to think my fiancee should come off mumsnet and give me some attention?

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Shes totally diched me for the site, im feeling unloved!

Well, for what it's worth, I could have easily have made the same 'mistake'. I certainly had no idea it was such a crime to message someone who might be in the same vicinity. I totally saw the lightheartedness of your thread and the communication between you and your partner. I actually thought it was really funny when she appeared and especially to then discover she was a woman :-)
Your previous threads were irrelevant. Plenty got joy from raising them and sharing them. I don't get it. School playground is what springs to mind. Posters were bouncing off each other. I found it immature and sad. Glad you were able to rise above it. Some of the unkindness that came through was way way worse than your crime of, erm. . . Talking to each other in an entertaining and light way on here. . . Those guys were maybe bored. . . Who knows. What I do know is that you two came across as nice people, whereas some other posters, well, erm, died not ;-)

*Did not

Thanxs. Thickgit which you certainly aren't .this is a really unexpected post and so eloquently written empathy is one of my favourite human qualities .my partner felt so dis hearten last night ,people actually brought out a quality in her that i had not seen before .(thanxs for that ) me i take it as it comes like water off a ducks back . we can dessert delieved and they definitely made up for it ... Thanxs

I knew their relentless comments would have an emotional impact. The gang mentality of some of the posters was quite cruel. I'm sorry that it affected your partner. You had explained that she sometimes suffers and is a bit volatile which should have made readers have a little more understanding.
There is an easy way to advise you how to, and how not to, post. It could look something more like this:
Hiya, just some friendly advice. . . it might be sensible not to chat to each other on here because it becomes too much like Facebook and can be a little frustrating for readers.
However, personally, I don't feel it was their responsibility to tell you how to post full stop. Do what you like. If MN has an issue with it, they will let you know.
Chin up OP, you came across as mature and dignified. . . Unlike those who have caused you undue distress.
PS don't be put off MN

I won't i like a challenge and secretely there helping me ...without even realising it ...

Perfect :-)

OP, AIBU is a harsh, judgmental place. Try the 'chat' boards next time, much friendlier!