to be quite excited DH is going away for a week?

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Because I am. He's just given me his full travel itinerary and I'm actually both giddy with excitement and kinda disappointed I'm not going to get a full weekend to 'myself' as part of it.

Don't get me wrong, I quite like him most of the time. But I love these weeks where it's just me and the kids - I can cook couscous and veg for tea and no one complains they're being starved; I can sit and write of an evening and no one complains they're being ignored; I can spend Saturday going to the supermarket and doing jobs round the house while the kids play with no one complaining that it's boring; I can have a friend over for coffee (while the kids still play) and no one complains that it's intruding on family time.

The short version is that although DH and I make for excellent dinner partners and have an awesome time when we're off on our own together, our expectations of family domesticity are wildly different (none of which was remotely obvious before we had kids).

And so I'm super excited and I can't tell anyone because he'd only get upset.

But only three sleeps!

You are all lucky. My DH only goes out once a year for his works Christmas do. ONCE a YEAR! That's it!! And we only have one reception room so no getting away from each other. But I do love him.

Another one who loves it.

My dh is everything to everyone, so it's quite nice for me to move into his role occasionally. We miss his cooking, but he usually cooks ahead for me to re-heat (yes, I am useless).

We all miss him like mad, so we appreciate him all the more. I get all giddy about him coming home, it injects a bit of romance...

1 of the nights dh was away dd was on night shift starts at 8 other dd stayed at her friends It was bloody heaven i slobbed watching crap tv eating crisps

DH is away next week, home for the weekend and then away for 3 days the week after. DS has left home and DD (18) spends most of the week at her BF's house.

I wouldn't tell him but I can't wait. A whole week all to myself, nobody to discuss what to have for tea, nobody to disturb my baths. Just me and the dog in bed. Blissful.

Usually he's only away overnight so this is a bit different. I'll miss him like mad but I shall enjoy some books and the TV

lightbulb it's not that I can't cook a big creamy pasta dish that DH would hate when he's here, but I'd be a bit miffed if I came home from work and he'd made his special bottom of the fridge curry with broccoli that I really don't like (because it is on no sense a real meal) and shrugged when I asked where my tea was.

Sharing a house means a certain amount of compromise and I bloody love it when I don't hAve to compromise.

I love it too whenever DH goes away for a couple of nights. I secretly look forward to it as it means I can just eat cereal for dinner (DH is a 3 proper meals a day guy and lectures me whenever he finds me scoffing cereal or honey on toast in the evening) and watch Netflix series like OITNB that he hates!

Ha! I live on a different continent to DP. It's lovely. I get to do what I want when I want, be lazy if I want, eat what I want.... (all of which, to be fair, I could do in the UK but sometimes for ease you go along with stuff). I go home for school hols and we have a lovely time holidaying, visiting relatives etc.
It's the perfect set up for us as I get to go on my little adventure whilst home loving DP gets to potter and watch unlimited box sets.

I very much love my DH and love living with him, but it's not about me not being able to be myself, it's about being able to please myself!

I do most of the time. If I don't fancy dinner, I don't have it. If he wants cereal for dinner, he has it. I am most certainly not a prisoner either. We both come and go, when and as we please BUT we check or inform the other person before we do these things. It's called consideration.

When he's not here, if I want to pop out to the shops at 10pm, I do it without having to explain myself. If I decide at 2am, when I've woken up on the sofa, that I want a bath, I'll have one without having to consider DH.

It's not at all about not wanting him here. And I think after 25 years of being married, I think I can safely say we're compatible!

Can't wait for next weekend though. He's just told me he's going to France for the weekend!

Love it love it. We eat pizza in front of the telly and go to bed late, me and my two DSs together in my big bed. We stay in our pjs until 11 and eat macaroni and cheese. Dh goes one one golf trip a year I used to hate it when DSs were little as it was hard work but now they are a bit older it's proper bonding time.

I would hate it. I like a few hours on my own but then I look forward to seeing him again. I am not one who needs much time on my own. I love going to bed and reading alone but I also love knowing people are around downstairs. Dh would love more time on his own I'm sure. When I went away for a few days with the kids he was quite excited

Yanbu.

Aibu to be really jealous?!

I would do something mildly illegal for this. DH took ds away for a weekend five years ago but I was studying for Finals at the time, which was the reason he did it. Other than that, I get possibly a couple of evenings to myself in the average summer when dh takes ds to the cricket club (should be a guaranteed once a week from April to September but dh is often not well enough to do it). That's about it for time to myself in my own house.

TBH I try not to think about it too much because I feel quite desperate with longing for a weekend to myself. Also because I know if I had a weekend to myself, it would seem like about two minutes and I would just be upset that I didn't have a week to myself, and then a fortnight, and I would rapidly end up fucking off completely to start a new life. And in fact I do love both of them very much and would miss them horribly, only it feels exactly the same as having to wear the same outfit day and night for five years, I just want a WASH.

My DH is off to Germany for almost a week in April, all good and he always brings me a small gift back.

I hear you loud and clear! My DH has been gone since Tuesday. He may be back Saturday afternoon, maybe not until next Monday. He and some friends are camping.

I've been watching Nexflix and Amazon video. All the soppy, romantic (Poldark) stuff he doesn't like. Yesterday I watched Harry Potter, tomorrow Twilight or Hunger Games. Might throw in a few Disney films. I am 'Queen of the Living Room Remote'.

I'll be happy when he gets home. But I am enjoying the ME time!

My DH quite often goes interstate so I have the odd day or two in luxurious solitude. Once he went on three-week course to NZ ( bit like her out of the Archers now I think of it ).

The thing that makes me smile is he always cooks loads of food for me to heat up in his absence. It's as if he doesn't trust me to eat when he's away.:o

I love it too but doesn't happen anymore! Used to get 3 days a week of just me and DS. I always missed him but made the best of it. I can do whatever I like when he's here.. Eat what I want, spend all night on my phone, look like a slob etc and he doesn't care so for me it's not about being able to do what I want. It's just about not having to talk to another adult for a bit and having the house stay tidy... Oh and the bed to myself!

But there are people who can't be themselves at home and that is sad. I know two people (both in their 60s) who go to the shop for some chocolate and eat it in the car so they don't get any comments, can't slob out without getting pulled up on it. It's no way to live!

Next week my DH is very going away for 8 days (to Italy) and I'm really looking forward to the peace the quiet, having time alone with DS (23 months) and having a tidy house!!!

This is why I actually like DH working shifts. Most weeks I get one or two evenings to myself, and often at least a day at the weekend just me and DS. Plus it means the evenings he is home we have lots of chatting and catching up to do and it doesn't get samey and boring, and when he's actually off for the whole weekend we all get kind of giddily excited and go for day trips and cook special meals etc because we're lame but it's actually really exciting to have a 'family weekend' which I guess most people take for granted.

My DH doesn't do much in the way of work or social trips away but I am really looking forward to two weeks without him or kids later this year as he is visiting his parents and having recently started a new job I could only get a couple of weeks leave so they all head off and then I get to join them 1/2 way through. Also means I get to fly long haul minus kids which will also be great!

Relieved it's not just me! DH can be lovely but also can be incredibly uptight and is having one of the latter phases atm.

He used to work shifts and go out a couple of times a week but now we both work term time only and the last time he went out for an evening was early December.

Add in that DD is now 11 so stays up later and sees every one of his outings as an excuse for mum & daughter time and I'm currently climbing the walls.

There are 2 weekends in the next 3 months when DH is busy and I thought I'd dispatch DD for a sleepover - then I realised one is Mothers Day weekend and the other is the weekend before she starts SATS so that's put the kibosh on my plans...aaarrrggghhh!!!!

My dh is going away for the weekend in about an hour and taking our 4 dcs. Squee.

Harrumph.

DH was invited on a stag weekend next month. I was soooo excited, then he announced that he had turned it down as it would probably 'be too expensive and get messy'.

I don't care, pleeeease just bugger off!

YADNBU.

Me time is glorious isn't it?

I'd be super naughty and would feign illness to reschedule DM to another week and then curl up with a book and eat biscuits.

Muahahahaha

Erp, I agree that this is pretty depressing. Why do you need to wait til your DH leaves town to have what you fancy for tea? I couldn't be happy like that.

I don't think it's a matter of just having what they want for tea, it's having time to just luxuriate in one's own company.