to feel tricked and taken advantage of?

[OohMavis]

I'm a cakemaker. Valentines is a busy time of the year, but last week DH's brother asked me to make a cake for his girlfriend, so him being family, I fit him in last minute with a discount, price was agreed last week.

He came to pick it up today but instead of paying me, he's told me to ask DH for the money, because DH borrowed it from him and off he went with his cake.

I had no idea DH owed him money. It was for some tickets to a show they went to together which his brother bought on his card for convenience. DH just forgot about it.

AIBU to feel as though he's basically got a free cake out of me, and feel really bloody annoyed and tricked? I'm not going to be paid for the cake (our finances are completely joint, BIL knows this, it would be utterly pointless for DH to pay me). My time has been wasted. I turned down a paying order for him.

Just so angry!

"I would be mortified if my DH didn't pay his debts to his friends or family. At least the debt is now repaid."

I think the OP has the right to be a mature adult and decide that she is only responsible for her own debts and her own behaviour, not someone else's.

I have been thinking about this thread and it's good that this happened now because it might save you losing a lot more money and time in the future.......

I bet in another year or two, you will be asked to make a wedding cake, and this will not be paid for either afterwards and expected as a "gift". Get your excuses ready now, and don't let your sly BIL burn you for a lot more. I think it was worth £30 for the pre warning.

Good luck!

OP - had your Dh owed him it for a length of time? Or had he asked for it previously? It just seems such a calculated and sneeky thing to do for such a small debt.

I get what you mean.
A friend bought me something from a shop and I paid her even though her DH coincidentally owes me some money.
I understand!

Well if this was me, it wouldn't be about the money, but the sneaky way it was handled.

You'd be crazy to make a cake for your Bil again. Stock answer: No chance, I've been cheated before -not going to fall for the same trick twice.

Sorry if this has been said before, but got to page 10 and lost the will to live. My view is this:
Brother in law played on family relationship to negotiate a cheaper price for a cake, which was agreed by both sides.
Once made he refused to pay for it, telling Mavis to claim the money from her husband to clear an unpaid debt.

Mavis is not responsible for her husband's debts.

Brother in law does not appear to have reminded/asked his brother for the money owed. (brother should have paid it, and the £10 he still owes.)

Brother in law used Mavis's services without first apprising her, and receiving her agreement, that she would collect payment from her husband, to clear his debt of which she was unaware.

Therefore she has been tricked, and taken advantage of, and is justified in being angry. She has worked for nothing, little profit margin in reduced price, to clear her husband's debt, without prior agreement.
Neither brother comes out of this well.

I hope Mavis has an opportunity to ask the girlfriend, loudly, if she enjoyed the cake she made her for nothing.