to think that Facebook really hurts?

[DorothyL]

Two friends having a "long overdue" catch up, while their boys played...

I used to be included in that when the children were smaller... Now I think I don't get asked because ds has sn and can be a bit difficult

[ZiggyFartdust]

Uhhuh. The "too smug for FB" crowd.
Its like any other tool, it's how you use it that matters, not the tool itself.
Its not fbs fault if your friends are dickheads. Its not fbs fault if you feel lonely. It's the people you have chosen to put on there that are the problem.

OP, you're assuming that you weren't invited because of your sons sn. But it's easily as likely that they are just two friends meeting up, when you catch up with an old friend you don't have to invite everyone you used to see together. Have you asked them to meet up, or are you passively waiting to be asked?

[liz70]

Facebook is a tool, as is the internet in general. You can use it or misuse it as you choose.

[thebiscuitindustry]

there is definitely an element from some on these type of threads of superiority because they dont use it.

I don't think it's that, just that some of us don't like it and have said why.

For some people I think it's the default position that everyone must have FB.

[LagunaBubbles]

I didnt necessarily mean this thread thebiscuit but Ive seen it before, "I dont need FB because I have real friends, I have a life" kind of thing. What difference does it make - everyone doesnt "need" to have it all, have it if you want, dont if you dont.

[BabyGanoush]

Agree with Ziggy.

Goodness, you could make it a life time's work feeling left out, insulted, hurt and upset ...

So two people met up, they did not invite you, or their sisters(they are hurt at being left out), or their neighbour (even though she is a really good friend!) or Emma (she would have loved to come) or Lucy (left out again, why?) or Oscar (" is it because I am a bloke?"....

Really, how can you go through life being so sensitive

[DorothyL]

Maybe because with a child with sn I hit difficulties at every turn.

[BabyGanoush]

Is there a support network (formal/informal) for you?

[BabyGanoush]

Not being invited to something does not mean it is anything to do with SN.

Lots of people don't get invited to lots of things.

[DorothyL]

I know that BabyGanoush but I'm not stupid, ds never gets invited for playdates, hardly ever to birthday parties, all nothing to do with sn?

[jadorecakesnbiscuits]

I found a group of close friends of mine, 2 of which were bridesmaids at my wedding had all been for a meal literally (I kid you not) a 2 minute walk from my house at a restaurant. I had been telling a few of them just days before that I felt quite isolated and alone recently, it would be great to catch up.

Some people are just dicks, you might never know why but please don't let mumsnet thing YABU for being hurt by this sort of thing, I completely understand why you are.

[LoisWilkersonsLastNerve]

Last week I was bringing my bin in when a friend was walking past, I invited her in for coffee. She tagged this on fb I did worry other friends might see it and think they had been snubbed. I hate fb.

[Destinysdaughter]

I've not looked at it now for 4 months as I felt similarly excluded from things. Feel better actually!

[CooPie10]

It really isn't fb, it's the friends you have. If fb wasn't around they probably would still get together and the difference is you wouldn't know. If you don't want to get upset, delete your fb. Either way the friends will still meet up.

[hollieberrie]

Some sensible comments here. I'm not smug at all about not having FB - I freely admit it wasnt my friends that were the problem it was me . I naturally tend to be a bit insecure & jealous (i try to hide it but it's who i am!) and FB just fed into that and made me anxious and miserable.