NC (does chicken noises)
I am laughing about this by the way.
History:
I have a school friend who I have known through the DC for about 2 years now- very friendly, lots of sleepovers with the kids/camping/going out for dinner.
They all had been hit by the flu bug a couple of weeks ago and as I would ask for any friend I offered help. I was thinking I could make some soup of bread for them, run some errands etc.
"Yes actually you could help"
Pause
"Can XXXX (Dh's name) come and tile our utility room? "We're all so ill we're not able to manage it"
Well I wasn't sure how to answer that so did the usual "he will come out and give you a quote when you're feeling better" was met with her hanging up on me.
The woman has not spoken to me since.
Cheeky, much?
AIBU?
Well of course I am cocking well not but...
IamTheSlayerofCakes · 23/02/2016 09:43
How bizarre that tiling a room was the first thing that sprung to her mind when you offered help to a flu ridden house
What happened with the lady with the stables?
Well I think you were being unreasonable. Surely you could have nipped round and put a new roof on her house or something?
After all, she had flu.
No clue with stable lady. All I know is about 18 months ago my FB feed had copious photos of her dc there and horse riding and then they stopped. They are still friends but not in the same way. We didn't have that kind of friend currency it would seem 
Thank you all.
Glory yes! It's silly but I've spent the morning very much doubting myself and wondering if she did continue and nurture our friendship because of what she could've gained. We are very generous to our friends with time and kindness and always have been and in return we've made life long wonderful friends over the years. We're in a new place now and just expected the same would happen.
I feel a bullet was dodged but I cannot help going over and picking over it- I'm obsessing aren't I 
Yes dcs are upset and asking when they are coming for Sunday roast 
I had a friend like this - and then she moved to next town and I was ill and couldnt help her at all. (Hideous back, couldnt walk,move etc) and was sort of disposed of.
But in hindsight, we did lots for her family and their dogs etc while she did not a lot for mine. Weird friendship really. Anyway, my point is that this person is still the same, the horses/dogs/kids are shuffled around, and she has serious boundary issues in using people. Her grandmother even told me that she was incapable of being a good friend :(
I wonder if its the same person OP
Now, are you absolutely sure she didn't want someone to come over and tidy her utility room? Could be an awful misunderstanding 
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You could have said "No i'm sorry he's busy but I can have a bash at it for you! Never tiled before but how hard can it be? I'll be over in the morning - anything for a friend in need...."
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I honestly can't believe some people! Well. Actually, I can! My DH is often too soft with people (he is a mechanic/handyman) we have a fair bit of space at the front of our house, front of house probably has room for 3 cars, one on the drive and one in the garage. Anyway a "friend" asked if he could store his car for 2 weeks to repair it (it'd been in an accident) It ended up being there for two months. We didn't get a penny either, just a sorry then six months later a 70cl bottle of vodka not even a litre, the bloomin cheek! he asked for favours since but we have declined!
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