'D'H has just thrown up all over the bedroom carpet...

[Vebrithien]

After REFUSING to have a bowl next to him.
Am 14 weeks pregnant and have just had to clear up the mess.
AIBU to not feel very sympathetic now?

But sometimes when you're ill the toilet can suddenly seem a hell of a long way away, especially if whatever you have has knocked you off your feet. Last time I had food poisoning I could barely sit up never mind find my way to the bathroom - I didn't refuse a bowl though because DH shoved it under my nose.

Food poisoning can be horrendous and if really bad I wouldn't hesitate to clean up puke, in accordance with marriage vows, "in sickness and in health".

When I had food poisoning I wrote a will in the middle of it all as I didn't think I was going to make it.

My DH has TWICE had to peer down the toilet bowl and describe the contents of my sick to a doctor over the phone- the first time was the morning after we were engaged (the second when I was pregnant 5 years later!). He's also cleaned out many a sick bowl for me (HG pregnancy).

I luffs him.

I have cleaned his sick from the sink (drunk). And had the occasion arisen I would have done the above for him too.

I really don't think not having anyone who cares enough to clean up your sick when you are really really ill is something to be proud off

Lottie looking at it for long enough to describe it over the phone is definitely love
I've done for DH when he was drunk, mainly because he'd been on red wine and it bloody stains... He's done it for me and we'll hopefully still be doing it when we're older and greyer!

you are right OP. he was stupid to refuse the bowel - bet he never does that again. Mind you if he was feeling that sick, his judgement might have been off. You were right to clean it up - rotten job to have to do though.

DH has cleaned up worse than vomit for me (I had a third degree tear and retained products that resulted intermittent hemorrhaging after first birth).

I have cleaned up my best friends vomit. She was staying with me when her back went out horribly. Eventually she got major painkillers/muscle relaxants but they made her sick - all over my bathroom. it wasn't pleasant but I cleaned it up without thinking twice.

Those of you who wouldn't have cleaned it up- you would've just left puke all over your bedroom?

Silly me as an emetephobic for opening this thread....my worst nightmare...

Sorry to hear your DH is unwell OP

I didn't realise he was ill.

I would've cleaned it up (with much heaving).

I categorically refused to clear up anyone's vomit when pregnant, because it would inevitably have led to my own vomit adding to the mess.

Christ almighty, have a bit of sympathy. So he refused a bowl? Not great idea. but maybe he didn't realise how ill he was? Thought he could make it?
My dh has had food positing twice. Not just a bit sicky. I mean properly diagnosed campylobacter, and he was sick as a dog and in hospital for 4 days.
So let's cut the dh a bit of slack here.

Cleaning up sick aint that bad. Not when someone is genuinely ill.

I'd clean it up. Because it's the kind thing to do if your partner (or anyone else, really) is ill. It wasn't done wth malice aforethought - the bloke is ill.

I have sympathy for you both OP.

I rarely puke so do have a tendency to think I won't... Last summer I had a migrane and have never puked with them before so thought I wouldn't... I was wrong and managed to get outside (in a temporary office like you see at building sites) and puke on the grass in front of loads of people who were then very kind to me and looked after me but I was actually sobbing with embarrassment!

At uni I puked on my bed once and my rug once (better than the carpet at least!) and my friends bed once... All alcohol related I'm afraid to say. I guess I'm bad at accepting the inevitable... Although like your DH once it's happened I'm in the bathroom for the night

Hope he feels better soon

My DH once drank bad red wine with a neighbour. 3am he ran to the bathroom but didn't quite make it. He put his hand over his mouth but his fingers were spread. Bright red puke everywhere. Over walls, hall carpet, ceiling, toilet, sink, grout, towels, towel rail, skirting board, window blind. Smelt like sour wine. Gross. We had to completely redecorate.

8 years on I can laugh about it. But he owes me until the end of time for that one.

Some people really wouldn't clean up their partners sick when theyve been ill? I am so thankful for my dh.
zZZZ i've had salmonella poisoning and i can tell you now no if i had thrown up on the carpet there would be no way i would have been able to clean it up. It took everything out of me just to go to the toilet.

I'm also emetophobic.

I can't clean up my own puke because after it happens I feel far too faint and wobbly to do anything.

But then I almost always make it to the toilet, the rare couple of times I've been too ill to get to the toilet I have had a bucket at the ready. So cleaning up is simply a matter of emptying and disinfecting the bucket. I last puked on the floor aged around 5, I was in the top bunk, and wasn't allowed to get up by myself in the night!

If DH is ill, I am to be found outside (in just a pair of pants once) or huddled in a corner somewhere. I physically can't clean up after him, I tried once when he just missed the toilet but when I saw it/smelt it through the open bathroom door my legs gave way and I fell down the stairs.

Thankfully, DH is starting (after 10 or so years) to come round to my way of thinking, if you're unsure then it's far better to have a bucket and not need it, than to need a bucket and not have one! And I was so proud of myself last time he was ill, he emptied the bucket himself and went back to bed, and I did the disinfecting of the bucket.

Anyway, for whoever asked, yes I would leave vomit all over the bedroom, if DH couldn't clean it up then I would have to leave it. I'd also not use the bedroom till at a minimum it had been professionally cleaned, the smell had cleared and if there were any lingering stains/smells, it would need to be redecorated!

My dh did that once, I've never let him live it down. He puked in to his tshirt whilst sat in bed instead of getting up and going to the toilet, it was probably the worst experience of my life.

I still helped clear him up though but nagged just enough to make sure he never did it again.

DH has cleaned up my sick many times during morning sickness when it occasionally misses the toilet. You really need to be lying down after that, not scrubbing behind the toilet...

It's much more likely to be a bug than food poisoning though, without knowing the facts obviously - so make sure you wear gloves, use disinfectant and use a different bathroom for a couple of days. He can clean the bathroom once he feels better!

I would clear up after DH if he was ill and I know he would do the same for me. I can understand refusing the bowl, I feel sick a lot of the time and when I had a sick bug last year I didn't realise until I was actually sick.

I don't know how some of you always make it to the toilet. The last time I had a vomiting bug I could barely lift my head to be sick into the bowl my dp had got for me. There's no way I'd have made it to the toilet!

Why is it more likely to be a bug than food poisoning?

zzzz congratulations on entirely missing the point of what I said.

I don't need to think of another example because I would never dare to pronounce on others lovableness!

I am entitled to feel a little confused about those who claim that adults should always clear up their own sick whatever the circs and that they cannot imagine ever doing it for another or needing it done for them.

Let me be clear though, I'm not saying nobody loves them or they don't love others. The confusion stems more from my wondering why on earth people would choose this topic of all things to be deliberately shirty and arsey and falsely self righteous about.

but feel free to try and prolong the bad atmosphere by telling me again just what an arsehole I am being, I can cope with that! (If not always cleaning up my own sick)

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