To think the 'Disrespect NoBody' ad campaign is horribly sexist?

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Not sure if this has already been discussed but has anybody else seen the 'Disrespect NoBody' TV adverts that are supposedly raising awareness for healthy relationships and domestic violence?

Every single scenario in the advert is targeted at men abusing women whether it be physically or emotionally. Y'know because men are never victims?

Sorry to be serious but I was so disgusted by this campaign that I tried to write to them. There's no way to do that on their site.
Men face this evil just as much as women but the advert makes it look like it's a one way street of violent male sexual predators. Women are just as capable of manipulation, violence and abuse. I chose not to hit back and was seen as a doormat. There are no men's refuges, there are no chivalrous women to step in to protect us, we're treated as a joke (including in the attached comments).

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the advert makes it look like it's a one way street of violent male sexual predators

You're aware that 96.7% of cautions issues for sexual offences were to males,
98.2% of prosecutions for sexual offences were against males, and 99% of convictions for those found guilty of sexual offences were male, are you?

Nobody deserves to be abused. That's the point. I came here to disagree with someone's attitude towards people sticking up for men.

^ To also be serious for a moment.

No not aware of that. However the successful prosecution rate does not invalidate my experience.

Those statistics still do NOT negate the fact that 1 in 6 men will experience domestic abuse. Yes they have a lower chance, with women its 1 in 4. It's not like men have a 1 in 50 chance, 6 is still a low number. It also doesn't negate the fact that 30 male deaths a year occur because of it. I understand that that figure is way "better" than the 2 women a week figure but it's still true.

Also you've just done the exact same thing. ManPerson posted and quite clearly stated he'd been a victim of domestic abuse yet you threw statistics about women being victims at him instead of actually reading the post.

RTFT, cbyer - your figures have been debunked already.

Again (and I'm going to get sick of saying this) the campaign is not ignoring male victims.

There is a section on the website with advice for men in abusive relationships along with links to other sites and charities, etc to help them.

More than one woman by the way... being called a 'poof' for declining sexual advances, being physically attacked, having messages intercepted, being publically humiliated, being portrayed as the villain, being sleep deprived, being kept from my family and friends. I will always support women who face similar, horrible behaviour but your stats don't provide comfort to me.

My figures that still appear on a domestic abuse support site. Regardless read my second post. You just blatanty belittled a man saying he'd been the victim of domestic abuse yet you come at me about my debunked statistics.

Oo, it took a whole half hour for true colours to come through.

Sorry gents, i have to go to sleep. I doubt you'll still be here by the morning.

Do you MRAs have a joint alarm to remind you to come and post the same thing over and over again?

By now you should be aware that all your "queries" have been adressed in the thread above.

This is getting boring now.

"There is a section on the website with advice for men in abusive relationships along with links to other sites and charities, etc to help them."

Really? The language used on every page I saw had women as victims and men as perpetrators.

Indeed, Beyond.

These guys have short fuses.

On the plus side re the tedium, there's only 200 posts til the thread is full...

Anyway, I'm heartened that this is being discussed on Mumsnet. Power to you all.

There are no men's refuges

Then set one up yourself.

That's what women had to do.

You seem to be under the impression that women were just given refuges; that they were just handed over to us on a plate with no work at all from us. It wasn't like that at all.

Women actually had to put some effort in to get refuges. We worked to get them set up and opened, with some women even going as far as to set them up in their own living rooms.

Why should men just get their own refuges handed over to them on a plate when women had to work for their's?

well, 206

Fact

Bugger, you messed up my fact post by inconsiderately posting before me!

Anyway, really, really, REALLY should be going to sleep now

See you in the morning
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"Why should men just get their own refuges handed over to them on a plate when women had to work for their's?"

Good point. There is more to be done on this.

From the Disrespect NoBody website:

"What is relationship abuse? - Abuse in relationships can happen to anyone."

The rest of the language is very gender neutral - using 'person' etc. not him and her.

And there are links to male DV charities at the end.

Fact.

Yes, really ManPerson

"What if you’re a boy being abused by a girl?
If you’re a young man who’s experiencing abuse from your female partner then it may be especially hard for you to tell someone. Some people have told us they would feel less manly if someone knew they were being abused by a girl, or if their female partner threatened them with false allegations in order to keep them silent."
-- www.disrespectnobody.co.uk/relationship-abuse/advice/

There are also various links to helplines here which include Safeline and The Men's Advice Line, which are both organisations for male victims.

Why should men just get their own refuges handed over to them on a plate when women had to work for their's?"

Good point. There is more to be done on this.

So why are you wasting time moaning at us? Get off your ass and do something!