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AIBU?

To worry about all the single men in Wetherspoons..

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Lanark2 · 27/02/2016 15:45

Hello, this is kind of light-hearted but also I do seriously wonder sometimes about how many of the lical wetherspoons drinkers/ breakfast eaters are men on their own. Sometimes it looks like a men's hostel at breakfast, but with alcohol for some.

It makes me wonder about how many people there are who don't make it to wetherspoons, and where they are.

Does anyone else notice this?

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ElderlyKoreanLady · 27/02/2016 18:19

Do people pity me when I go the the coffee shop alone to eat a chocolate croissant and read my book?! "oh bless her, eating alone and trying to disguise her alone-ness by reading something and being in the same room as others".

AcrossthePond55 · 27/02/2016 18:21

Maybe it's their way of getting their own breakfast instead of at home. My DH occasionally goes to Denny's for breakfast rather than he or I cooking

Maybe they're waiting for their wives/partners

Maybe they're waiting for their 'group' (where I live it's common to see groups of retired men sitting around having coffee in restaurants)

Maybe their early risers and don't want to disturb their wives/partners

Maybe they're on their way to work

ilovewelshrarebit123 · 27/02/2016 18:22

My best friend goes to Wetherspoons every Wednesday morning to meet her school mum friends.

They have a coffee and gossip, sometimes a fry up. Completely normal in my opinion!

ElderlyKoreanLady · 27/02/2016 18:24

kits I like being alone. Most of the time actually. Dealing with other people is an activity I actually have to mentally prepare myself for. I enjoy my lifestyle...If it's wrong to be alone then I don't want to be right!

ghostyslovesheep · 27/02/2016 18:24

I go to pubs alone
cafe's alone
the cinema alone
the theatre alone
running alone
shopping alone

I do lots of things alone because I like to and I am a grown up - the wrong side of middle aged!

SurferJet · 27/02/2016 18:25

I kinda get what the op means. I always feel a bit sorry for people sitting in pubs on their own.

Mitzeee · 27/02/2016 18:26

Whether OP intended it or not, this thread has made me giggle :) When I worked at Wetherspoons in my undergrad days we would get the same group of elderly-ish men arriving at 10am on the dot for a fry up and a John Smiths, which they would all have on separate tables, reading the paper or in front of the news. They all knew each other, I think they just liked the solitude within company. They'd quite often have a chat with the bar staff too...maybe we should have made that bit compulsory to alleviate OP's concerns?

Sparklingbrook · 27/02/2016 18:26

I kinda get what the op means

I think you deserve a prize of some sort.

SurferJet · 27/02/2016 18:28

Why thank you sparking

kali110 · 27/02/2016 18:29

How the hell do you know they are single or lonely op???
If i have a hospital app or have to wait for a friend ill go onto a spoons or coffee shop for a drink and sit there with a mag for a bit!

SurferJet · 27/02/2016 18:29

Oh dear, think I've just changed your name 😂

Sparklingbrook · 27/02/2016 18:29

I will book you a saddo table for one in Wetherspoons Surfer.

Pipbin · 27/02/2016 18:30

How do they know what they are like if they don't talk to anyone?

What? You can have no sense of self because you don't talk to anyone?
Are you assuming that because these men don't talk to each other that they never talk to anyone all day.
You do understand that they most likely do other things in the day. They aren't stuck in the pub eating breakfast all day.

DH goes to a coffee shop alone to write for half an hour or so a few days a week. He most likely won't talk to anyone other than the staff but I'm fairly sure that he knows what he is like.

Sparklingbrook · 27/02/2016 18:30

Oh dear, think I've just changed your name

Don't worry I've had worse.

Vintage45 · 27/02/2016 18:32

Can't say I'm worried about them.

The one near me is however known for attracting a lot of old blokes that like a drink no matter what time of day

NashvilleQueen · 27/02/2016 18:32

I grew up in a pub. There were lots of men who came in alone, not with other male friends or wives/partners. They sometimes bobbed in on their way home and other times later on in the evening. Some had wives at home. Some did not. Some stood at the bar and never spoke a word to anyone else save to order drinks and others came in for a chat. All were pretty normal (well, not ALL obviously) and I guess the Wetherspoons crowd are similar. There's not one single type of man who does this. I would add that it was almost unheard of for a woman to come in alone though.

MyFriendGoo52 · 27/02/2016 18:34

Ours is full of single men, it's a hotel as well so lots of contractors.

SaucyJack · 27/02/2016 18:34

The women's equivalent is the Gala bingo if MIL no. 1 is anything to go by.

I wouldn't feel sorry for them. I used to love a quiet pint on my own back in the day. Rather spoilt by the smoking ban tho. Shame.

SurferJet · 27/02/2016 18:36

I believe in equality for all but I could never go for a drink on my own like men do.
Cinema? possibly, but pub? Noooooo.

Sparklingbrook · 27/02/2016 18:37

My nearest Wetherspoons is 16.6 miles away apparently, so I am unable to conduct any research. Which is a shame.

NashvilleQueen · 27/02/2016 18:38

I love a quiet drink alone. With a book. Bliss

ApocalypseNowt · 27/02/2016 18:39

If i'm drinking alone I disguise my alone-ness by sitting uncomfortably close to other people. I do apologise if i've invaded your space but better that than being seen to be a lone grown-up

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ElderlyKoreanLady · 27/02/2016 18:39

I can't really work out if this is a thread...

A) wondering where people who don't go to wetherspoons eat their breakfast.

B) pitying people who eat alone.

C) something else entirely that we're all missing.

Either way, it's barking

OP quite a lot of people like their own company. Some of these people can't be arsed cooking breakfast. Those who fall into both categories can be found in Wetherspoons, Greggs, coffee shops, greasy spoons etc. Don't overthink it and assume that there are hordes of men who go out for breakfast simply to feel close to someone while hiding behind their paper too scared to chat.

Vintage45 · 27/02/2016 18:43

I don't see many men in a pub with a book though. Going the pub alone is still a male thing.

lorelei9 · 27/02/2016 18:43

Elderly, I have a feeling it's a thread by someone who can't believe that anyone can be single/solitary/introverted/escaping from a busy home for an hour/all of those....and actually happy.

I go to the cinema alone because it saves on chatting.

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