists. As to the fact you husband did not wake you to say goodbye he was obviously being considerate and letting you sleep in.

Both me and DP work, when we're not at work we both look after the children.

I'm foul at night time when I'm lacking sleep, I have EDS and spend the night in huge amounts of pain, I'm like a bear with a sore everything.
DP knows this isn't personal, I'm a delight when I'm awake and my joints have all started working.

My DP also snores like a beast, if I'm not asleep first then I can't sleep, I have sensory issues and the noise of him snoring can bring me to tears.
I just get up and move to the sofa bed. It's easier and he can't help it.

there are some awful people on this thread

amarmai what are you getting at?

And ozzie wtf?

Well dh is home and he's not pissed. He just wanted to let me rest and he has forgotten about the bags.

He has apologised for snapping and told me he was just waking up when I went to get a bottle.

Everything is fine.

And yes......thanx Ozzie

See, lovely. Now get him to a more sympathetic doctor.

This thread is crazy. Like, many of the responses are actually insane and weird.

OP: I seriously agree that he should get a second opinion at the doctor. I also think that constantly interrupting his sleep likely makes his sexsomnia worse. Agree with MrsTerryPratchett that night on/night off might be better.

Good luck!

Ozzie

It's not often I'm lost for words, but WTF!

I highly recommend the separate beds option. My husband suffers from night terrors and we've slept in separate rooms ever since we moved into a 2 bedroom apartment from a shared house. We sleep so much better apart and there's no risk of him thrashing out in his sleep and hitting me (which has happened a couple of times in the past).