'D'H has just thrown up all over the bedroom carpet...

[Vebrithien]

After REFUSING to have a bowl next to him.
Am 14 weeks pregnant and have just had to clear up the mess.
AIBU to not feel very sympathetic now?

Have you?

Gutted I missed your deleted message though, must have been a corker to get deleted!

Florence Nightingale you ain't, OP. First time in 15 years he's sick and you're raging.

I bet it's a different story when you are ill.

I'm an emetophobe and as such am hardly ever sick (we work at it). I have ALWAYS vommed into a bowl or bucket (ooh, I lie, once into a bin). The extent of my darling DH's clean up is limited to having to pour the contents down the toilet and rinse the bowl / flush.

It's stupid and rude to refuse a bowl just in case because you think you won't need one. It's hardly going to get in the way, is it? Making your pregnant wife clean up your puke because of your own precious pride and rock solid "I'm invincible" belief isn't very considerate. It's fucking stupid. And I'd say this about anyone, male or female, who refused a bowl / bucket.

zzzz is this a personal problem against lottie as i don't quite understand the vitriol directed towards them

Kali if it is it's news to me, I'm not sure what I've done to offend zzzz quite this much!

Single mum here, so I always hurl into the toilet even when I feel like death. Then I just need to flush, and can give the loo a proper clean when I feel better. I have never vommed anywhere other than into the toilet, apart from once when I was a teenager I ran outside and vommed behind a tree in the garden.

Before you ask, yes, sometimes I run to the loo with every last ounce of energy thinking I'm about to vom and then nothing happens. I camp out near the loo if I feel queasy, so I can get there in time if necessary.

DD knows about vomming into the loo. She doesn't always make it, but she's having accidents closer and closer to the loo every time so by the time she's all grown up she'll have it down to a fine art.

I will add this to my list of requirements when I finally get round to hunting for a mate: 'must be willing to clean up my vom'. Otherwise what's the point of him.

zzzzno probably for your nasty post to lottie

Poor you. Vomit is the nearest thing I have to a phobia. He DEFINITELY owes you a treat.

I had severe morning sickness and sometimes it just happened with no warning. Luckily my dh was really lovely about it and on more than one occasion insisted on cleaning it up.

Maybe your dh didn't think he needed a bowl and then just had a sudden urge to vomit!?

Have a bit of compassion. I don't see what being 14 weeks pregnant has to do with it? If you were 34 I could see how it's relevant with a bump in the way to bend over.

Z I think you were deleted for calling Lottie an arsehole
I actually thought her original post was the same as a point I made about a healthy person just sat there not helping while a sick person cleaned up their own vomit. It might have been clumsily put but not intentionally nasty. Typing isn't always the best way of getting a point across

Sorry there was a at the end of that post!

Single mum here, so I always hurl into the toilet even when I feel like death. Then I just need to flush, and can give the loo a proper clean when I feel better. I have never vommed anywhere other than into the toilet, apart from once when I was a teenager I ran outside and vommed behind a tree in the garden.

Since a teenager, the only time I've vommed anywhere that wasn't a toilet was when I was in the middle of asking where the toilets were in A&E...I had severe food poisoning. They made me a priority right after

But yep, single parent here too. And my not fancying cleaning up sick while ill myself is a huge motivator for getting my arse to a toilet when I feel ill.

Wow, this insight into how married/coupled people deal with each other's vomit is strangely fascinating.

Ooh, I lie actually. I was sick several times in labour and had had an epidural so couldn't make the loo. But that when that started, I started with the very urgent shouts of "someone get me something to be sick in!!!" Luckily they got me something in time.

thanks for the support kali and terribleknitter

zzzz i'm sorry you found my post horrid - it genuinely wasn't meant to be and I do think you missed the point of what I was saying.

This thread has been strangely interesting -> thats vom- not envy- nobody could be envious of that

I actually found pregnancy the time of my life where i could best deal with vomit, probably because I saw so much of it. Was sick in ds1's hat once (poor kid) - it was the only semi-receptacle to hand. Dh had strong emetophobic tendencies but 2 pregnancies and 2 children later he is much better at dealing with other people's sick, although still really phobic about vomiting himself.

barb

Any top tips on how to get the smell of vomit out of carpet please?

Bicarbonate of soda.

Are you PG with first? Think of it as practice. I had to hire a rug doctor after DS threw up on a new carpet. Now if anyone is sick I say, if you can't get to the toilet please throw up on 1. Your pyjamas 2. Your bed 3. Anything that is not the carpet.

So, I was very surprised to see this thread surface again!
I used bicarb of soda, dettol, zflora (sp) and then eventually carpet cleaner with a Vax wet hoover. The smell was gone in 24 hours.
For what it's worth, I caught the bug, and spent the next day and night throwing up. I didn't miss the bowl, sink or toilet any of those times! DH was deeply apologetic.
I was so worried about the pregnancy, due to an early miscarriage prior to this. Happily, DD is lying on the bed next to me, kicking my side and cooing. So all's well that ends well!

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