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To think this isn't special treatment

93 replies

TrixieBlue2016 · 26/02/2016 18:41

Sorry its a long one and a bit vague so not outing.

My DSS's teacher has had an accident and is in hospital with a broken leg and cuts and bruises but will be fine. 2 years ago DSS'S (10) DM died in a similar type of accident.

The school has been very good with DSS helping him through this. The Head called DH to tell him about the teacher so we were aware before DSS's class was told. DSS was told separately from the other kids as he was likely to be upset which he was. DSS really likes his teacher.

The class made cards for the teacher and the class decided that DSS would go with the head to afternoon visiting today to give them to teacher. DH was asked if this was ok on Wednesday. We felt this would help DSS with his fear of this type of accident and of hospitals.

DSS returned to school just before home time when I picked him up. Some of the other Mums already seemed to know why DSS was out with the Head some didn't. DSS has missed some school for special days associated with his DM like her birthday and the anniversary of the day she died although the school hasn't advertised this.

We have a school Facebook group for fundraising etc. One of the mums who didn't seem to know where DSS had been has posted on it. That DSS was getting special treatment and was sucking up to the Head and the teacher. There has been several mean comments along the lines of he is 'a special snowflake' getting extra days off etc.

Aibu to want to post something back as I don't think he is getting special treatment.

OP posts:
redexpat · 26/02/2016 20:39
DorothyBastard · 26/02/2016 20:40

That's a really dignified response from your DH. That main mum is fucking foul.

Stripyhoglets · 26/02/2016 20:42

She sounds like a nasty piece of work. Please do tell the school about this though as they should send out a reminder that unofficial Facebook groups with the name of the school should l not be used to discuss individual children.

Zariyah · 26/02/2016 20:49

Other mum is a proper twunt. DSS, on the other hand, is lucky to have a dad and stepmum like you. I hope he is ok.

Original poster
TrixieBlue2016 · 26/02/2016 20:54

DH first attempt of a response was - fuck off you fucking troll. But I talked him out of it Grin

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Hannahfftl · 26/02/2016 20:58

I work in a school and we would want to know this was happening. Screenshot and take it in to the head. Ask the head to have a word with the mum and explain what is and isn't appropriate behaviour online and also that as the head of the school it is up to them to decide what dss needs or doesn't need.

DoreenLethal · 26/02/2016 21:00

Wow. What a bitchy thing to put (the main mum, not your husband). Just wow.

TealLove · 26/02/2016 21:02

Omg they are vile! Have they No humanity ?!

WonderingAspie · 26/02/2016 21:09

I like the response your DH wanted to put, but probably best he used the response he did. Probably. Wink

What a nasty piece of work that mum is! Your poor DSS having to go through something like that anyway without a bunch of bitches thinking he is some sort of special snowflake!

AyeAmarok · 26/02/2016 21:35

What a horrible woman. Hope your DSS is okay.

AyeAmarok · 26/02/2016 21:35

What a horrible woman. Hope your DSS is okay.

NeuNewNouveau · 26/02/2016 21:38

Wow what a bitch. Even if you didn't know why a kid was getting special treatment surely you shouldn't go moaning about it on fb?!
Well done to you for keeping dignity.

fuzzpig · 26/02/2016 21:45

Blimey what an absolute cow that woman is.

Sorry your DSS has been through so much. Glad he's got you fighting for him Thanks

fastdaytears · 26/02/2016 21:48

Please tell the school. Even if it's not an official group I'm sure they can do something.
Sounds like the school have been really supportive and sensitive, and you sound lovely also (sorry not very MN, too much cider!)

comedycentral · 26/02/2016 21:56

Disgusting behaviour from so called adults!

PerettiChelsea · 26/02/2016 22:07

How does someone forget a child lost his mother?? Let alone butch about it.

Endorsed by the school or not the head needs to know about this

ricketytickety · 26/02/2016 22:28

well that woman has just shown everyone what her true colours are. School need to know as talking about children online is a safeguarding issue. I'd say the school will need to remind parents not to bully vulnerable children online.

SantasLittleMonkeyButler · 26/02/2016 22:29

Oh my! Shock

That sounds like something a spiteful teenager might say, not a grown woman!

What on earth is so wrong in her life that she has to be jealous of a child receiving "special treatment" in this way? It's pitiful.

ample · 26/02/2016 22:43

If you do respond then something along the lines of what Lauriefairycake suggested

"we're really grateful for the schools support and understanding since his mother died in a similar accident two years ago"

It's a statement. I wouldn't bother to read or reply to any responses that follow.

ample · 26/02/2016 22:46

If that parent could spend a few moments in your DSS's shoes..
I hope he will be okay

scarletthollie5 · 26/02/2016 22:56

Which of their children would they like to lose - really the school is bring understanding and supportive to the child and family. Losing a child is devestating l speak as someone who lost a daughter suddenly - thankfully her daughter's school has been supportive. These callous people need to have a look at their lives and be thankful it is not them having to live enduring the never ending pain of child loss

DrinkFeckArseGirls · 26/02/2016 23:01

Tell her that if she falls under a bus her DC will get a special treatment too. maybe not verbatim.

cuntycowfacemonkey · 26/02/2016 23:06

What a vile bitch I would definitely show it to the head, if for no other reason than to let them see her for what she is. Your DH's response was perfect

ClaraBorne · 26/02/2016 23:23

I don't think you need to do anything, social media has already tried her and found her guilty. Hoisted by her own petard.

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 26/02/2016 23:40

Wow. What an utter bitchtwat she is. So glad your DH posted the dignified response, although I bet he was muttering the other one under his breath the whole time!!

If I was feeling particularly evil, I might have posted something along the lines of "If you want your DC to have the same treatment, you'll need to sacrifice yourself under a bus - are you up for that?"
But that would be unnecessarily mean, of course.