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Tricky situation, please help!

112 replies

manicattack · 15/02/2016 13:34

Ok where to start, My girlfriends best friend has put me in a bit of a bind, she decided she's ready to not only talk to girls on this plenty of fish site but she's been actually going out and meeting up.

At first i kinda thought its not my business but then i realised that my girlfriend also new all about this too and had obvioviously been keeping it a secret, well my girlfriend told me about this kiss her best friend had the other night with this group of other lesbians.

im devasted i actually get on better with my girlfriends bestfriends girlfriend and i totally adore the baby, but now i m not going to be able to sit with them knowing i could just get an attack of the guilt monster and just blurt it out it as it has happened before.

Mind you she's no angel, she has slept with men in the past, but i thought after they planned their baby and she was born they would all end up with their happy ending.

Im worried about when it does come out and she knows i knew and i never said anything, will she hate me too?, im not great at lying and if she asked me she'd no there was something wrong .

what do i do?

OP posts:
kardashianklone · 15/02/2016 14:13

Just sounds terribly immature.

Pipbin · 15/02/2016 14:13

You have a partner. She has a best friend who also has a partner.
The best friend is going to try online dating but has actually been going out being unfaithful to her partner.
You know this and you feel guilty not telling the partner.
Is that right?

What does being a carpenter have to do with it?

goddessofsmallthings · 15/02/2016 14:14

Duh! Earlier post should have been address to Thomas. Difficult to think with all the confusion going on.

LovelyFriend · 15/02/2016 14:14

OhShutUp if I worked for MI5 I would know who the Mummy was Grin

Pipbin · 15/02/2016 14:16

If the friend is being open enough in her plans to go online dating then surely this relationship is one the rocks anyway.
I would run away.

Original poster
manicattack · 15/02/2016 14:19

See it wasnt that confusing after all, so now you ve established my educational disadvantages what would ur advice been

OP posts:
Lonecatwithkitten · 15/02/2016 14:20

Advice - the messenger always gets shot in these situations. If you tell you will be wrong in some form.

Pipbin · 15/02/2016 14:23

If I correctly understood the situation then I personally would take a few steps back and not have anything to do with either of them for the short term until the relationship dies - which it will.

ILostItInTheEarlyNineties · 15/02/2016 14:27

Loving the idea of depicting the scene through the medium of wooden sculpture Grin

I think it's best to step away from the problem OP so as not to be caught in the cross fire. At the risk of sounding a bit nit picking, could you use 'know' instead of 'no' if you are discussing your knowledge of something?

Ginslinger · 15/02/2016 14:29

it's half-term isn't it?

TwatMagnet · 15/02/2016 14:37

It sure is half term and despite all the evidence it seems to have been half term for about five days already Hmm

blindsider · 15/02/2016 14:38

Crikey, having read the OP, my initial thought was that the tricky situation, was totally inability to construct a cogent sentence.

memyselfandaye · 15/02/2016 14:38

What y'all sayin now?

ForwardAll · 15/02/2016 14:42

OP, are you...Jesus Hmm
You should consult your father, he'll guide you.

IceBeing · 15/02/2016 14:44

awesome carpenter? chavvy streak?

Gazelda · 15/02/2016 14:48

I think the girlfriend is going to find out anyway. I'd keep out of it.

Goingtobeawesome · 15/02/2016 14:51

Decide who the most important person is in this set up and do the right thing by them.

It jars when words aren't spelt correctly so people will comment.

cleaty · 15/02/2016 14:54

Keep out of it. Say nothing. Pretend total ignorance. It will come out anyway without you telling them.

BitOutOfPractice · 15/02/2016 14:54

Why do you feel guilty?

Finola1step · 15/02/2016 14:57

Quick question... Who is the biological mother of the baby? And who is the main carer? Cheater or nice woman?

SmokingGun · 15/02/2016 15:00

Does your GF know about the cheating? I would stay out of it too tbh.

decisionsdecisions123 · 15/02/2016 15:01

Lovelyfriend, I also think you must work for MI5 or the likes. You are very clever indeed to have fathomed all that out.

My main concern is this - exactly how good are the Ops carpentry skills and can she prove it by adding a photo of her work for us all to admire?

Cornettoninja · 15/02/2016 15:06

Girls who are boys
Who like boys to be girls
Who do boys like they're girls
Who do girls like they're boys
Always should be someone you really love

TeaPleaseLouise · 15/02/2016 15:11

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BitchSlapBingBunny · 15/02/2016 15:18

Do not get involved. Make your excuses for now and leave them to it.

The messenger always gets shot. I learnt this years a go in a similar situation, the couple stayed together and 'worked out their problems' one turned a blind eye and the other continued to cheat while I was pushed out of a friendship group and my name tarnished as a nosey bitch.

Leave 'em to it and be ready to be a friend to the innocent party when the shit hits the fan.