To think sister isn't happy with our 'happy news'?

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DP and I are expecting. It has come as a bit of a shock...

I sent a group email (close family) with the scan picture and everyone got very exited, had a barrage of messages and phone calls. My sister said wow what a shock, congrats, and haven't heard from her since. She hasn't liked the announcement DP made to his acquaintances on Facebook or my scan picture.

She uses Social media a lot so I don't think it's a case of rather having heard in person - we live pretty far away from all our family.

I would be devastated if my sister told me at 12 weeks by fucking Facebook that she was pregnant. I would be so upset.

Maybe that's your answer?

I would be really upset that my sister didn't pick up the phone and tell me (sorry). Congratulations though x

But she said 'congratulations'. Why does she have to like it on Facebook?!

I do tend to agree with other posters. You can't expect constant congratulations and likes on FB for the next 8 months while you're pregnant.

I just don't get the thought that she isn't happy for you because she hasn't pressed "like" on FB.

That really is overthinking things.

I rarely "like" things, even when I like them!

I don't get this, she emailed back congratulations, like what more do you want.

Surely this thread is not just made on the basis she didn't like a Facebook post?

She may not be happy about the news, but you are and in life you can't make this baby the centre of everyone's world, only the centre of yours.

So take this as the first lesson in standing up and taking it on the chin. Yes it is hurtful when family, friends, acquaintances ignore/belittle your child in some way. But you love this child and you will not knowingly do anything to hurt them in any way, that is your job as a mother. Your Mumma Bear instinct is already growing, you are protecting your baby from hurt, even though they couldn't possibly know Aunty X hasn't liked the news on FB. But it is the start of the Mumma Bear, and you need to learn to tame the bear - big enough to see off real danger, but not so agressive that you become scary!

Yes it is hurtful when family, friends, acquaintances ignore/belittle your child in some way.

Her sister hasn't ignored or belittled.

Maybe 'Mumma Bear' needs to stop placing so much importance on Facebook.

Maybe she has other things going on rright now, and will have the time and headspace to respond 'better' soon.

Maybe she is upset to be lumped in with a public group on social media rather than you making the effort to tell her individually. I hate social media announcements, they are so inpersonable.

After l miscarried I found it very difficult to be around people who were pregnant, not that I wasn't happy for them, but it was a physical reminder of what I had lost and felt very raw. For self preservation I had to step back a little for a while. Maybe your sister has had difficulties you don't know about?

If my sister told me news line this in a round robin email I would be very very hurt and upset

My sil gets arsey if you don't like a fb status.

She was went in hospital for a planned operation, 6 weeks ago. It wasn't enough that I called her to tell I was thinking about her, before she went in. Sent flowers and called dbro every day for updates.

But I didn't like her FB posts about or comment on them.

I really can't see the issue. She said congratulations.

Congratulations Op

YABU, personally I would find a group email announcement impersonal and a bit cold. Like some have already said I would hope DB and DS would make the effort to tell personally (email, phone or even a text).

That aside your DS did respond to your email and congratulate you. FB has a lot to answer for. Thank god I am not on it anymore. I never posted or liked baby scan announcements on FB. If I saw one I would send a personal message. Having mc myself, I thought them insensitive to those peopl that may see them that may have suffered a loss or have difficulties ttc.

I didn't mean for this to sound so harsh.

I find other people's pregnancies completely boring. I even found my own to be completely boring. I don't care about your morning sickness, your cravings, and I have no interest in a scan photo of your insides, and I really don't need to see weekly "bump" selfie updates.

I'll coo and make the appropriate noises when an actual human being emerges from you, but until then, there are some things that don't need to be shared on social media.

I think it was a bit off to tell your sister via a group email. However she replied, congratulated you and is now going about her own life. You are hand wringing about a post on Facebook that she may bit even have seen not being 'liked' by her? That is coming across as very needy unless there is something I am missing.

Yabu. A direct congratulations is more important than a Facebook like. Maybe your DH is a Facebook bore and she's unfollowed his posts?