to finally tell H how demanding I can be

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Chatting with H (no D here tonight) and brought up that I'd seen an easter Egg I would like in the shop but it will be popular so if he wanted to get it for me he'd probably want to get it early (easter is a special time for us as a couple and we always mark it). Chatting later and I told him mothers day was early this year. He told me I was very demanding. Bear in mind I didn't ask for anything for mothers day I was letting him know if he wanted to get the dc to make a picture. Well all hell broke loose. I'm so sick of keeping my 'demands' buried. Every birthday and christmas I tell him something to get me (something practical) because he doesn't have the get up and go to think of anything to get me. I'd love to be treated special but lecture after lecture about money has broken me and I just ask for things I need instead of things I want. I picked my own engagement ring and picked the cheapest one as I was already getting a lecture about money. But when I wanted to save on the wedding by going abroad he wanted the big day so that's what we had. We didn't get wedding presents because they were a waste of money. I'm so sick of being treated like nothing so I said said it out. Now he's sleeping on the couch (his choice I didn't ask him to). Is it wrong to want to be treated every now and again

I think you and DH have fallen into a way of doing things, but just happens to be his way.

I can imagine when you are first together saving money by not buying stuff seemed sensible to you. But he got his big wedding - so then it was very much saving money on what you wanted but blowing it on his.

Telling you you are very demanding because you mentioned mother's day and easter egg is pa - look how difficult you are, putting on him all the time.

I don't need or want anything in particular, I need and want (frankly) to be thought about and not to be made feel like a burden
from a post above. But the making you feel like a burden is pa imv.

But it could be he isn't fully aware he is doing it.
You need some honest conversations. Point out that if he doesn't want to do small things that make you feel appreciated or happy then Ok, but that makes you unhappy ........

I think that if you earn a reasonable salary then I think you are entitled to buy things for yourself. What is the point of working hard if you can't treat yourself now and again. If you know he is not going to get you something, get it yourself. Life is too short. I would buy the Easter egg and put it on display. But then that is me.

katenka It is in the OP:
I'd seen an easter Egg I would like in the shop but it will be popular so if he wanted to get it for me he'd probably want to get it early

Op where are you? Can you answer any of my questions? If not, and they concern you, go over to relationships. Please don't just bury your head in the sand.